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Lessons from Tony Bennett’s Estate Battle

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date December 23, 2024
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When legendary singer Tony Bennett passed away in July 2023, he left behind an estimated $100 million estate and, unfortunately, a family divide threatening to tarnish his legacy. His daughters Antonia and Johanna Bennett are now suing their brother, Danny, who serves as trustee of their father’s estate, alleging a lack of transparency and potential mismanagement of assets. Let’s explore what went wrong and how you can protect your family from the same fate.

Background

A complex legal battle is unfolding in the New York Supreme Court. Tony Bennett’s daughters Johanna and Antonia have filed suit against their brother Danny, who serves as trustee of their father’s estate. The lawsuit raises alarming questions about the management of Bennett’s assets. While the legendary singer earned over $100 million from live performances in his final 15 years, his daughters were told the estate was valued at less than $7 million.

The dispute centers around Danny’s role as both trustee and former manager. In July 2022, Danny orchestrated the sale of Bennett’s memorabilia, personal property, and name and likeness rights to Iconoclast, a company specializing in legacy works. The daughters allege they were in the dark about which assets were included in this deal and have received only “a modest distribution.” They also claim Danny received $1.2 million in loans from their father in 2020 and lifetime gifts totaling $4.2 million – more than double what Bennett’s other children received.

Making matters worse, when Johanna and Antonia were finally allowed to visit their father’s apartment in 2024, they discovered many of his personal belongings were either missing or declared off-limits due to the Iconoclast sale. They learned that most of their father’s clothing had been donated to charity without their knowledge, despite these items being specifically bequeathed to Bennett’s children in the trust. An auction of Bennett’s belongings was held in April 2024, but his daughters allege they were largely “kept in the dark” about the details and had to rush to identify which items they wanted to keep.

Court filings also state that the trust was established in 1994, but we don’t know if it was ever reviewed and updated. We also cannot know if Mr. Bennett was ever advised about the potential disputes that could arise from naming one of his children as his sole trustee and administrator of the estate.

Why Family May Not Be the Best Choice

Like Mr. Bennett, many people select family members to administer their estate after they die. They trust family members and assume they’ll do the right thing. Or they haven’t been properly advised about the potential consequences of naming a family member as the estate administrator. However, as the Bennett lawsuit teaches, family members aren’t always the right people for the job. Here are several common issues that arise when family members serve as trustees:

Power Imbalance: Having one sibling control their siblings’ inheritance creates an uncomfortable dynamic and breeds distrust.

Dual Roles: Danny’s position as trustee and former manager created a potential conflict of interest. Questions about decisions and motivations often arise when personal and professional roles overlap.

Transparency Issues: The significant discrepancy between known earnings and reported estate value raises red flags about financial transparency – a crucial element of trust administration.

Emotional Complications: Family relationships can cloud judgment and make it difficult to maintain the objectivity required of a trustee.

If you’re concerned about family conflict after you die, consult with a trusted advisor who can educate you about the potential ramifications of your decision and guide you to choose the right person—whether a family member or not. My priority is helping you make the process as easy on your loved ones and giving you peace of mind that you’ve done everything possible to keep your family out of court and conflict.

How to Prevent a Similar Conflict in Your Family

The primary way to prevent conflict in your family after your incapacity or death is to start courageous conversations with your family now. Conflict occurs when people are surprised about choices made by a loved one that are only revealed after it’s too late to gain understanding. Deep grief combined with surprise is a volatile combination. Communicating often and early is the best way to save your loved ones from this fate. If you’ve created your plan with my office and desire me to host a family meeting, reach out, and let’s schedule it. If you have not yet created your plan, let’s start there.

If you do not believe you can get your loved ones on the same page, I sometimes recommend choosing a non-family member or professional as your Successor Trustee. For instance, a professional or corporate trustee can provide the objective oversight needed to maintain family harmony while ensuring proper estate administration. This might have been a better choice for the Bennett family.

However, if you strongly prefer having a family member serve as trustee, you can implement additional safeguards with an effective estate plan. An effective plan may include adding co-trustees or creating independent oversight mechanisms to help ensure transparency and accountability. It might mean appointing a professional advisor to review major decisions or requiring regular external audits of estate administration.

Finally, make sure your chosen trustee has access to proper professional support. Managing an estate requires complex legal and financial knowledge that most family members don’t possess. That’s why my Life & Legacy Planning process has built-in mechanisms to ensure your chosen representatives will always have help from me when needed. However, ongoing support for your family is rarely a part of a typical estate plan.

Essential Elements of an Effective Estate Plan

Creating an estate plan that truly protects your family requires careful consideration. It requires guidance on how to pick the right representative for you and your loved ones. It requires proper documentation of assets, including detailed records of everything from real estate to intellectual property rights. It requires clear distribution guidelines. It also involves transparency to help maintain family trust and prevent disputes from arising.

However, if you create a DIY plan, use a cheap online service, use a financial advisor who offers estate planning services, or work with a traditional estate planning attorney, these elements will likely not be in your plan. Instead, you need a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that will work when you need it to.

When you work with me to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan, I will help you:

Choose the right trustee for your situation;
Create systems for transparent asset management;
Establish clear communication protocols;
Protect family relationships from conflicts;
Document your wishes on video or an audio file so your family understands precisely what you want;
If you have minor children, gain peace of mind knowing that they will never be taken into the care of strangers if something happens to you, and
Review and update your plan regularly to account for family dynamics, assets, and life circumstances changes.

We cannot know whether Mr. Bennett was advised of the potential consequences of naming his son to serve as trustee or whether he was given proper guidance on what he could have done to keep his family out of court and in conflict. But when you work with me to create a Life & Legacy Plan, I’ll support you in creating a plan that leaves a legacy of love and peace, not discord and strife.

How We Help You Create a Plan That Works

We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that protects your assets and preserves family harmony. We’ll help you address potential conflicts before they arise, ensure your wishes are clearly documented, create a framework for managing your assets even if you become incapacitated, and be there for your chosen representatives when you cannot be. We’ll also review your plan with you regularly so your plan works when you and your family need it to.

Don’t leave your family’s future to chance – schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation. Contact us today to get started.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love.

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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How To Create a Lasting Family Legacy This Holiday Season

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date December 20, 2024
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The holidays, a time for family, reflection, and gratitude, present a unique opportunity to build a meaningful and lasting family legacy. While financial inheritance is important, the value you pass down extends far beyond money—your values, insights, stories, and experiences. These intangible treasures shape the essence of your family’s identity and can serve as a guiding light for generations to come.

