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10 Guardian Mistakes That Could Put Your Kids at Risk (And How to Do It Right)

Imagine this: something unexpected happens, and you’re suddenly unable to care for your children. It’s a parent’s worst nightmare.  In this situation, you would want to know that your children will be loved, cared for, and raised according to the values you hold dear. But have you taken the proper legal steps to ensure that happens?

Many parents mistakenly believe that simply naming guardians in their will is enough to protect their children. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case.  There are common mistakes that can lead to legal battles, family conflicts, and even put your kids’ well-being at risk.  What if something happened to you tomorrow? Would your children end up in the care of strangers, even temporarily, because you didn’t have a plan in place for their immediate care?

Don’t let that happen. By working with our firm, you can avoid these pitfalls and create a rock-solid guardianship plan that provides true peace of mind, knowing that, no matter what, your children will always be raised by the people you love most.

The 10 Common Mistakes Parents Make When Choosing Guardians

1) Thinking a Will is Enough 

A will is essential, but it only takes effect after you’re gone. It doesn’t cover situations like sudden illness or incapacity. You need separate guardianship documents specifically designed to address these “what if” scenarios *while you’re still living*.

2) Planning Only for the Long-Term

If something were to happen to you today, who would take care of your kids *right now*?  Don’t just plan for the long haul – you also need to designate short-term guardians to prevent your children from being placed with strangers, even temporarily, while the authorities sort things out.

3) Not Naming a Guardian at All  

This may seem unthinkable, but it does happen. If you don’t formally name a guardian, you’re leaving one of the most important decisions of your life up to the courts. This could mean your children end up with someone you wouldn’t have chosen.

4) Overlooking Backup Guardians

Life is unpredictable. Your first-choice guardians may not always be available or able to step in when needed. Always name multiple backup guardians to ensure a safety net in case your primary choice is unable to serve.

5) Choosing Guardians Based on Financial Ability Alone

Money matters, but it shouldn’t be the *only* factor when choosing who will raise your children. Your children’s well-being depends on being raised in a loving and supportive environment that aligns with your values. Consider factors like location, lifestyle, parenting philosophies, and the overall compatibility of your chosen guardians with your family. 

And remember, you can always choose a separate financial guardian, or appoint a Trustee of a Trust, to specifically manage any money you leave behind for your children – this can be a separate role from their daily care.

6) Assuming Godparents are Legal Guardians  

Many people use the terms “godparent” and “legal guardian” interchangeably, but they aren’t the same.  Verbal agreements or informal designations hold no legal weight. To make your wishes legally binding, you need formal guardianship documents prepared by an experienced professional.

7) Not Thinking Beyond Guardianship 

Guardianship isn’t just about who will raise your kids – it’s also about who will make important financial and healthcare decisions on their behalf. You will need powers of attorney and other legal tools to ensure these matters are handled according to your wishes.

8) Failing to Communicate Your Wishes

Don’t leave anything to chance. Clearly document your values, parenting preferences, and any specific instructions you would like your guardians to follow. This guidance will provide invaluable support as they navigate the challenges of raising your children.

9) Not Reviewing and Updating Your Plan

Life is constantly evolving. Your family dynamics change, your children grow, and laws are updated. It is vital to review and update your guardianship plan regularly to ensure it still accurately reflects your current circumstances and wishes.

10) Naming a Couple Without a Contingency Plan 

Relationships evolve. Sadly, even the most solid couples can face unexpected challenges, such as divorce or separation.  It’s vital to think about what would happen to your children if your chosen guardians were to split up.  Would one person become the sole guardian? Would they share custody? Outlining these details now can prevent future conflict and heartache.

There’s a Better Way: Create a Kids Protection Plan

A Kids Protection Plan® provides comprehensive protection for your children, so you never make one of the ten mistakes and put your children at risk of being raised by someone you’d never want to raise them (or worse, ending up in the foster care system). Unlike a traditional estate plan that simply names guardians, a Kids Protection Plan creates a complete safety net that addresses both immediate and long-term care needs.

Every Kids Protection Plan I create with clients includes legal documents that ensure your children won’t be placed in the care of strangers or the foster care system, even temporarily. It provides detailed instructions for emergency responders and caregivers, identifies temporary guardians who can step in immediately, and includes medical powers of attorney. Hence, your children receive proper healthcare in your absence. Perhaps most importantly, it creates a roadmap of your values, hopes, and dreams for your children’s upbringing. With a Kids Protection Plan, you’re not just naming someone to take your place – you’re providing them with the guidance and legal authority they need to raise your children exactly as you would want.

Ready to Protect Your Kids?

Your children are your most precious asset. Don’t leave their future to chance or riddled with loopholes. With a Kids Protection Plan created by my firm, you can rest assured knowing that your children will always be in the most capable and loving hands, no matter what life throws your way.

Ready to take control and build that plan? Schedule a free 15-minute call with me today.  I’ll answer your questions, address your concerns, and help you take the first step toward securing your children’s future.

Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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Don’t Make This $700 Million Mistake: Include an Asset Inventory in Your Estate Plan

Imagine accidentally throwing away $700 million. While it sounds like the plot of a movie, this nightmare scenario has become a reality for James Howells, a computer engineer from Wales, who has now spent more than a decade fighting to recover a discarded hard drive containing the private key to his Bitcoin fortune.

Here’s what happened. In 2013, Howells mistakenly discarded a hard drive during an office cleanup. What he didn’t realize until it was too late was that this particular drive contained the only copy of his private key, which was needed to access 8,000 Bitcoin (BTC) that he had mined years earlier. When he realized his error months later, the cryptocurrency had already skyrocketed in value. Today, those 8,000 BTC would be worth approximately $700 million, and as much as $848,000 at the BTC all-time high thus far. Howells’ lost BTC will likely be worth over $1 billion at some point.

For over a decade, Howells has tried everything to recover his lost fortune – from begging local officials for permission to search the landfill to offering to share the recovered BTC with the city, taking his case to court, and even proposing to buy the entire landfill. Despite these efforts, the Newport City Council has consistently refused his requests, and British courts have ruled against him, stating there is “no realistic prospect of success.” As this article is published, Howell has said he will file a case with the European Convention on Human Rights.  

This cautionary tale highlights a crucial lesson for everyone who owns digital currency, and even those who do not: If you don’t know what you own, where it is, and how to find it, your assets could be lost when you die. And, especially if you have digital assets, losing what you have can be a catastrophic, unrecoverable loss. Digital assets are especially vulnerable to loss if they aren’t inventoried and included in your estate plan. 

The Modern Challenge of Asset Tracking

While most of us won’t lose hundreds of millions in cryptocurrency, many people face similar challenges on a smaller scale. Our assets (only part of which are financial) are increasingly scattered and less tangible in today’s digital world.

