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Our Top 10 Most Common Estate Planning Questions: Part 1

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date January 16, 2025
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Regarding estate planning, I get many questions about many topics. One of the most common questions I hear concerns account ownership and asset management. Understanding how accounts are titled and who has access to them isn’t just about convenience—it’s about ensuring your assets transfer smoothly to your loved ones while protecting them from potential risks.

In this first installment of a two-part series, I’ll answer the most common questions about asset ownership and management. I’ll also outline ways in which you can make things as easy for your family after your death. So, let’s dive in, beginning with a question about joint assets.

Q: What’s the difference between joint ownership and transfer-on-death designation?

A: Joint ownership means both parties have full access to and ownership of a specific account or piece of real estate while they are alive. When one owner dies, the surviving owner automatically receives full ownership. This can be convenient but comes with risks—a joint owner can withdraw all the money at any time, and the account could be vulnerable to either the joint owner’s creditors or legal judgments.

On the other hand, transfer-on-death (TOD) or payable-on-death (POD) beneficiary designations give you sole control during your lifetime. Your designated beneficiary has no access or rights to the account while you’re alive but receives the assets automatically upon death. This arrangement prevents another person from accessing your assets while you’re alive and avoids the court process (called probate) after you die.

One important note: When you have a joint owner on your account or a designated beneficiary, that person will receive all the funds after you die, no matter how old they are or what your family dynamics are. This can create conflict in your family or cause someone fiscally irresponsible to inherit a windfall with no safeguards potentially. Lawsuits are filed all the time by disgruntled siblings who find out that the caretaker sibling receives all the money in a parent’s account (or sole title to real estate) rather than being distributed equally among all siblings. If this concerns you, read on to find out how you can book a call with me to learn about your options.

Q: If I hold my property jointly or use a TOD or POD, do I need to have a Trust?

If you use joint ownership or TOD/POD instead of a Trust, you need to consider some traps for the unwary. First, as indicated above, jointly owned property could be at risk from creditors of either party. I think of my client, the granddaughter, who was titled on grandma’s bank account. When the granddaughter’s husband didn’t pay the bill on the copier contract for his business, the copier company sued and got a judgment against him. Next thing you know, grandma’s account gets garnished because it was held jointly with the granddaughter, and so the granddaughter was liable on the copier judgment.

Suppose you use a TOD or POD to avoid a scenario like that. In that case, the problem is that the TOD/POD only operates in the event of death, not incapacity, and TOD/POD could result in the wrong person ending up getting the assets or the assets ending up in probate if there is an unexpected “order of death” issue. Imagine grandma leaving the house to grandson using TOD, but grandma and grandson are in the car together when there’s an accident, and grandson dies first, with grandma dying shortly thereafter, and before she could change the TOD/POD. Who gets the property, and how? In this case, the property would have to go through probate and pass to grandma’s “next of kin” according to the state intestacy statutes. Given that grandma was leaving her property to her grandson, she likely didn’t want the “state’s plan” for her assets. But that’s what she’ll end up with.

The solution is not to use joint ownership or a TOD/POD to pass title to assets at your death. Instead, set up a trust and retitle the property. Then, everything can be handled easily, privately, and in our office for the people you love.

Q: What happens to retirement accounts and life insurance policies after death?

A: These accounts pass directly to your named beneficiaries, bypassing probate and any instructions in your will, as long as you have named beneficiaries and if you haven’t named a minor as a beneficiary. This is why keeping your beneficiary designations up to date is crucial. If your beneficiary designations are outdated – listing an ex-spouse or deceased person, for example – your assets might not go where you want them to. Even worse, if no beneficiary is listed, these accounts would go through probate, costing your loved ones unnecessary time and money. Suppose you’ve named a minor as a beneficiary. In that case, assets will be subject to a court process to hold the assets under court order until your minor beneficiary is “of age” – usually 18 or 21, depending on state law.

Q: Do I need an inventory of my assets?

A: Yes, and it’s critically important that you create an inventory and keep it current. We include this in all of our planning options because it’s one of the most critical parts of the planning process, even though, surprisingly, it’s not part of most estate planning with traditional lawyers or legal insurance plans. Our unique Life & Legacy Planning^Ⓡprocess includes an asset inventory because if you don’t inventory your assets, your family will not know what you have, how to find it, and how to access it as easily and affordably as possible. Lost assets end up in your state’s treasury as unclaimed property. According to the National Association of Unclaimed Property Administrators, approximately 1 in 7 people in the U.S. – or about 33 million people – have unclaimed property, totaling roughly 77 billion dollars. You need an asset inventory if you want to ensure that your assets go to the people or charities you want rather than to your state government’s unclaimed property fund. And it must stay up to date.

Q: How often should I review my asset inventory and account designations?

A: Your inventory and beneficiary designations need to be kept updated over time to reflect your current circumstances when you die. Your Life & Legacy Plan includes regular, ongoing reviews of your asset inventory so no asset gets lost.

It’s also important to update your asset inventory and account designations whenever you experience a significant life event such as:

Marriage or divorce
Birth or adoption of a child
Death of a beneficiary
Purchase or sale of significant assets
Moving to a new state
Starting a business
Retirement

When you work with me, you won’t have to remember this alone. I’ll proactively remind you to update your inventory and beneficiary designations and help make it as easy as possible for you to take action.

Q: What’s the best way to organize and store my asset information?