Unfortunately, many families leave this legacy-building process to chance. However, intentionally capturing and preserving these meaningful aspects requires more effort and focus. As part of our unique planning process, we help families solidify their legacy through a recorded Family Legacy Interview—a priceless gift for their loved ones.

This holiday season, we invite you to embrace the joy of storytelling by asking meaningful questions and recording the answers. This process can deepen family connections, uncover hidden wisdom, and create a legacy that your children and grandchildren will eagerly cherish for years to come.

Start a Family Tradition of Reflection

The best way to preserve your family legacy is to start with meaningful conversations. These discussions allow family members to reflect on their lives, share insights, and recount stories that might otherwise remain untold. We’ve found that asking the right questions is a powerful way to unlock memories and reveal the values that have shaped your loved ones.

To help you get started, we’ve compiled 32 meaningful questions that can serve as a guide during your holiday gatherings. Whether sitting around the dining table, gathered by the fireplace, or enjoying a quiet one-on-one moment, these questions can inspire deep and heartfelt conversations.

Here are some examples to spark meaningful conversations and preserve your family history:

What comes to mind when you think about growing up in your hometown?
What did you love to do as a kid before high school?
What did you love to do in high school?
What do you remember most about your teenage years?
What do you remember most about your mom (grandma)?
What was most important to her?
What do you remember most about your dad (grandpa)?
What was most important to him?
If Grandma and Grandpa had a message to pass along to the grandchildren, what would it be?
How did you meet your spouse? How did you know (s)he was the one?
How did you choose your career? What was your favorite part about it?
What made you successful?
What did you believe about yourself that helped you become successful and deal with hard times?
What times in your life “tested your mettle,” and what did you learn about yourself by dealing (or not dealing) with them?
What three events most shaped your life?
What do you remember about when I was born?
Were you ever scared to be a parent?
What three words would you say represented your approach to parenting and why?
When you think about [sibling], how would you describe him/her?
What message do you have for [sibling] that you want him/her to always keep in mind?

[Do the last two questions above for each sibling in your family]

When you think about [spouse], how would you describe her/him?
What message do you have for [spouse] that you want her/him to always keep in mind?
What three words best describe who you tried to be in life? How would you like to be remembered?
What do you think your children and grandchildren should focus on professionally?
What have you learned about people in life?
What do you think the world needs more of right now?
What do you believe people want the most in life?
What were the three best decisions you ever made?
What are you most proud of?
What were five of the most memorable moments of your life?
What message would you like to share with your family?
What are you most thankful for?

Asking these questions is just the beginning. Recording the answers ensures that future generations can experience shared wisdom and stories. Whether you record these conversations using your smartphone, a video camera, or a written journal, the effort creates a lasting keepsake.

The Power of Recording Your Legacy

Capturing your family’s stories and values in a tangible form makes the experience even more impactful. The recording becomes a treasure for future generations, allowing them to hear the voices, see the faces, and feel the emotions of their ancestors. It’s a gift that transcends time and provides a profound sense of continuity and connection for your family.

As estate planning professionals, we’ve seen how meaningful this process can be. We include a Family Wealth Legacy Interview in every estate plan we create. This interview ensures that your stories and insights are preserved alongside your financial and legal documents, creating a holistic legacy plan.

Beyond Stories: Protecting What Matters Most

While recording your family’s legacy is essential, it’s only one part of safeguarding your family’s future. To ensure your values and assets are protected, creating a comprehensive estate plan—or what we like to call a Life and Legacy Plan-is crucial. This type of plan doesn’t just focus on financial wealth but also captures and protects the intangible aspects of your legacy, ensuring a holistic approach to preserving your family’s heritage.

The holiday season offers a unique opportunity to gather with loved ones and reflect on what truly matters. It’s a time when family stories naturally come to the surface and when the importance of connection feels most profound. Use this season to initiate these meaningful conversations and take the first steps toward preserving your family legacy.

We are here to guide you through the process. From conducting a Family Legacy Interview to creating a comprehensive estate plan, we’ll ensure that your life’s values, lessons, and treasures are thoughtfully preserved and protected. Our expertise and support will make the process smooth and rewarding, allowing you to focus on what truly matters: family and their legacy.

Create Your Legacy Today

Don’t let another holiday season pass by without capturing the priceless wisdom and stories of your loved ones. Use our list of questions as a springboard to discover the hidden gems in your family’s history. And when you’re ready to take the next step, schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session with us. Together, we’ll create a plan to ensure your legacy will be a cherished gift for future generations. Contact us today to get started.

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How the Holidays Can Inspire Your Family Legacy Planning

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date December 11, 2024
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As the holidays approach, many families are busy planning menus, coordinating travel, hitting those holiday bucket list activities, baking treats for friends and neighbors, and preparing for a big feast. While these are important traditions, these cherished holidays offer something even more valuable—a perfect opportunity to think about, discuss, and preserve your family’s legacy.

In this article, you’ll discover practical ways to capture family stories during your holiday gatherings, start meaningful legacy conversations without awkwardness, and transform these precious moments into a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that protects your family’s values and assets for future generations. This year, consider using your holiday gatherings as a springboard for the meaningful conversations that can shape your family’s future.

The Heart of Legacy Planning: More Than Just Money

When most people think about legacy planning, they often focus solely on financial assets. But proper legacy planning encompasses much more. It’s about preserving your family’s stories, values, traditions, and the wisdom gained through generations. After working with families to support them with their estate planning and being there at the end of life, I’ve learned that these are the things that matter most. Values, insights, stories, experiences, and sentimental items are almost always more important to families than financial assets, though money also matters.

Those moments around the holiday table, sharing old family recipes, telling stories about ancestors, or discussing what matters most to your family are the building blocks of a meaningful legacy. The holidays, with their focus on gratitude and family togetherness, provide an ideal setting to explore these more profound aspects of your legacy.

Using Holiday Gatherings to Plan for the Future

With some planning, the holidays can be a great time to discuss the future. These conversations don’t have to be formal or heavy—they can emerge naturally from your holiday interactions:

Talk About Family Values: When expressing gratitude, encourage family members to share what they value most about being part of the family. These discussions inform how you structure your estate plan to reflect and perpetuate these values.

Discuss Family Philanthropy: If giving back is essential to your family, use this time to talk about causes that matter to everyone. This can lead to meaningful discussions about charitable giving and how to incorporate it into your legacy plan.

Addressing Family Dynamics during holiday gatherings can often reveal important insights to consider in estate planning. Who are the peacemakers? Who might need additional support? Understanding these dynamics can help you create a plan that promotes family harmony rather than conflict. By openly discussing these dynamics, you can ensure that everyone’s needs and concerns are considered, potentially reducing the risk of future family disputes.