For instance, you may have:

  • Cryptocurrency in various digital wallets
  • Digital photos and personal archives stored across multiple cloud services 
  • Online financial accounts with different institutions
  • Insurance policies that are accessed through your employer’s online benefits platform
  • Frequent-flyer miles and reward points are worth thousands of dollars

How are you keeping track of these assets? Are you sure you know exactly what you have and where it is? Howells wasn’t. 

Now think about this: If Howells could lose an extremely valuable asset while he’s alive, how will your loved ones know where your assets are after you’re gone? Or, how will they even know what you have?  If you don’t know the answer, the ramifications can be considerable. 

The Real Consequences of Poor Asset Tracking 

Across the U.S., approximately $60 billion in known assets have been lost or forgotten about. Bank accounts, insurance policies, retirement funds, and other financial assets often become lost when people move, change their contact information, or simply forget about their accounts. And that doesn’t even count the billions or, one day, trillions of lost digital assets that aren’t yet being tracked as lost.

If you don’t have an up-to-date inventory of all your assets, here’s what’s likely to happen: 

  • Assets may be permanently lost or forgotten
  • Your loved ones may never even know these resources existed
  • Court processes like probate become longer and more expensive
  • Family conflict can arise when assets are discovered later
  • Digital assets may become inaccessible without proper password management
  • Sentimental items might be discarded or lost during transitions

While it’s possible that some of your assets could end up in a landfill, like Howells’ BTC hard drive, what’s more likely to happen is that they get turned over to the government. Each state has a Department of Unclaimed Property for this purpose. To recover the lost asset, which can be time-consuming and frustrating for you or your loved ones, you must go through a tedious and potentially unsuccessful process.  

I’ve seen families devastated not just by the financial impact of lost assets but by the emotional toll when meaningful items disappear or become inaccessible after a loved one’s passing. This occurs when a person lacks an estate plan, has an outdated estate plan, or a plan that consists solely of a set of legal documents. There is a better way. 

The Life & Legacy Planning Solution

The traditional approach to estate planning, which most people are familiar with, because they haven’t received proper education, involves drafting a will, a financial power of attorney, a healthcare power of attorney, and possibly a trust. Then, you “set it and forget it,” storing your documents in a drawer and never looking at them again. When “planning” is done this way, it often results in court, conflict, lost assets, and even irreparably broken relationships among those you love most.

But my proprietary Life & Legacy Planning process is entirely different. I go beyond mere document drafting and create not only legal documents, but all the other facets that need to be in place for your plan to work, including a comprehensive asset inventory as a foundational element. Here are just a few highlights of the Life & Legacy Planning process:

Personal Resource Map

From the outset, I help you create a detailed inventory of everything you own – from real estate and bank accounts to digital assets and family heirlooms. This comprehensive map ensures nothing is overlooked or forgotten. I believe this is so important that I will support you in doing this, whether you decide to work with me or not. 

Regular Reviews and Updates

Life changes, and so do your assets. My process includes regular reviews to ensure your inventory stays current as you acquire new assets or sell existing ones. 

Secure Documentation

I provide secure systems for documenting access information for your digital assets, ensuring your designated representatives can access what they need when the time comes.

Clear Communication Plan

I guide you in communicating with loved ones about what you have and where it’s located, without compromising security during your lifetime. I’ll also be there for your loved ones after you’re gone, so they know what to do.

Peace of Mind in a Complex World

James Howells’ story is extreme, but it serves as a potent reminder that in today’s complex world, knowing what you have and ensuring it is properly documented is more critical than ever. 

As your trusted attorney, I don’t just draft documents; I assist you in making informed and empowered decisions about life and death for yourself and the people you love. That’s why I offer a Life & Legacy Planning® Session, during which you will become more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love.

Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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Beyond the FDIC Safety Net: Protecting Your Cash When Your Savings Exceed Insurance Limits

Imagine this: You’ve spent decades carefully saving money, building a comfortable nest egg representing years of hard work and discipline. One morning, you’re sipping coffee and browsing the news when headlines about a bank failure catch your eye. Your stomach drops as you realize a significant portion of your savings could be at risk because you’ve got an account in cash that exceeds the FDIC insurance limits. 

This scenario isn’t just a theoretical worry—it’s a very real concern, as we have seen banks fail. The Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation (FDIC) serves as our financial safety net, offering protection of up to $250,000 per depositor, per insured bank, for each account ownership category. But what happens when your cash savings exceed that safety net? How do you ensure your entire financial legacy remains protected?

Understanding FDIC Insurance: Your Financial Safety Net

The FDIC was born from the ashes of the Great Depression when thousands of banks failed, and countless Americans lost their life savings. Today, it is one of the cornerstones of our banking system’s stability. Think of FDIC insurance as a financial life preserver—it’s not something you think about until you need it, but you’ll be immensely grateful it’s there when the waters get rough.

Here’s what to know: FDIC insurance isn’t just a blanket coverage of $250,000 per person. It’s more nuanced and more generous than many realize. The coverage extends to $250,000 per depositor per FDIC-insured bank for each account ownership category. These categories include single accounts, joint accounts, certain retirement accounts, and trust accounts.

Let me break this down with a practical example. Imagine Maria has the following accounts at First National Bank:

  • A personal checking account with $100,000
  • A joint savings account with her husband containing $300,000
  • An Individual Retirement Account (IRA) with $200,000

Is Maria fully protected? Let’s see: Her personal account falls under the single ownership category ($100,000, fully covered). The joint account with her husband receives up to $250,000 for each owner (Maria’s $150,000 share is fully covered). Her IRA falls under the retirement account category (her $200,000 is fully covered). Maria has $450,000 protected by FDIC insurance at this one bank.

Does this coverage arrangement make you think differently about how your accounts are structured? Have you considered how your current banking setup aligns with these protection categories?

When Your Savings Exceed FDIC Limits: Strategic Approaches

Many of us dream of having “too much money” for FDIC insurance to cover fully—it’s a good problem to have! But it’s still a problem that needs solving. When your financial reserves take you beyond the FDIC safety net, it’s time to get strategic about protecting those hard-earned dollars.

Think of managing large deposits like a farmer who doesn’t plant all their crops in a single field. If a storm hits one area, the entire harvest isn’t lost. Similarly, spreading your financial assets across multiple institutions creates resilience in your financial portfolio. Here are several approaches to consider:

Multiple Bank Strategy: Dividing Your Financial Pie

The most straightforward approach is to spread your funds across multiple FDIC-insured banks. Each bank will provide separate insurance coverage, effectively multiplying your protection. For example, if you have $750,000 in savings, you could place $250,000 in three different banks, ensuring complete FDIC coverage.

This strategy is a bit like not putting all your eggs in one basket—a time-tested approach to risk management that remains relevant in our digital banking age. The downside? Managing multiple accounts across different institutions requires more time and attention. You’ll need to track various account numbers and passwords and potentially deal with varying banking platforms. On top of that, if you have a revocable living trust, you want to ensure each account is tilted in the name of your trust and not in your name.