Bring Up Your Planning: If you’ve recently completed your estate planning process or plan to before the end of the year or early next year, this is a great time to bring up your plans. Consider saying: “Because I want to make sure that everything is as easy as it can be for you all if something happens to me, I’m doing/did a kind of estate planning called Life & Legacy Planning, and I’d love to share about it with you because you’ll all be impacted. Are you open to having a conversation about that and what we all want to happen for ourselves if we become incapacitated or when we die?”

Understanding your family’s values, philanthropic interests, and dynamics isn’t just about having pleasant conversations—it’s about gathering crucial information to help you create a Life & Legacy Plan that genuinely serves your family and preserves harmony for future generations.

Capturing Your Family’s Story

The holidays are a time for storytelling, a chance to share and preserve the precious memories and important family history that often emerge when families gather and reminisce. This joyful act of capturing family stories not only connects us to our past but also strengthens our bonds for the future. Here are some ways to make these moments even more special:

Record Your Family’s Food Heritage: That special stuffing recipe from your grandmother isn’t just about ingredients—it’s about family history. Document not just the recipe but the story behind it. Why is it important? How has it been adapted over generations? Who taught it to whom? If your relative is still alive, ask them to write out the recipe with essential notes. Having something in their handwriting can be very special for the younger generations.

Create a Family Interview Tradition: Designate time after dinner for family interviews. Have younger family members ask older ones about their childhood, important life lessons, or family history. Record these conversations (with permission) using your phone or video camera. It doesn’t have to be complicated.

Share Family Artifacts: Bring out old family photos, letters, or heirlooms. These physical items are not just objects but gateways to our family history and values. They often spark stories and discussions that deepen our appreciation for our family’s journey. Use these moments to explain why certain items are meaningful and what they represent in your family’s legacy.

Making Legacy Planning Part of Your Holiday Tradition

The key to successful legacy planning is making it an ongoing process, not a one-time event. Consider establishing new Thanksgiving traditions that support this goal. Here are a few ideas:

Create a Family Time Capsule: Each year, have family members contribute something meaningful to a time capsule—letters, photos, or small items that represent the year’s important moments.

Start a Family Mission Statement: Work together to create and update a family mission statement that reflects your shared values and goals. This can guide both current decisions and future legacy planning.

Document Family Medical History: While families are together, take time to update your family medical history. This information is crucial for future generations and can inform healthcare decisions.

Remember that legacy planning isn’t a one-time task but an ongoing journey that can be woven into your family’s holiday traditions each year. By incorporating these intentional practices into every holiday gathering, you’re capturing and preserving what matters most and building a stronger foundation for your family’s future. It’s a commitment, a responsibility, and a labor of love that will endure for generations.

How We Help You Create a Lasting Legacy

While holiday conversations are valuable for legacy planning, they’re just the beginning. To protect your family’s legacy and ensure your wishes are fulfilled, you need professional guidance and support to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan. Our Life & Legacy Planning process goes beyond traditional estate planning to capture your assets, values, wisdom, and family story. We help ensure that your conversations around the holiday table become a legacy for future generations.

Take the first step toward preserving your family’s legacy. Contact us today to get started.

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The Hidden Truth About Settling a Loved One’s Estate

Post author By Kylie Casper
Post date December 5, 2024
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When someone names you as their executor, it might feel like an honor – a sign that they trust you to handle their final affairs. However, what many people don’t realize is that being an executor can turn into a demanding part-time (or full-time) job that lasts months or even years, often during a time when you’re also grieving the loss of a loved one. The responsibilities can be overwhelming, from tracking assets to dealing with creditors and managing family dynamics. Then, there are legal obligations and potential personal liability if things aren’t handled correctly. Making complex decisions while processing grief often proves more challenging than most people anticipate. Let’s explore what’s involved in administering someone’s estate and how proper planning can make this process easier for the people you love.

The Unexpected Time Commitment

Most people don’t realize that administering an estate isn’t just reading a will and distributing assets. The process typically begins with locating and gathering all estate planning documents, which can be challenging if they aren’t stored in an easily accessible place. The executor must notify numerous institutions of the death, often requiring multiple copies of death certificates and extensive documentation. This notification process alone can take weeks or even months, as each institution has its requirements and timeline for processing.

The time commitment becomes even more substantial when dealing with financial institutions. Each bank, investment firm, and insurance company has its procedures for handling a deceased person’s accounts. Many require original documents rather than copies, meaning executors spend countless hours making phone calls, writing letters, and visiting institutions in person. The process often involves repeated follow-ups and submission of additional documentation as requested by various institutions.

Property management, another time-consuming process, also falls to the executor. Whether it’s maintaining a house until it can be sold, managing investment accounts, or dealing with personal property, these responsibilities continue throughout the entire administration process. Real estate can be particularly demanding, requiring regular maintenance, payment of utilities and property taxes, and coordination with realtors if the property needs to be sold. Add to this the requirement to file court documents, appear at hearings, and prepare final tax returns, and it becomes clear why estate administration often takes far longer than expected.

This is incredibly challenging because most executors also work full-time jobs and manage their own families while trying to handle these responsibilities. The process can quickly become overwhelming without proper guidance, taking over evenings and weekends for months. The stress of juggling these responsibilities often leads to burnout and can affect personal and professional life.

The Financial and Emotional Costs

Beyond the time commitment, serving as an executor often comes with unexpected financial and emotional burdens. Many executors don’t realize they may need to pay for expenses out of pocket before being reimbursed by the estate. Court filing fees, property maintenance costs, and professional service fees can add up quickly, sometimes reaching thousands of dollars before any reimbursement is possible. In some cases, executors may need to hire attorneys, accountants, or other professionals to handle complex aspects of the estate, further increasing the financial burden.

The emotional toll of serving as executor often proves even more challenging than the financial aspects. Family dynamics frequently become strained during estate administration, as grief and stress can amplify existing tensions. Long-buried conflicts may resurface when it comes time to distribute personal property or interpret ambiguous instructions in estate documents. The executor often finds themselves in the difficult position of maintaining family harmony while fulfilling their legal obligations to the estate.

The pressure increases when executors discover complications like missing documents, incorrectly titled assets, or outdated beneficiary designations. These issues often require lengthy court proceedings, during which family members may grow increasingly impatient or suspicious. Without clear documentation and proper planning, even simple estates can become sources of lasting family conflict. Managing these interpersonal dynamics while handling technical legal requirements can be extraordinarily taxing.

Digital assets also present another layer of complexity that only some executors anticipate. Accessing and managing everything from email accounts to cryptocurrency can become nearly impossible in our increasingly online world without proper password documentation and legal authority. Many digital platforms have complex policies regarding account access after death, and navigating these policies without adequate preparation can lead to lost or inaccessible assets.

How a Life & Legacy Plan Makes a Difference

This is where working with our firm makes all the difference. My Life & Legacy Planning process is explicitly designed to prevent these common challenges and make estate administration as smooth as possible for your loved ones. Rather than simply creating documents, this comprehensive approach ensures that everything your executor or trust administrator needs will be organized and accessible when the time comes. The process includes detailed documentation of your wishes, clear instructions for asset management, and specific guidance for handling digital assets.

When you create a Life & Legacy Plan with me, it will include a complete inventory of regularly updated assets, ensuring everything is noticed and remembered. Your plan will also provide clear instructions about accessing physical and digital assets, eliminating the need for extensive searches or court intervention. You’ll also be supported in creating specific provisions for personal property distribution, helping prevent family conflicts before they arise. By addressing these details in advance, you significantly reduce the burden on your executor or trust administrator and minimize the potential for family disagreements.

Perhaps most importantly, working with me means your family won’t have to figure things out alone. Unlike traditional estate planning, which ends when you sign your documents, our relationship continues with your family. Your executor will have professional guidance through every step of the administration process, making their job significantly more accessible and reducing the likelihood of costly mistakes. This ongoing support helps ensure that your wishes are carried out efficiently and that your loved ones are protected during a difficult time.

Don’t leave your loved ones to navigate the complexities of estate administration alone. Book a call with us today to learn how we can help you create a plan that makes things easier for everyone involved. Contact us today to get started.

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Honoring Service: Essential Estate Planning Tips for Veterans and Their Families

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date December 1, 2024
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Every day, we honor the brave individuals who have served our nation with dedication and resilience. Your service was a testament to your commitment to a better, safer future – and now it’s time to extend that commitment to securing a stable future for your loved ones. Through a personalized estate planning process I call Life & Legacy Planning, you can ensure that your family is well-cared for and your legacy is preserved. Just as you approached each mission with precision and care, this planning requires the same detail and intentionality to safeguard your family’s future.

In this article, I will help you understand the unique estate planning opportunities available to veterans and the steps you can take to secure your family’s tomorrow.

Understanding Your Veterans Benefits

Your military service has earned you and your family special benefits that extend beyond your lifetime. The Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) offers several programs to provide for your loved ones after you’re gone. It’s crucial to understand these benefits and take steps to ensure your family can access them. This includes keeping your discharge papers (DD Form 214) with your estate planning documents and informing your executor of their location.

You should also maintain a current list of all VA benefits you receive, as this information will be crucial for your family to continue receiving eligible benefits. When you work with me to create your Life & Legacy Plan, I will help you organize the information your family will need so they know they’ll receive all the benefits they are entitled to. There will be no guessing, extra work, or lost benefits simply because they didn’t know what was available to them.

Creating Your Estate Planning Strategy

Life & Legacy Planning for veterans requires careful consideration of both military and civilian assets. I recommend you create a comprehensive list of your assets, including:

Military pension and retirement accounts
Life insurance policies (both military and private)
Property and real estate
Investment accounts
Personal possessions with monetary or sentimental value

With an inventory, your family will know how to find your assets so assets you care about aren’t lost or difficult to find.

Note that service members can create basic estate planning documents through the military legal assistance office at no cost. Depending on your needs, this may or may not be an adequate option. For example, if you have minor children, you need a comprehensive plan that will keep your children from being taken into the care of strangers or raised by people you’d never want to raise them if something happens to you. Or, if you have a blended family, no children, a business, a child with special needs, or significant assets, you need a comprehensive plan that will keep your family out of court and conflict, which a free, documents-only plan will not do. Finally, for your plan to work when you need it to, your plan needs regular reviews and updates as your life changes, your family dynamics change, and your assets change.

A free, documents-only plan is just that – documents. You won’t have a trusted advisor who has your back and will ensure your plan stays updated over time. But you get all these benefits (regular reviews, a comprehensive plan that keeps your family out of court and conflict, etc.) when you work with me and create a Life & Legacy Plan. So, I encourage you to educate yourself before making a plan based only on documents. I have many free resources to help, or you can book a complimentary consult call with me using the booking link below.

Working with a Trusted Advisor

While the military legal assistance office provides valuable services, you may benefit from working with an attorney who understands both veterans’ benefits and estate planning, especially if you have a potentially complex situation, like a blended family, a family member with special needs, a debilitating illness, no children (yes, this is often a complex matter, not a simple one!), or many varied assets. A competent attorney can help you:

Structure your estate to maximize benefits for your survivors
Create trusts to protect assets if you need long-term care
Navigate complex VA regulations
Ensure your estate plan complies with state and federal laws
Update your plan as laws and regulations change

Please book a complimentary call with us below for more information and guidance about what is best for you and your loved ones.

How We Help You Honor and Protect Your Legacy

Your service to our nation demonstrates your commitment to protecting what matters most. It’s time to protect your legacy through careful estate planning. By taking these steps, you’re continuing your tradition of service by ensuring your family’s security and well-being. Remember that Life & Legacy Planning isn’t a one-time task. Regular reviews, especially after significant changes like marriage, divorce, birth, or significant changes in your financial situation, are imperative to ensure your plan works when you and your loved ones need it. When you work with me, we include these regular reviews to give you peace of mind that your plan is always up-to-date and ready to serve your family.

Veterans have already given so much in service to our country – you shouldn’t have to worry about your family facing legal challenges or missing out on earned benefits. We help you create a Life & Legacy Plan that honors your military service by ensuring your loved ones stay out of court and conflict while maximizing the benefits you’ve earned through your service. Once you’ve created your plan, you can rest easy knowing your wishes will be honored and your family will be protected with the same dedication you showed to safeguard our nation.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn how we can help secure your military legacy. Contact us today to get started.

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Shining a Light on Shelley Duvall’s Death and Estate Plan

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date November 19, 2024
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Shelley Duvall, best known for her role as Wendy Torrance in The Shining, passed away recently at the age of 75. While her acting legacy continues to captivate fans, her passing reveals important lessons about estate planning that everyone can learn from.

In case you haven’t read about what’s happened to her estate since she died, Duvall’s death left behind unresolved legal matters, especially concerning her long-term partner, Dan Gilroy. Without a will, Gilroy is now navigating a complex legal process to inherit a portion of Duvall’s estate, valued in the six figures. There are valuable takeaways from this situation for those who aren’t movie stars but want to protect their loved ones and assets. Let’s look at what you can learn from Dan Gilroy and Shelly Duvall’s story to ensure you avoid similar challenges in your life and after your death. Remember, these issues were entirely avoidable with the right planning.