Utilizing Different Ownership Categories: Maximizing Protection at One Bank

Another approach involves strategically using different ownership categories within the same bank. A married couple, for instance, could have individual accounts ($250,000 coverage each) plus a joint account (another $500,000 in coverage, $250,000 for each person). Here’s what that could look like:

  • Husband’s individual account: $250,000
  • Wife’s individual account: $250,000
  • Their joint account: $500,000
  • Husband’s IRA: $250,000
  • Wife’s IRA: $250,000

That’s a total of $1.5 million protected at a single institution! This approach offers convenience but requires careful planning and clear documentation of ownership. If you have a revocable living trust, I must review your options with you here to ensure your accounts are correctly titled both for FDIC coverage and for your trust/estate planning purposes.

Certificate of Deposit (CD) Laddering: Timing Your Protection

CD laddering involves purchasing certificates of deposit with varying maturity dates. This provides a steady stream of maturing funds and can be structured across multiple banks to maximize FDIC coverage.

Imagine building a ladder where each rung represents a CD at a different bank. As each CD matures, you can decide whether to reinvest at the same bank or move funds elsewhere based on current interest rates and your coverage needs.

This approach is like planting different crops that harvest at different times of the year—you’re constantly collecting something, and no single weather event can wipe out your entire yield. If you go this route again, I want to ensure your CDs are properly titled in the name of your living trust.

Considering Credit Unions: An Alternative Safety Net

Credit unions offer an alternative to traditional banks with similar protection through the National Credit Union Administration (NCUA). The NCUA’s share insurance fund protects deposits up to $250,000, comparable to FDIC coverage.

For some, credit unions offer a more personal banking experience, competitive rates, and lower fees. They can be an excellent component of your deposit-spreading strategy.

As you consider these options, ask yourself: How is my current banking arrangement structured? Could I be vulnerable to losing uninsured deposits if my primary bank were to fail? How much complexity am I willing to manage to ensure maximum protection?

Looking Beyond Traditional Banking: Additional Options

Sometimes, thinking outside the traditional banking box can provide security and opportunity. Cash management accounts offered by brokerage firms often spread your deposits across multiple banks automatically, maximizing FDIC coverage without you having to manage multiple accounts directly.

For more significant sums, Treasury securities offer the backing of the full faith and credit of the US government and can be effective protection, so long as you believe the US won’t default on its loans. If you are concerned about the US debt crisis and whether the US will default on its loans, Treasury securities would not be a good option for you. 

Remember that protection is only one consideration. You’ll also want to consider accessibility, convenience, and how your deposits fit into your broader financial and estate planning goals. After all, what good is protection if it makes your financial life unwieldy or prevents you from using your money effectively?

Bringing It All Together: Creating Your Protection Plan

Protecting your financial legacy isn’t just about security today—it’s about ensuring that the fruits of your labor will benefit you and potentially your loved ones well into the future. Just as you wouldn’t build a house without a solid foundation, you shouldn’t build wealth without ensuring it stands on secure ground.

The first step is to assess your current deposit situation. Make a list of all your deposit accounts, their balances, and ownership structures. Then, assess how much of your money currently falls outside FDIC protection. This clarity will help determine how urgently you need to restructure your accounts.

Next, consider which of the strategies we’ve discussed best fits your personal situation. Do you value simplicity and would prefer the multiple-bank approach? Or perhaps you’d like to keep your banking relationships consolidated and maximize coverage through different ownership categories.

Implementing your chosen strategy doesn’t have to happen overnight. You can make changes gradually, perhaps as CDs mature or as you receive new funds to deposit.

Securing Your Financial Legacy for the Future

I don’t just draft documents; I help you ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death for yourself and the people you love. Understanding and addressing FDIC insurance limits is crucial to protecting your financial legacy. 

That’s why we start with a Life & Legacy Planning® Session, where together, we’ll explore how your assets fit into your broader financial picture and help you get more financially organized than you’ve ever been. Then, I’ll support you in creating a Life & Legacy Plan that ensures your hard-earned assets are positioned to support your loved ones well into the future. 

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn more. Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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Til Death Do Us Part? Why Unmarried Couples Must Have An Estate Plan That Works For the People They Love

Love in the 21st century takes many forms, and for many couples, “forever” doesn’t always include a marriage license. While a deeply personal choice, being unmarried adds layers of legal and financial complexity that can’t be ignored, especially when protecting your assets and loved ones.

Imagine this: you’ve built a life with your partner, maybe even bought a home and had children together. You share bills, dreams, and a future. But without the legal protections of marriage, what happens when one of you passes away? And what happens if one of you becomes incapacitated first?

Some of the questions you should be asking:

Who makes medical decisions for you or your partner? Without marriage or legal protections, you likely won’t be the person you want. 

Who inherits what? Again, it will not likely go how you want without marriage or legal documents.

How would your children be provided for? It all depends on who the biological parents are and the line of “blood” relationship unless you’ve got an estate plan in place to ensure your children are cared for by the people you want, not who the law would choose.

How can you avoid a court process and potential conflict during an already emotional time?

The Legal Reality for Unmarried Couples

Unlike married couples, who automatically receive certain legal protections, unmarried couples must take deliberate steps to ensure their wishes are honored. In the eyes of the law, unmarried partners are essentially legal strangers, regardless of how long they’ve been together or how intertwined their lives may be.

This legal disconnect becomes starkly apparent in moments of crisis. If you’re hospitalized, your partner may be denied visitation rights or the ability to make medical decisions on your behalf. If you pass away without proper planning, your partner could be left with nothing – not even the home you’ve shared for decades.

According to a recent survey by Caring.com, only 24% of Americans have a will. This omission leaves millions of Americans vulnerable to painful legal and financial complications that can compound grief with unnecessary hardship. And it’s completely avoidable.

The Unmarried Couple’s Estate Planning Checklist

Here’s a closer look at some key areas where unmarried couples need to be especially proactive in their estate planning:

✔ Home Sweet Home, But Whose Name is on the Deed?

Many unmarried couples purchase a home together. However, the surviving partner might face significant challenges without a will or living trust that clearly outlines ownership and inheritance wishes. Here’s why:

Intestacy Laws: If you die without a will, your state’s intestacy laws dictate who inherits your property. These laws typically favor spouses and blood relatives, meaning your unmarried partner will be left with limited or no rights to the home you shared.

Tax Implications: Inheritance laws for married couples often come with tax benefits that unmarried couples don’t receive. The surviving partner could face a hefty estate tax bill, potentially forcing them to sell the home to cover the costs.

Title Matters: How you title your property significantly impacts what happens after death. Joint tenancy with rights of survivorship offers some protection, but this approach doesn’t address other estate planning concerns and may have unintended tax consequences.

✔ Providing for Your Children

Having children together adds another layer of complexity for unmarried couples. Here’s how a lack of proper estate planning can create significant hardship:

Guardianship Concerns: If one parent passes away, the surviving parent might not automatically have legal guardianship rights (especially if that person isn’t the biological parent, as is often the case with same-sex couples). In extreme cases, this could lead to legal battles with other family members or even state intervention.

Inheritance Complications: Without a will or trust, your children might not automatically inherit your assets as intended. Again, intestacy laws could mean your assets are divided in ways you wouldn’t have chosen, potentially leaving your children with inadequate financial support.

Blended Family Challenges: If either partner has children from previous relationships, the potential for conflict multiplies. Without clear documentation, children from previous relationships may find themselves at odds with the surviving partner, creating painful family rifts during an already difficult time.

✔ Beyond the Home: Protecting All Your Assets & Minimizing Taxes

Unmarried couples often accumulate significant assets—bank accounts, investments, retirement funds, etc. Without a plan:

Ownership Disputes Can Arise: If it’s unclear who owns what, it can lead to legal battles between surviving partners and family members of the deceased.

Unnecessary Tax Burdens: Unmarried couples often miss out on tax advantages available to married couples, potentially leading to a larger tax bill for the surviving partner.

Retirement Account Complications: Retirement accounts like 401(k)s and IRAs require specific beneficiary designations. Without these, your partner may have no claim to these assets, regardless of your intentions. 

✔ Healthcare Decisions and End-of-Life Care

Perhaps the most immediate concern for unmarried couples is handling medical emergencies and end-of-life decisions:

Medical Decision-Making: Without healthcare directives, your partner may have no legal right to make medical decisions if you become incapacitated.

Hospital Visitation Rights: In some healthcare facilities, only family members can visit intensive care patients. Without proper documentation, your partner could be denied access during critical moments.

Funeral and Burial Decisions: Legal next of kin typically make funeral arrangements. Without documentation stating your wishes, your partner may have no say in how your remains are handled, even if you’ve discussed your preferences extensively.

✔ Digital Assets and Modern Considerations

In our increasingly digital world, estate planning must also address digital assets:

Access to Online Accounts: Your estate plan must specifically address digital assets, from social media to cryptocurrency, to ensure your partner can access them.

Business Interests: If you own a business, clear succession planning is essential to prevent disruption and protect your partner’s financial interests.

Pets: While many consider pets family members, the law views them as property. Specific provisions must be made to ensure your beloved pets receive proper care.

Don’t Leave Your Future to Chance 

Estate planning isn’t just for the wealthy or the elderly – anyone who wants to protect the people and assets they cherish most. Creating a legally sound estate plan for unmarried couples is not just a good idea – it’s essential. But a traditional estate plan, DIY plan, or cheap legal plan isn’t sufficient. Instead, you need a Life & Legacy Plan.

I can help you create a tailored estate plan for your life and legacy.  I’ll guide you to understand all the complexities and design a personalized plan that makes it all as simple as possible so that when one of you becomes incapacitated or dies, the survivor will have all the support they need without any of the mess. This includes:

Clearly Addressing Ownership of All Assets and Avoiding Probate: I’ll work with you to determine the best way to handle the transfer of all jointly and separately owned assets—including your home, bank accounts, investments, retirement accounts, and personal property—in a way that minimizes tax burdens, avoids probate court, and ensures a smooth and seamless transition for your surviving partner. This means your loved ones can focus on healing and honoring your memory, not battling legal complexities.

Establishing Guardianship and Financial Provisions for Children: If you have children together or separately, I will work with you to legally designate guardians, establish trusts if needed, and ensure your children’s financial well-being is protected. If you have children from previous relationships, I will take extra care to minimize or eliminate potential conflicts between your children and your surviving partner, ensuring a smoother transition and honoring your wishes.

Planning for the Incapacity of Either Partner: I’ll establish powers of attorney and healthcare directives so your partner can seamlessly manage your affairs and make medical decisions if you cannot do so yourself.

Your Next Steps for Peace of Mind

Don’t wait until it’s too late – take proactive steps today to protect the ones you love. Schedule a consultation with me to get started. Together, we can build a plan that provides clarity, security, and peace of mind for you and your family, no matter what the future holds.

Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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The Unexpected Challenges of Being an Estate Executor

When someone asks you to be the executor of their estate, it might seem like a straightforward responsibility – distribute assets according to their will and handle some paperwork. However, as many executors discover, the role involves more complexity, time, and emotional labor than expected. Understanding these challenges can help you better prepare, whether creating your estate plan or considering serving as an estate executor. 

But first, a note about terminology. If someone creates a will, the term used for the person who handles the estate is “executor.” If someone creates a trust, the person who handles the estate is called a “trustee.” When someone becomes incapacitated, the person who handles financial matters holds power of attorney. The jobs are similar but not identical. In this article, we’ll focus on the role of an executor, who carries out the wishes of someone who died under the terms of their will. However, if you’d like more information about what a trustee does, book a call with me using the link below.

Let’s get to it.

The Unexpected Financial Burden

One of the most unexpected aspects of being an executor is the immediate financial responsibility. When a person dies, their assets are temporarily frozen until a court grants legal authority to an executor to step into the shoes of the decedent (the person who died) and gather all the assets for distribution to the heirs of the decedent, which could take weeks, months or even years. Unless you plan and create a Life & Legacy Plan designed to keep your assets out of court, you’re leaving your executor with quite a burdensome responsibility. 

Moreover, funeral homes and other service providers don’t wait for the court process. Most funeral homes require payment within days, ranging from $10,000 to $25,000 or more. While these costs can eventually be reimbursed from the estate (if funds are available), the executor must pay them personally and wait months for reimbursement. This situation can create significant stress, especially if the executor doesn’t have readily available funds.

Beyond funeral expenses, executors often need to pay ongoing bills for the deceased’s home, such as property taxes, utility bills, insurance premiums, and maintenance costs. These expenses must continue even though the estate’s assets are frozen. Again, these expenses must be paid out-of-pocket until the executor gains legal access to the deceased person’s accounts. Some executors report spending thousands of dollars of their own money during this interim period, creating financial strain at an already difficult time.

Finally, depending on who drafted your will (did you do it on your own, have a lawyer well-versed in estate planning, or perhaps a lawyer who just dabbles in wills and trusts?), your executor could be required to come up with the money to pay a bond, which is like an insurance policy that can be thousands of dollars out of pocket, before they can be appointed by the court to serve.

Drowning in Documentation 

The paperwork involved in serving as an executor can be overwhelming. Executors must track down and organize all financial accounts, including bank accounts, investment accounts, retirement funds, and insurance policies. They must obtain multiple copies of death certificates, file court documents to initiate probate, submit final tax returns, close utility accounts, notify creditors, and process insurance claims. Sometimes, financial institutions ask for additional documentation, like a medallion signature – used to prove a person’s identity – which can take extra time and headache. The process often requires numerous phone calls, visits to financial institutions, and hours of organizing documents. Many executors report handling these tasks for hundreds of hours over months or even years. 