The Importance of a Life & Legacy Plan

The most striking takeaway from Shelley Duvall’s situation is the importance of having an estate plan, particularly a Life & Legacy Plan. This plan, unlike a traditional estate plan, not only outlines the distribution of your assets but also includes your personal values, life lessons, and any other non-financial legacies you wish to leave behind. Without such a plan, your state decides who will inherit your property, and your loved ones must go to court to figure it all out. Anytime you have to go to court, it can be a lengthy, stressful, and expensive process. In addition, someone else who’s a stranger to you and your loved ones (i.e., a judge) makes decisions for you and those you love. So, when you don’t have a Life & Legacy Plan, the distribution of your estate may not align with your wishes. In Duvall’s case, her partner of over 30 years, Dan Gilroy, is left in a position where he has to prove his right to inherit a portion of her assets.

Creating a Life & Legacy Plan ensures that your wishes are fulfilled after you’re gone. Whether you’re married, single, or in a long-term partnership, having a plan that clearly outlines who gets what can save your loved ones from confusion, frustration, and heartache. Contrary to what you may think, it’s especially important for those who don’t have children, as the distribution of assets can become even more complex.

In Duvall’s case, her three brothers may end up with a significant portion of her estate, which may not have been what she wanted. You can prevent these uncertainties by making a will that reflects your true intentions.

Consider Your Unmarried Partner’s Rights

Life & Legacy Planning becomes even more critical for couples like Duvall and Gilroy, who lived together for over 30 years without being legally married. Gilroy is now trying to prove that he and Duvall were, in fact, in a common-law marriage so he can claim a share of her estate.

Common-law marriage, recognized in Texas where they lived (but not in all states), requires specific legal standards to be met. These standards include proving that the couple agreed to be married, lived together as a married couple, and presented themselves as husband and wife to others. Without this proof, Gilroy may receive little to nothing from Duvall’s estate. I can’t imagine this is what Duvall wanted.

If you’re in a long-term relationship but not legally married, you should think carefully about what might happen to your assets when you pass away. When you work with me, I’ll help you make choices that are right for you. Then, together, we’ll create a Life & Legacy Plan that reflects your wishes. If you’re unmarried but have a partner you’d like to inherit your assets, we’ll create a plan that documents your relationship and makes it easier to prove if needed. In Duvall’s case, a Life & Legacy Plan would have simplified the legal process for Gilroy.

Address Mental Health and Capacity in Your Planning

Another issue that may come up in Duvall’s estate battle is her mental health. In the years leading up to her death, there was public speculation about her mental state, including a controversial interview with Dr. Phil in 2016, where she displayed erratic behavior. This may raise questions in court about whether she had the capacity to fully understand legal agreements, such as marriage, or whether Duvall had the legal capacity to make the decisions that might come with estate planning. This could be a reason she didn’t have a plan of her own.

If you or someone you love is struggling with mental health challenges, it’s essential to plan early while mental capacity is clear, and can be documented as part of the planning process. This can prevent future disputes about whether a person can make informed decisions. By working with me and creating a Life & Legacy Plan that reflects your wishes, you can help ensure that your estate is handled according to your desires, regardless of future health issues. Duvall’s case reminds us that waiting too long to address estate planning can lead to complications that leave loved ones vulnerable to long legal battles and uncertainty. The key is to start planning as early as possible to avoid such situations.

Don’t Leave Your Loved Ones in a Bind

Shelley Duvall’s passing highlights several vital lessons you can apply to your own life. Whether you have a large estate or not, it’s crucial to have a plan that protects your assets and provides for the people you care about most. By creating a Life & Legacy Plan, considering the rights of an unmarried partner, and addressing potential mental health issues early, you can make sure your wishes are respected after you’re gone. And the best time to protect your loved ones is now.

We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that ensures your assets are distributed according to your wishes and your loved ones are cared for—whether you’re married, in a long-term relationship, or navigating unique mental health concerns. With your plan in place, you can rest easy knowing that your legacy will be preserved and your family will stay out of court and conflict.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to find out more. Contact us today to get started.

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Debunking 4 Common Estate Planning Myths

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date November 8, 2024
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You might think estate planning is only for the wealthy or too complicated and expensive. These are just a few myths surrounding estate planning that I hear often. In reality, estate planning is critical for everyone, including you, regardless of age or financial status.

Many people don’t understand what estate planning is – even attorneys sometimes don’t understand it. So, I’ll take this opportunity to set the record straight and debunk some common myths, then explore why you need an estate plan and how to get the right one at the right price.

Myth #1: Estate Planning is Only for the Wealthy

One of the most persistent myths about estate planning is that it’s only necessary if you have significant wealth or valuable assets.

Estate planning isn’t about the size of your estate; it’s about making sure that when something happens to you – as it will – the people you love aren’t left with a big mess to deal with.

Consider this: Do you have a bank account? A car? Personal belongings with sentimental value? A life insurance policy? If you answered yes to any of these, you have an estate. But even more importantly, do you have people you care about? Family members who depend on you? Or people you love who will be stuck dealing with your mess if you don’t care for these things while you can. If so, you need an estate plan.

Estate planning is about more than just distributing assets. It’s about making important decisions that will affect your loved ones. For instance:

Who will take care of your minor children if something happens to you? And how will they take care of them?
Who will make medical decisions on your behalf if you’re incapacitated? How will they make those decisions?
Who will manage your digital assets, like email, social media accounts, or cryptocurrency?
Who will make sure your bills get paid?

These questions apply to everyone, regardless of their net worth. By creating an estate plan, you’re not flaunting wealth; you’re taking responsibility for your life and the people you care about. After all, someone will have to deal with these things. It’s unavoidable. You can do it now and make it easy on your loved ones (and have more control over outcomes), or you can procrastinate it or avoid it altogether and leave the people you love with a complicated and expensive mess to clean up if you become incapacitated or after you die.

Myth #2: Estate Planning is Complicated and Expensive

Another common misconception is that estate planning is overly complex and costly. While it’s true that estate planning involves legal documents and careful consideration, it doesn’t have to be overwhelming or break the bank. In fact, we promise to make it as easy as possible for you and within the right budget based on your family dynamics, assets, and needs.

The complexity and cost of your estate plan will depend on your specific situation and goals.

Myth #3: I’m Too Young to Need an Estate Plan

You might think estate planning is something you can put off once you’re older, but this is a dangerous assumption. Life is unpredictable, and having an estate plan in place is crucial regardless of your age.