Worse, some accounts may never be found. If you haven’t organized your finances so that your executor knows exactly what you have and where to find it, chances are the asset will be lost. When an asset is lost and never claimed, it must be turned over to the State’s Department of Unclaimed Property until (or if) someone finds it and can prove that the deceased was the rightful owner. Think about that for a minute. Would you want your hard-earned money turned over to the government or go to the people you want in the way you want? If it’s the latter, you need to create a Life & Legacy Plan. Keep reading to find out how.

Navigating the Family Dynamics

While the technical aspects of being an executor are challenging, the emotional and interpersonal dynamics can be even more difficult to navigate. Executors often find themselves in the uncomfortable position of enforcing the deceased’s wishes even when family members disagree. They must maintain impartiality while managing their own and others’ grief. This combination of emotional strain and family expectations can make the role particularly challenging and lead to family conflict. Sadly, that conflict can result in a protracted, expensive court battle and irretrievably broken relationships. 

What You Can Do Now to Support Your Executor’s Success

When you create a Life & Legacy Plan with me, we will make your executor’s job much more manageable. For instance, I’ll help you create a comprehensive inventory of your assets, including account numbers and passwords, which can save countless hours of detective work. I’ll also help you update the inventory over time so it’s current when your executor needs it. I’ll also help you set aside funds to cover expenses so your executor doesn’t have to pay out of pocket. And we will consider whether to use a trust and name your executor as trustee of the trust so they don’t have to engage with the court at all.

We’ll also conduct a Life & Legacy Interview so family members know your wishes. This can go a long way towards preventing future conflicts. Most importantly, I will counsel you to choose the very best person for the job. Many people default to their oldest child or closest relative but haven’t considered whether they have the time, organizational skills, and emotional capacity to handle this complex role. Understanding exactly what’s involved means you can decide with full knowledge.

How I Help Make the Process Easier

I help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that makes your executor’s job as straightforward as possible. After you’re gone, I will guide your executor through the probate process, handle complex legal paperwork, mediate family disputes, ensure compliance with all legal requirements, and provide objective advice during emotional decisions. That’s the value of a Life & Legacy Plan – and why it’s the best gift you can give your loved ones. 

Take the first step toward protecting your family and supporting your future executor. Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation. Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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Missing Assets: Why Estate Planning is More Than Just Documents

Did you know your assets could become “unclaimed property” and be turned over to the government? It happens more than you think! State governments across America currently hold a staggering $60 billion in forgotten and abandoned assets. And this isn’t just spare change we’re talking about. These are life insurance policies, forgotten bank accounts, uncashed checks, retirement funds, and other valuable assets that have lost their connection to their rightful owners.

I regularly see the consequences of overlooked assets and inadequate estate planning. Let’s explore how assets are lost and become “unclaimed,” how to prevent your assets from ending up in this $60 billion pool, and, most importantly, how to ensure your hard-earned assets reach your loved ones the way you want.

How Assets Become “Lost”

You might wonder how billions of dollars in assets could go missing. The truth is, it happens more easily than you’d think. Think about this: you become incapacitated or die, and someone in your family (either someone you named legally or someone chosen by a judge) has the job of finding all of your assets. Would they be able to find everything? How easy would it be for you to find everything, and you know what you earned, the accounts you set up, when you worked for that one company that set up a retirement account for you, got that insurance policy, etc. 

 What we see commonly when someone passes away without an updated estate plan (including a comprehensive asset inventory), is that their loved ones often have no idea what assets exist or where to find them. Those assets could eventually end up in state custody instead of going to the people you love. That money could be used to fund your children’s education, an investment in a loved one’s business, or to enhance the lives of the people you love most.

“Traditional” or “old school” estate planning often contributes to the problem. With an estate plan drafted by a financial advisor or lawyer who sells a will or trust rather than a comprehensive plan (or from a DIY tool like cheap legal or AI), you typically receive a set of documents to review and sign. You might take these documents home, put them on a shelf or in a drawer, and never look at them again. There’s usually no inventory of your assets, which means that some of your assets could be lost or overlooked and end up part of that $60 billion in unclaimed property. 

Why an Asset Inventory and Regular Review is Crucial

I know that effective estate planning isn’t a one-time event – it’s a lifelong process that includes an inventory of what you have, regular updates to your inventory, and the legal documents that go along with it. My process begins with a Life & Legacy Planning® Session, where you’ll create an inventory of your assets, ensuring nothing gets overlooked or forgotten. This inventory includes not just the obvious assets like your home and bank accounts but also:

  • Life insurance policies
  • Retirement accounts from all previous employers
  • Investment accounts
  • Business interests
  • Valuable personal property
  • Intellectual property rights
  • Digital assets and cryptocurrency

Digital assets present a particular challenge in today’s world. Cryptocurrency, online banking accounts, social media profiles, and digital business assets can be especially difficult for loved ones to track down and access without proper planning. Many people don’t realize that without proper documentation and access instructions, their digital assets could become effectively lost forever, even if their family and friends know they exist.

I’ll also help you keep your inventory updated when you work with me. I regularly review your Life & Legacy Plan to ensure your asset inventory stays current and properly aligns with your goals, wishes, and values. This comprehensive approach helps prevent your assets from becoming lost so they can go to the people you want in the way you want.

Beyond the Financial Impact

While creating an asset inventory is crucial, my Life & Legacy Planning process goes several steps further. It’s not enough to simply list what you own – you need to ensure these assets are properly titled, beneficiary designations are up to date, and your loved ones know how to access everything when the time comes. I support you with it all. I will also be there for your loved ones when you no longer can.

In addition, there’s another crucial part of planning that’s often omitted from traditional or DIY planning. It’s the realization that the value of many assets isn’t financial. Family photographs stored in the cloud, emails containing important family history, and digital collections of music or art can have tremendous sentimental value. Yet without proper planning, these too can become effectively “unclaimed property” – inaccessible to the very people meant to inherit them. When these invaluable family legacies are lost, they become another kind of unclaimed property, though their value can’t be measured in dollars.

Remember, proper estate planning isn’t just about having the correct documents – it’s about taking all the steps needed to make things as easy as possible for your loved ones. It’s the greatest act of love you can give to the people you cherish most.

Your Next Step

I can help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that includes a complete asset inventory, regular reviews, and updates to ensure nothing gets lost or forgotten. I’ll also help you create a Life & Legacy Interview so your most valuable assets – your values, traditions, and love – get passed on to the people you love most. Let’s work together to protect your legacy.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation and learn more about how I can help.

Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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Utilizing Estate Planning For FAFSA Eligibility

Understanding how financial aid and estate planning intersect can make a significant difference when preparing for college expenses. This article will explain how asset ownership influences aid eligibility, offer actionable strategies to increase the chances of receiving aid and highlight estate planning tools that can protect your wealth while optimizing support for your child’s education.

FAFSA and Asset Ownership: The Basics

The FAFSA, or Free Application for Federal Student Aid, evaluates a student’s financial need based on several factors, including family income and assets. However, not all assets are created equal in the eyes of FAFSA. How those assets are owned—by the parent, the student, or even a third party—can significantly impact financial aid eligibility.