If you’re a young adult, you might have yet to accumulate much wealth, but you still have important decisions to make. For instance:

Who will manage your social media accounts if something happens to you?
Who will take care of your pets?
What will happen to you if you have a small business or side hustle?
Who will be responsible for paying off your student loans or other debts?

Moreover, estate planning becomes even more critical if you’re a young parent. Your estate plan can designate guardians for your children and set up trusts to manage any assets they might inherit. These provisions are necessary for the court to decide who raises your children, leading to family disputes and potentially placing your children with someone you wouldn’t have chosen.

Even if you’re single with no dependents, an estate plan is critical, maybe even more so, because it’s up to you to determine who will care for you if you cannot care for yourself. You don’t want to leave that to a judge to decide. Your plan will ensure your wishes are respected if you become incapacitated, designate who will make medical decisions for you, and specify how you want your assets distributed. This can prevent conflicts among family members and ensure your hard-earned assets go to the people or causes you care about most.

Remember, estate planning isn’t about planning for your death; it’s about preparing for life and the uncertainties sure to come. It’s about taking control of your future and caring for the people and things you love, no matter your age.

Myth #4: Once I Create an Estate Plan, I’m Done

Another common misconception is that estate planning is a one-time event. In reality, your estate plan should evolve as your life changes. Major life events that might necessitate updates to your estate plan include:

Marriage or divorce
Birth or adoption of children
Death of a beneficiary or executor
Significant changes in your financial situation
Purchase of a home or other major asset
Starting a business
Moving to a different state

Even if you have yet to experience significant life changes, reviewing your estate plan at least every three years is essential. However, we recommend you review your assets and how they are titled annually. Laws change, and what was optimal a few years ago might not be the best strategy.

Regular reviews also give you a chance to reconsider your choices. Keeping your estate plan up-to-date ensures it continues to reflect your wishes and provides the best possible protection for your loved ones. Think of it as a living document that grows and changes with you, rather than a static set of instructions. It’s so important that we include regular reviews at least every three years in all our Life & Legacy Plans, and have systems to keep your plan up to date.

How We Help You Take Action Today

Estate planning is not a luxury for the wealthy, a complex process beyond your reach, or something you can put off until later in life. It’s a fundamental aspect of responsible financial planning that everyone should consider.

Our Life & Legacy Planning process is specifically designed to start with getting you educated and organized, so we can support you in choosing the right plan for you and your loved ones. We’ll outline strategies for your assets, prepare for potential incapacity, and ensure your family is cared for, even if the unexpected happens. Our approach includes regular reviews to keep your plan current with life changes, and we even help capture family memories and traditions. With our guidance, you can rest easy knowing your wishes will be honored, your loved ones cared for, and your property protected.

When you consider the peace of mind and potential savings in time, stress, and money for your loved ones down the line, Life & Legacy Planning is often the best way to save your loved ones time and money while also creating optimal value and use of your resources during your own lifetime. Think of it as insurance for your legacy—a small cost now can save your loved ones significant trouble and expense later.

Take the first step towards peace of mind–schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation and learn how we can help you create your personalized Life & Legacy Plan. Contact us today to get started.

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Navigating End-of-Life Care: Lessons from a Daughter’s Tragic Experience

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date October 24, 2024
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In an aging society, you might face difficult end-of-life decisions for your loved ones sooner than expected. And when you do, you’ll realize the journey through end-of-life care is rarely straightforward. A recent and heartbreaking story from Maggie Schneider Huston in Newsweek illustrates this. In this article, I’ll highlight key insights from Maggie’s experience and offer practical advice for your situation.

First, know that an advance directive is a legal document that outlines your wishes for medical care if you cannot decide for yourself. In most states, it also gives authority to a person or people you choose to act on your behalf and ensure your wishes are fulfilled. With that, let’s dive into Maggie’s story. As you read, consider how you might prepare for similar situations in your life or the lives of your aging relatives.

What Happened?

Maggie’s story begins in 2023. Her mom died, and shortly after, Maggie’s father, Terry, revised his will and created an advance directive. He wanted to be entirely prepared for a planned heart surgery he was to have less than three months later.

His advance directive reflected his desires that he’d been clear about – that he did not want to suffer when his life was coming to an end. He did not want machines to keep him alive. He only wanted to be comfortable. Maggie and her siblings understood and supported their father’s wishes. They gave one of his doctors a copy of his advance directive before the surgery. That doctor later admitted that he hadn’t read it. Terry’s other two doctors did not know he had an advance directive.

After Terry’s heart surgery, his health declined rapidly. As he was lying in the hospital bed, his doctors arguing that he could live with the assistance of machines, he told them that’s not what he wanted. He repeatedly asked for hospice care. Despite Terry’s wishes, his doctors would not order hospice care for him.

Maggie and her siblings quickly got involved and read Terry’s advance directive to the doctors. And after repeated requests, the doctors finally relented. He died shortly after. Even though Terry’s wishes were finally honored, it wasn’t without frustration and heartache for Terry and his family.

It’s easy to see why the doctors insisted on keeping Terry alive. Their job, after all, isn’t to facilitate death but to promote life (no doubt the fear of being sued for medical malpractice was a factor, too). So it’s not a leap to think that if Terry didn’t have an advance directive, he would still be alive today, subsisting on the assistance of machines at an extreme cost to the family.

So, as Maggie’s story illustrates, having an advance directive is just the first step. You must also ensure that the advance directive is readily available and that your chosen advocates are prepared to fight for your wishes if necessary. It also helps to have a trusted lawyer by your side.

Advocating for Your Loved Ones

Maggie’s experience with her father shows how important advocacy can be. If you find yourself in Maggie’s situation with a parent or other loved one, here are some strategies you can take to ensure their wishes are honored:

Be prepared to speak up and ask questions. If you need help understanding something, ask for clarification. Don’t be intimidated by medical jargon or embarrassed about asking for explanations.

Ensure that all medical team members have read and understood the advance directive. Don’t assume that because one doctor has seen it, all of them have.

If your loved one’s wishes are ignored, don’t hesitate to escalate the issue to hospital administration or patient advocacy groups. Remember, you’re not just a visitor but an essential part of your loved one’s care team.

Keep a journal or log of all interactions with healthcare providers. Document who you spoke to, what was discussed, and any decisions made. This can be invaluable if there are disagreements or misunderstandings later.

Build relationships with the nursing staff. The nursing staff spends the most time with patients and can be powerful allies in advocating for your loved one’s care.