Here’s the key: FAFSA assesses up to 5.64% of parent-owned assets when calculating the Expected Family Contribution (EFC). For student-owned assets, though, that number jumps to a whopping 20%. So, keeping assets out of your student’s name increases their chances of receiving financial aid. 

In other words, parent-owned assets are less punitive than student-owned ones. Consider assets like your savings account, investments, or a 529 college savings plan. If you, the parent, own the asset, only 5.64% of its value is considered in the EFC calculation. 

But if your child owns assets outright—like in a UGMA or UTMA custodial account— those accounts will be subject to a 20% assessment. For example, if your child has $10,000 in one of these accounts, FAFSA will expect $2,000 to go toward college costs. Ouch.

What can you do? You can’t legally change UGMA/UTMA account ownership because they belong to the child. However, consider using a 529 plan or a parent’s investment account instead for future savings. 

Estate Planning Meets FAFSA

Here’s where estate planning comes into play. By structuring your assets wisely, you can minimize their impact on financial aid. Let’s explore a few strategies:

1. Irrevocable Trusts

An irrevocable trust can be a powerful tool in estate planning and remove assets from a person’s estate for tax purposes. However, irrevocable trusts are counted for FAFSA purposes if the student or parent is a beneficiary of an irrevocable trust. Note that the entire value of the trust should not be reported, but the beneficiary’s proportional share must be reported. In addition,  if the trust distributes income to the student, that income will be assessed at up to 50%. So, use irrevocable trusts with caution.

2. Retirement Accounts: Hidden Gems

Good news: FAFSA does not count assets in qualified retirement accounts like 401(k)s, IRAs, and Roth IRAs. This makes retirement savings a double win—you’re preparing for your future in a tax-advantaged manner and protecting your child’s financial aid eligibility.

Pro tip: If you have extra savings that would otherwise count on FAFSA, consider contributing to your retirement account. It’s a FAFSA-friendly way to reduce your countable assets.

3. Pay Down Debt

Another savvy move is using liquid assets to pay down debt, such as mortgages or student loans. Since FAFSA doesn’t count your home’s equity or the balance of your debts, this strategy can reduce your reportable assets without hurting your financial position.

4. Timing Is Everything

FAFSA looks at your financial situation as of the day you file the form. That means you can time certain financial moves to optimize your aid eligibility. For instance, if you plan to sell an investment or receive a large bonus, try to do so after filing FAFSA to avoid inflating your assets or income for that year.

Practical Steps to Take Now

So, what can you do right now to prepare? Here are some actionable steps:

Review Your Assets: List all your family’s assets, including who owns them. Pay special attention to student-owned accounts and assets held in trusts.

Shift Savings to FAFSA-Friendly Accounts: If you’re saving for college, prioritize 529 plans owned by you, the parent. Avoid putting large sums into custodial accounts.

Create a Life & Legacy Plan: Work with me to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that may include irrevocable trusts or other strategies to protect your assets and your financial aid eligibility.

Max Out Retirement Contributions: If possible, contribute to your 401(k) or IRA to reduce your countable assets while securing your financial future.

Plan Ahead for Income Events: Be mindful of how bonuses, stock sales, or other income events could affect your FAFSA profile. If possible, defer these until after filing.

The Big Picture

Balancing estate planning and FAFSA eligibility can feel like walking a tightrope. On one hand, you want to preserve your family’s wealth and secure your child’s future. Conversely, you don’t want to leave money on the table regarding financial aid.

Understanding how asset ownership works and taking strategic steps can position your family for success. Whether it’s shifting assets, leveraging trusts, or timing your financial moves, a little planning can go a long way. And when that acceptance letter arrives—along with a generous financial aid package—you’ll be glad you took the time to get it right.

How We Help

We can help you create a comprehensive strategy that optimizes education funding and wealth preservation goals. We’ll work with you to structure your assets effectively and ensure your plan adapts as the law, your assets, or your family dynamics change. Our approach focuses on creating clarity and consistency across all aspects of your financial planning, from education funding to legacy preservation.

Book a call to learn how we can help you create the right plan for your family. Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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Our Top 10 Most Common Estate Planning Questions: Part 2

When planning for your family’s future, the options can feel overwhelming. Should you get a will? Create a trust? And what happens if you do nothing at all? These aren’t just academic questions – your choices today will impact your loved ones tomorrow. In this second installment of a two-part Q & A series, I’ll break down the key differences between your primary estate planning options and explore practical ways to ensure your family is protected, no matter what the future holds. So, let’s dive in, beginning with a question about the basic estate planning documents.

Q: What is the difference between a will, living trust, and dying intestate? And what does that mean, practically speaking?

A: If you die without an estate plan, you do have a plan – it’s just the plan chosen for you by the state, and you may not like it. Your loved ones probably won’t like it because it means they’ll likely need to deal with a court process called “probate.” When you die without a will, it’s called dying “ intestate,” and it means that your assets are distributed according to state law after a process in which a judge decides who gets what. This could mean your assets would not go to the people you choose in the way you choose, and your family could face a lengthy, expensive, and public court process during an already difficult time.

A will is your basic instruction manual for what happens to your assets after you die, but it still requires your family to go through the probate process. While a will allows you to name guardians for your minor children and specify who gets what, your “executor” or “personal representative” must file the will with the court and potentially wait months or even years before receiving your assets. Plus, everything becomes public record – so anyone can look up what you owned and who got what, leaving the inheritors open to predators. 

If you create a trust, your assets can be passed to the people you choose without a court process and completely privately. Think of a trust as a container that holds your assets during your lifetime. Then, upon your incapacity or death, a successor trustee you’ve named can step in to handle your assets, manage your affairs, and pass your assets to your chosen beneficiaries. With a properly funded trust, your beneficiaries could receive their inheritance within weeks or months instead of months or years. 

Q: Is probate always required when someone dies?

A: The necessity of probate depends largely on how your assets are titled when you die and the total value of assets in your personal name at the time of your death. Assets solely in your name with no beneficiary designation must go through probate, and a Judge must order the distribution. Some exceptions: jointly owned property automatically passes to the surviving owner, assets with named beneficiaries (like life insurance policies and retirement accounts) go directly to those beneficiaries, and assets held in a properly funded living trust transfer according to the trust’s instructions, without court involvement. 

These issues can be complicated and have a huge impact on your loved ones, so it’s important to work with a trusted advisor who can help you understand your goals, and then properly structure your assets to accomplish your goals, especially if you want to keep your family out of court and out of conflict. Keep reading to find out how I can help.

Q: What if I’m uncomfortable talking about death and money?

A: While it’s completely natural to want to avoid thinking about death and avoid talking about money, not planning for the reality of death or a possible incapacity before death can leave your loved ones with an expensive, time-consuming mess to clean up during what will already be an emotionally difficult time. Here’s what you absolutely must know: First, if you become incapacitated or die without a plan, the court will make all the decisions about your care and your assets according to state law, not according to what you would have chosen. 