Consider bringing in outside help if needed. If you feel your loved one’s rights are being violated, this could be a patient advocate, a social worker, or even a lawyer. Read on, and I’ll show you how to get my help and support.

Take care of yourself during this process. Advocating can be exhausting and emotionally draining. Eat well, get enough sleep, and take breaks when needed.

Your role as an advocate can be challenging, but it’s crucial to ensure your loved one’s wishes are respected. You can also prepare for your future so your loved ones have the support they need to advocate for you if the time comes.

How to Help Your Loved Ones Avoid Similar Outcomes

To help your family avoid the challenges faced by Maggie and her siblings, consider the following steps:

Create a comprehensive advance directive and designate a healthcare proxy. This crucial first step involves clearly outlining your wishes for end-of-life care in a thorough Life & Legacy Plan. When you work with me to create your Life & Legacy Plan, I can help you get clear on specific treatments you do or do not want, choose the right people to be your representatives, and ensure they understand and are willing to advocate for your wishes. All these considerations are critically important.

Communicate your wishes openly and distribute your advance directive. Have frank discussions with your family members about your end-of-life preferences. Ensure all relevant family members understand and respect your decisions, proactively addressing concerns or disagreements. Once your wishes are clear, provide copies of your advance directive to your representatives, family members, and primary care physician. I will maintain a copy of your advance directive when you work with me. This wide distribution helps ensure your wishes are known and can be quickly accessed when needed.

Regularly review and update your Life & Legacy Plan. Life circumstances and health conditions can change, potentially affecting end-of-life care preferences. That’s why my Life & Legacy Planning process includes regular reviews of your plan so we can update your plan if needed. This ongoing process of review and update helps ensure that your end-of-life care plans always accurately reflect your current wishes and circumstances and that your plan will work when you and your loved ones need it to.

Finally, remember, end-of-life care isn’t just about how we die – it’s about how we live our final days, weeks, or months. Planning and being prepared to advocate can ensure that this time is as meaningful and comfortable as possible, aligned with your values and wishes. In doing so, you’re providing a final act of love and respect, honoring a life well-lived right up to its very end.

How We Help You Navigate End-of-Life Care

As Maggie’s story clearly illustrates, end-of-life situations can be complex and emotionally challenging. The best time to prepare for these difficult moments is now. We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that ensures your end-of-life wishes are respected, your loved ones are empowered to advocate for you, and your care aligns with your values when needed. Don’t leave your end-of-life care to chance. Let us help you create a plan that works when you and your loved ones need it most.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn more. Contact us today to get started.

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A Power of Attorney May Not Be What You Think

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date October 17, 2024
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If you’ve ever considered planning for your future or helped someone plan for theirs, you’ve probably heard the term “power of attorney.” But do you know what it is? The terms “power” and “attorney” carry weight but may not mean what you think. There are many misconceptions about what a power of attorney is and what authority it gives someone. And no, it doesn’t grant someone a temporary law degree.

I’ll address the misconceptions about powers of attorney so you know what to do if someone appoints you as their power of attorney. Then, armed with this knowledge, you’ll understand your legal responsibilities so you don’t inadvertently make any mistakes or run afoul of the law.

What is a Power of Attorney?

Let’s start with some background info. If a power of attorney doesn’t confer attorney status, then why is it called that?

Generally speaking, a power of attorney is a legal document granting someone else the authority to act on your behalf regarding your financial life. The term “power of attorney” is a bit of a historical holdover. Originally, powers of attorney were primarily used to appoint lawyers to represent individuals in legal matters. However, the concept has expanded over time to include appointing someone to act on your behalf for various purposes.

So, while you don’t need to be an attorney to hold a power of attorney, the term has continued due to its historical origins. Granting power of attorney is a way to indicate that an appointed person has the authority to act as your agent or representative, similar to the way an attorney would act on your behalf.

There are times when it’s necessary to preserve your assets, especially if you reach a point in life when you are unable to manage your own financial, legal, or healthcare matters, whether from old age, a terrible accident, or simply being out of the country for an extended period. In each of these cases, it’s possible that if you don’t have someone acting on your behalf, problems could occur. Your financial institutions could charge extra fees on your accounts, a fraudster could drain them, and you wouldn’t know it happened; taxes could go unpaid, your property could go into foreclosure, or your credit could be ruined. So, to prevent these horrific outcomes, you want someone else to be able to maintain your financial life on your behalf.

Types of Powers of Attorney

We don’t need to get too much in the weeds here (if you want to get in the weeds, though, read to the end, and I’ll show you how to book a call with me); know that there are different types of powers of attorney, each with its specific purpose. Here are some examples:

General Power of Attorney: This grants the agent broad authority to act on your behalf, including managing your finances and signing legal documents, even if you can handle your affairs. It becomes effective as soon as you execute the document. When might you want this? Say you travel for work, and you and your spouse have decided to refinance your mortgage. You may want your spouse to sign the paperwork on your behalf rather than wait until you’re back in town.

Springing Power of Attorney: This also grants authority to someone to manage your financial and legal affairs. You can execute the document whenever you want, but it doesn’t kick in until you can no longer make your own decisions.

Durable Power of Attorney: This type of general power of attorney remains in effect even if you become incapacitated. Think of it as the General and Springing Powers of Attorney combined.

Limited Power of Attorney: This grants the agent authority to handle specific tasks only, such as managing your property or making healthcare decisions.

Healthcare Power of Attorney: This grants your named agent authority to make medical decisions on your behalf.

Even though each of these documents operates differently, they all have one crucial thing in common: the agent’s power ends as soon as you die.

What No One Told You About a Power of Attorney: It Ends With Death

You may mistakenly believe that a power of attorney gives someone the right to access your financial accounts indefinitely. However, a power of attorney is a temporary arrangement that ends when the person who granted the power dies. What does this mean, exactly?

Let’s say your aging mother can no longer manage her affairs, and she executed a Power of Attorney to give you the authority. While she’s living, you can access her bank accounts to ensure all her bills are paid and paid on time. But as soon as she dies, you no longer have the legal authority to access her accounts. If she had a Will or no estate plan, you would have to file paperwork with the probate court and wait for the case to make it through the court system until the judge grants you authority again. In the meantime, if you can’t afford to cover her bills along with your own, you may have to decide to let her bills go unpaid. If she still has a mortgage on her house, for instance, and you can’t pay her mortgage and yours, the bank could begin to foreclose, and you could lose any equity she had. This equity could have been a significant part of your inheritance.

Going to court can be frustrating and time-consuming, and negative consequences can result if you haven’t planned appropriately.

The Good News

With some careful planning ahead of time, you can ensure all your bills get paid, and your assets are preserved for your loved ones. The way to do that is by creating a Life & Legacy Plan with a living trust. A trust is a legal arrangement that allows you to transfer your assets to a trustee, who manages them to benefit your beneficiaries. Notably, a trust survives your death, so there’s no disruption in the ability of someone to manage your finances after you die.

You owe it to yourself and your loved ones to ensure your power of attorney, trust, and related estate planning tools are created correctly and updated over time and that you understand the benefits and consequences of your plan.

How We Help You Preserve What Matters

Understanding the limitations of a power of attorney and the benefits of a trust is crucial for protecting your hard-earned assets. When you work with me to create a Life & Legacy Plan, I’ll empower you with the education you need so you can make the right choices for yourself and your family, that you fully understand how your plan works, and that your family has my support after you’re gone. Once your plan is in place, you can rest easy knowing that your wishes will be honored, your loved ones cared for, and your property protected.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn more and start your journey toward a secure financial future.

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Preventing Family Feuds Over Your Personal Belongings

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date October 11, 2024
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The passing of a loved one is a heartbreaking event, filled with grief and sorrow. However, the aftermath can become even more painful if disagreements over their personal belongings tear your family apart. These disputes, primarily when centered around meaningful objects, can leave lasting wounds that may never fully heal.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. By understanding the emotional weight of possessions, the power of perception and taking proactive steps, you can prevent such heartache and foster a more harmonious grieving process for your family. We’ll explore practical strategies to ensure your final wishes are honored, and your loved ones stay united amidst loss.

Perception Is the Basis for Conflict

Your personal belongings are so much more than just material objects. They are tangible reminders of your life, personality, and connection to the people you hold dear. These items can provide immense comfort and solace for your grieving family when you’re gone. However, the emotional ties to your possessions can also set the stage for conflict.

Your family members may have very different ideas about the value and significance of your possessions and how your possessions should be distributed. Emotional attachments to personal property often run deeper than anyone realizes, reflecting unresolved feelings of love, guilt, or regret. These differences in perspective can create tension and resentment and even damage relationships that have lasted a lifetime.

The Value of Open Communication and Thoughtful Planning

To minimize the risk of family feuds over your personal property, one of the most effective things you can do is have open and honest conversations about expectations and preferences long before you’re gone. Here are some strategies to consider:

Start the Conversation Early. While it may feel awkward to discuss such sensitive topics, it’s far better to address them proactively. This allows for a more thoughtful and deliberate discussion of everyone’s wishes. Ideally, these conversations should occur when all parties are calm and emotionally prepared rather than amid grief.

Record Yourself. Don’t underestimate the value of getting on video. Recording yourself explaining your wishes and why can be very powerful, as well as provide clarity and decrease conflict for your loved ones. When you create your estate plan with my firm, we include a Life & Legacy Interview with every plan so that your decisions and their reasons are clear to your family. When there’s no ambiguity, the possibility of conflict lessens.

Make an Inventory. Make a comprehensive list of all your personal belongings, including their sentimental value and any specific requests or wishes you have associated with them. This inventory can be a crucial reference point for your family members after you’re gone. If possible, involve your loved ones in this process so that they understand your wishes and can ensure your voice is heard.

Create a Life and Legacy Plan. A Life and Legacy Plan can minimize disputes by clearly outlining your wishes regarding distributing your personal property. In addition to the Life & Legacy Interview, every plan includes a “personal property memorandum,” which provides additional clarity, specifying which items should go to which beneficiaries. We even help you update your plan to reflect changing circumstances or preferences and prevent family conflict.

Focus on Your Family’s Needs. Ultimately, the goal of your planning should be to honor your memory and support the well-being of your loved ones. Prioritize the needs of grieving people and try to find solutions that minimize conflict and pain. Sometimes, creating a process where each family member can express their attachment to specific items and why they matter can help others understand their emotional value rather than just their monetary worth.

Helping Your Family Sell Your Belongings with Care and Intention

Sometimes, your loved ones may need to sell your personal property, which may be necessary to settle your estate, pay debts, or ensure that your items are put to good use. Whether or not the items sold hold sentimental value, this can be another task ripe with conflict. Further, many family members don’t know what the process entails. But you can help make it easier for them by doing a lot of legwork now.

In your Life & Legacy Plan, you can specify how you want your items sold and outline the process for your loved ones. Here are the steps your family will need to take:

Assess the True Value of Your Items. Start by evaluating the worth of the items to be sold. This may involve hiring an appraiser, especially for valuable items such as antiques, artwork, or jewelry. An appraiser can objectively assess an item’s value, which can help prevent disputes over perceived worth and ensure a fair sale.

Choose the Right Selling Method. Depending on the type and value of your belongings, your loved ones must choose a selling method. A yard sale or estate sale might be appropriate for everyday household items. An auction house, consignment shop, or online marketplace may be the way to go for more valuable items. Your family should also be mindful of any fees or commissions associated with these approaches.

Enlist the Help of an Estate Sale Company. Hiring a professional estate sales company can be a game-changer if your estate contains many items or your family is overwhelmed by the process. These companies handle everything from pricing items to advertising the sale, managing the event, and disposing of unsold items. They typically charge a percentage of the sales, but their expertise can make the process smoother and less stressful.

Understand the Legal Requirements. Depending on your jurisdiction, specific legal requirements for selling estate property may exist. For example, an executor may need court approval to sell certain assets or follow particular procedures for notifying beneficiaries. When you create your Life & Legacy Plan with us, we will be there for your family when you no longer can be, and we can advise them on all the necessary legal requirements.

Plan for the Proceeds. Decide how the sale proceeds will be used and document your wishes in your Life & Legacy Plan. We can help you specify whether they will be distributed among your heirs, used to pay off estate debts, or donated to charity.

Leave a Legacy of Harmony, Not Conflict

Your loved ones deserve to grieve with dignity and respect, not embroiled in bitter disputes. Take the time now to put the proper measures in place, and you can rest assured that your final wishes will be honored and your family will stay out of court and conflict after you’re gone.

This is the legacy you can leave behind – not just the material objects you’ve accumulated over a lifetime, but the gift of harmony, understanding, and compassion for those you hold most dear.

Family disputes over personal property can cause significant pain and tension at a time when loved ones should come together. We help you create a Life & Legacy Plan that ensures your belongings are distributed according to your wishes without conflict or confusion. With careful thought, clear communication, and the right tools, your Life & Legacy Plan will unite your family, even amid grief. And you’ll gain the peace of mind knowing that your wishes will be honored and your loved ones will be supported long after you’re gone.

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