Second, if you have minor children and no estate plan, the court will decide who raises your children and who takes care of the assets you leave behind without your input. Think about that for a moment. A judge is a stranger to you and your kids, yet that’s who will decide your children’s future – who makes decisions about their education, health matters, and financial affairs. And, then, whatever you leave behind and whatever is left after the court process goes to your children when they turn 18 without protection (i.e., they’ll be free to spend it all as quickly as they want). If that concerns you, you need a plan of your own.

Third, your family will likely have to spend significantly more time and money dealing with your affairs if you don’t have a plan than if you had taken the time to create one. The good news is that making a plan doesn’t have to be overwhelming or uncomfortable—working with a trusted advisor who can guide you through the process step by step can bring you peace of mind, knowing you’ve taken care of the people you love. 

Q: How can you minimize your family’s stress by handling these matters the simplest way possible?

A: The best way to minimize stress for your family is to create a clear, comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan before anything happens to you. Many people think creating an estate plan will be stressful, but lack of planning causes the most stress for families. 

I make the process simple:

First, I help you understand what you own and what would happen to everything you own and everyone you love (including yourself) when something happens to you. Then, I support you to make informed, empowered choices about who should receive your assets, who should carry out your wishes, and how you want it all handled. Finally, I help ensure your plan will work when your family needs it by supporting you to review your plan regularly as your life changes and ensuring we maintain an updated inventory of your assets to ensure none of your assets are lost to the state due to oversight after your death.

Beyond creating the right legal documents, I’ll support you in other ways to make things easier for your loved ones. I’ll help you document specific wishes for personal items with sentimental value and have conversations with your loved ones about your choices so there are no surprises later. We’ll conduct a Life & Legacy Interview so you can pass on your values, insights, and stories – the intangible (and most important) assets that are often lost when someone dies. Most importantly, I will be there for your family when you can’t be there, to guide them through the process and ensure your wishes are carried out properly. This is the power of our Life & Legacy Planning® process.

How We Help You Create Peace of Mind

We understand that thinking about death and money can feel overwhelming. We’ve created a simple, step-by-step process to help you get your affairs in order and protect your family. Our Life & Legacy Planning process goes beyond just creating legal documents – we help you make informed decisions about your family’s future, keep your plan updated as your life changes, and ensure your wishes will be carried out properly when the time comes. Most importantly, we’ll be there for your family when you can’t be, providing the guidance and support they’ll need during a difficult time. You’ll gain peace of mind knowing you’ve done everything possible to make things easier for the people you love.

Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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Lessons from Tony Bennett’s Estate Battle

When legendary singer Tony Bennett passed away in July 2023, he left behind an estimated $100 million estate and, unfortunately, a family divide threatening to tarnish his legacy. His daughters Antonia and Johanna Bennett are now suing their brother, Danny, who serves as trustee of their father’s estate, alleging a lack of transparency and potential mismanagement of assets. Let’s explore what went wrong and how you can protect your family from the same fate.

Background

A complex legal battle is unfolding in the New York Supreme Court. Tony Bennett’s daughters Johanna and Antonia have filed suit against their brother Danny, who serves as trustee of their father’s estate. The lawsuit raises alarming questions about the management of Bennett’s assets. While the legendary singer earned over $100 million from live performances in his final 15 years, his daughters were told the estate was valued at less than $7 million.

The dispute centers around Danny’s role as both trustee and former manager. In July 2022, Danny orchestrated the sale of Bennett’s memorabilia, personal property, and name and likeness rights to Iconoclast, a company specializing in legacy works. The daughters allege they were in the dark about which assets were included in this deal and have received only “a modest distribution.” They also claim Danny received $1.2 million in loans from their father in 2020 and lifetime gifts totaling $4.2 million – more than double what Bennett’s other children received.

Making matters worse, when Johanna and Antonia were finally allowed to visit their father’s apartment in 2024, they discovered many of his personal belongings were either missing or declared off-limits due to the Iconoclast sale. They learned that most of their father’s clothing had been donated to charity without their knowledge, despite these items being specifically bequeathed to Bennett’s children in the trust. An auction of Bennett’s belongings was held in April 2024, but his daughters allege they were largely “kept in the dark” about the details and had to rush to identify which items they wanted to keep.

Court filings also state that the trust was established in 1994, but we don’t know if it was ever reviewed and updated. We also cannot know if Mr. Bennett was ever advised about the potential disputes that could arise from naming one of his children as his sole trustee and administrator of the estate.

Why Family May Not Be the Best Choice

Like Mr. Bennett, many people select family members to administer their estate after they die. They trust family members and assume they’ll do the right thing. Or they haven’t been properly advised about the potential consequences of naming a family member as the estate administrator. However, as the Bennett lawsuit teaches, family members aren’t always the right people for the job. Here are several common issues that arise when family members serve as trustees:

Power Imbalance: Having one sibling control their siblings’ inheritance creates an uncomfortable dynamic and breeds distrust. 

Dual Roles: Danny’s position as trustee and former manager created a potential conflict of interest. Questions about decisions and motivations often arise when personal and professional roles overlap.

Transparency Issues: The significant discrepancy between known earnings and reported estate value raises red flags about financial transparency – a crucial element of trust administration.

Emotional Complications: Family relationships can cloud judgment and make it difficult to maintain the objectivity required of a trustee.

If you’re concerned about family conflict after you die, consult with a trusted advisor who can educate you about the potential ramifications of your decision and guide you to choose the right person—whether a family member or not. My priority is helping you make the process as easy on your loved ones and giving you peace of mind that you’ve done everything possible to keep your family out of court and conflict.

How to Prevent a Similar Conflict in Your Family

The primary way to prevent conflict in your family after your incapacity or death is to start courageous conversations with your family now. Conflict occurs when people are surprised about choices made by a loved one that are only revealed after it’s too late to gain understanding. Deep grief combined with surprise is a volatile combination. Communicating often and early is the best way to save your loved ones from this fate. If you’ve created your plan with my office and desire me to host a family meeting, reach out, and let’s schedule it. If you have not yet created your plan, let’s start there.

If you do not believe you can get your loved ones on the same page, I sometimes recommend choosing a non-family member or professional as your Successor Trustee. For instance, a professional or corporate trustee can provide the objective oversight needed to maintain family harmony while ensuring proper estate administration. This might have been a better choice for the Bennett family.

However, if you strongly prefer having a family member serve as trustee, you can implement additional safeguards with an effective estate plan. An effective plan may include adding co-trustees or creating independent oversight mechanisms to help ensure transparency and accountability. It might mean appointing a professional advisor to review major decisions or requiring regular external audits of estate administration. 

Finally, make sure your chosen trustee has access to proper professional support. Managing an estate requires complex legal and financial knowledge that most family members don’t possess. That’s why my Life & Legacy Planning process has built-in mechanisms to ensure your chosen representatives will always have help from me when needed. However, ongoing support for your family is rarely a part of a typical estate plan.

Essential Elements of an Effective Estate Plan

Creating an estate plan that truly protects your family requires careful consideration. It requires guidance on how to pick the right representative for you and your loved ones. It requires proper documentation of assets, including detailed records of everything from real estate to intellectual property rights. It requires clear distribution guidelines. It also involves transparency to help maintain family trust and prevent disputes from arising.

However, if you create a DIY plan, use a cheap online service, use a financial advisor who offers estate planning services, or work with a traditional estate planning attorney, these elements will likely not be in your plan. Instead, you need a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that will work when you need it to. 

When you work with me to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan, I will help you:

  • Choose the right trustee for your situation;
  • Create systems for transparent asset management;
  • Establish clear communication protocols;
  • Protect family relationships from conflicts;
  • Document your wishes on video or an audio file so your family understands precisely what you want;
  • If you have minor children, gain peace of mind knowing that they will never be taken into the care of strangers if something happens to you, and
  • Review and update your plan regularly to account for family dynamics, assets, and life circumstances changes. 

We cannot know whether Mr. Bennett was advised of the potential consequences of naming his son to serve as trustee or whether he was given proper guidance on what he could have done to keep his family out of court and in conflict. But when you work with me to create a Life & Legacy Plan, I’ll support you in creating a plan that leaves a legacy of love and peace, not discord and strife.

How We Help You Create a Plan That Works

We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that protects your assets and preserves family harmony. We’ll help you address potential conflicts before they arise, ensure your wishes are clearly documented, create a framework for managing your assets even if you become incapacitated, and be there for your chosen representatives when you cannot be. We’ll also review your plan with you regularly so your plan works when you and your family need it to.

Don’t leave your family’s future to chance – schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation. Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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How To Create a Lasting Family Legacy This Holiday Season

The holidays, a time for family, reflection, and gratitude, present a unique opportunity to build a meaningful and lasting family legacy. While financial inheritance is important, the value you pass down extends far beyond money—your values, insights, stories, and experiences. These intangible treasures shape the essence of your family’s identity and can serve as a guiding light for generations to come.

Unfortunately, many families leave this legacy-building process to chance. However, intentionally capturing and preserving these meaningful aspects requires more effort and focus. As part of our unique planning process, we help families solidify their legacy through a recorded Family Legacy Interview—a priceless gift for their loved ones.

This holiday season, we invite you to embrace the joy of storytelling by asking meaningful questions and recording the answers. This process can deepen family connections, uncover hidden wisdom, and create a legacy that your children and grandchildren will eagerly cherish for years to come.

Start a Family Tradition of Reflection

The best way to preserve your family legacy is to start with meaningful conversations. These discussions allow family members to reflect on their lives, share insights, and recount stories that might otherwise remain untold. We’ve found that asking the right questions is a powerful way to unlock memories and reveal the values that have shaped your loved ones.

To help you get started, we’ve compiled 32 meaningful questions that can serve as a guide during your holiday gatherings. Whether sitting around the dining table, gathered by the fireplace, or enjoying a quiet one-on-one moment, these questions can inspire deep and heartfelt conversations.

Here are some examples to spark meaningful conversations and preserve your family history:

  1. What comes to mind when you think about growing up in your hometown?
  2. What did you love to do as a kid before high school?
  3. What did you love to do in high school?
  4. What do you remember most about your teenage years?
  5. What do you remember most about your mom (grandma)?
  6. What was most important to her?
  7. What do you remember most about your dad (grandpa)?
  8. What was most important to him?
  9. If Grandma and Grandpa had a message to pass along to the grandchildren, what would it be?
  10. How did you meet your spouse? How did you know (s)he was the one?
  11. How did you choose your career? What was your favorite part about it?
  12. What made you successful?
  13. What did you believe about yourself that helped you become successful and deal with hard times?
  14. What times in your life “tested your mettle,” and what did you learn about yourself by dealing (or not dealing) with them?
  15. What three events most shaped your life?
  16. What do you remember about when I was born?
  17. Were you ever scared to be a parent?
  18. What three words would you say represented your approach to parenting and why?
  19. When you think about [sibling], how would you describe him/her?
  20. What message do you have for [sibling] that you want him/her to always keep in mind?

[Do the last two questions above for each sibling in your family]

  1. When you think about [spouse], how would you describe her/him?
  2. What message do you have for [spouse] that you want her/him to always keep in mind?
  3. What three words best describe who you tried to be in life? How would you like to be remembered?
  4. What do you think your children and grandchildren should focus on professionally?
  5. What have you learned about people in life?
  6. What do you think the world needs more of right now?
  7. What do you believe people want the most in life?
  8. What were the three best decisions you ever made?
  9. What are you most proud of?
  10. What were five of the most memorable moments of your life?
  11. What message would you like to share with your family?
  12. What are you most thankful for?

Asking these questions is just the beginning. Recording the answers ensures that future generations can experience shared wisdom and stories. Whether you record these conversations using your smartphone, a video camera, or a written journal, the effort creates a lasting keepsake.

The Power of Recording Your Legacy

Capturing your family’s stories and values in a tangible form makes the experience even more impactful. The recording becomes a treasure for future generations, allowing them to hear the voices, see the faces, and feel the emotions of their ancestors. It’s a gift that transcends time and provides a profound sense of continuity and connection for your family.

As estate planning professionals, we’ve seen how meaningful this process can be. We include a Family Wealth Legacy Interview in every estate plan we create. This interview ensures that your stories and insights are preserved alongside your financial and legal documents, creating a holistic legacy plan.

Beyond Stories: Protecting What Matters Most

While recording your family’s legacy is essential, it’s only one part of safeguarding your family’s future. To ensure your values and assets are protected, creating a comprehensive estate plan—or what we like to call a Life and Legacy Plan-is crucial. This type of plan doesn’t just focus on financial wealth but also captures and protects the intangible aspects of your legacy, ensuring a holistic approach to preserving your family’s heritage.

The holiday season offers a unique opportunity to gather with loved ones and reflect on what truly matters. It’s a time when family stories naturally come to the surface and when the importance of connection feels most profound. Use this season to initiate these meaningful conversations and take the first steps toward preserving your family legacy.

We are here to guide you through the process. From conducting a Family  Legacy Interview to creating a comprehensive estate plan, we’ll ensure that your life’s values, lessons, and treasures are thoughtfully preserved and protected. Our expertise and support will make the process smooth and rewarding, allowing you to focus on what truly matters: family and their legacy.

Create Your Legacy Today

Don’t let another holiday season pass by without capturing the priceless wisdom and stories of your loved ones. Use our list of questions as a springboard to discover the hidden gems in your family’s history. And when you’re ready to take the next step, schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session with us. Together, we’ll create a plan to ensure your legacy will be a cherished gift for future generations. Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. 

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