A: Create a clear, organized system that your loved ones can easily access if something happens to you. However, be careful about including sensitive information like passwords in your will, as it becomes public record after death. Instead, consider keeping this information in a secure location and telling your trusted family members, executor, or trust administrator how to access it. I will help you explore the best way to do this when we work together.

How We Help You Get Organized and Protected

We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that includes a complete asset inventory, proper account titling, and coordinated beneficiary designations. We’ll help you understand the implications of different ownership structures and guide you in making the best choices for your family’s unique situation. Plus, we’ll help you keep everything updated through regular reviews, ensuring your plan continues to work as intended. You’ll gain peace of mind knowing that your assets will go to the people you want in the way you want.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love.

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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Estate Planning in Times of Change: Part 2

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date January 8, 2025
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In Part 1 of this series, we explored general estate planning considerations in today’s changing landscape, especially those related to taxes, interest rates, and asset protection. Now, let’s focus on protecting families with unique planning needs, including LGBTQIA+ families and those with special-needs children.

In this political transition, comprehensive estate planning becomes crucial for these families, who may face legal rights and protection changes. Recent political developments have heightened concerns about potential changes to LGBTQIA+ rights, healthcare access, and educational protections. While we can’t predict future legal changes, we can create strong safeguards through careful planning—just in case. Let’s dive in to find out how.

Understanding the Stakes for LGBTQ+ Families

Recent political shifts have shown how quickly federal protections can change. The incoming administration has indicated plans to roll back various LGBTQIA+ protections (see here and here), including changes to Title IX interpretations and healthcare access. While marriage equality currently remains protected by federal law, LGBTQIA+ families may want to consider creating multiple layers of legal protection independent of federal policy.

Healthcare decision-making rights are also a concern, and current legal protections are not guaranteed. If there’s a significant shift in law and policy, some healthcare providers may challenge a spouse’s right to make medical decisions. However, creating comprehensive healthcare directives ensures your wishes are honored and your loved ones can advocate for you in critical moments.

Documenting and protecting parental rights becomes especially important for LGBTQIA+ couples with children. Given potential changes to federal education policies and Title IX interpretations, clear legal documentation of parental rights and educational decision-making authority becomes crucial. This includes creating legal frameworks that remain valid even when traveling between states with differing levels of LGBTQIA+ protection.

If you’re concerned about any of these potential changes, I can help. Read on to learn how to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me.

Protecting Healthcare Access and Rights

In addition to concerns about a change in federal policy, recent state-level restrictions on healthcare access highlight the importance of comprehensive planning for medical decisions. It’s time to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan with detailed provisions for healthcare choices and medical advocacy. For families with transgender members, especially, consider documenting current medical providers and creating contingency plans for accessing care if federal or state policies change.

With my Life & Legacy Planning^Ⓡ process, I’ll help you establish comprehensive medical powers of attorney and healthcare directives that clearly state your wishes and designate trusted advocates. These documents become especially important when traveling between states or if federal protections shift. We can also include specific language about gender-affirming care and other medical preferences to ensure your healthcare choices are respected.

Safeguarding Educational Rights and Family Recognition

With potential changes to educational policies and funding, families should consider additional protections for their children’s educational rights. This includes clear documentation of parental authority and educational decision-making powers. Consider creating additional legal frameworks to protect your children’s rights to use their correct names and gender markers in school settings.

If the Department of Education makes significant changes, comprehensive educational planning becomes even more crucial for families with children with special needs. The Department of Education, through the Office of Special Education Programs, provides resources to support students with disabilities through age 21. I can help you find support to document current educational supports and create contingency plans for maintaining services if new federal education policies or funding changes affect special education programs.

Building Comprehensive Legal Protection

Traditional estate planning often falls short of protecting vulnerable families during political change. Your plan should include multiple layers of protection that work together to secure your family’s future regardless of policy shifts, and this simply doesn’t happen when you think about estate planning as a set of documents, which is the traditional model. Instead, you need a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan to protect your family entirely. When you work with me, your Life & Legacy Plan, customized for your unique family dynamics, might include:

Trust structures that provide clear documentation of your intentions and protect your family’s financial security independent of federal recognition of relationships.
Backup plans for accessing essential services and support if federal or state policies change.
Documenting your current rights and protections while they remain in place creates evidence of your family relationships and intentions that can support future legal claims.

We support you in creating your comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that works for you and your family when needed.

The Importance of Regular Reviews and Updates

Regularly reviewing your estate plan becomes essential as political and legal landscapes shift. What works today might need adjustment as circumstances change. My Life & Legacy Planning process includes regular reviews and updates, so your plan stays current with legal developments. This ensures your plan works when needed, rather than sitting on a shelf collecting dust.

Since I know you’re busy, you never have to think about reviewing your plan. We will contact you proactively and regularly to update your plan as laws and policies change.

How We Help You Protect Your Family

The time to act is now. Don’t leave your family’s security to chance. I help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that accounts for your unique circumstances and ensures your family stays protected regardless of legal or policy changes. We’ll help you understand your options and create a plan that truly suits your family’s needs.

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Estate Planning in Times of Change: Part 1

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date January 2, 2025
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With a new presidential administration onboarding, the estate planning landscape is shifting beneath our feet. If you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to create or update your estate plan, there’s no time like the present, which presents opportunities and urgencies that demand attention. With anticipated changes on the horizon and favorable conditions that won’t last forever, understanding your options has never been more critical.

In this two-part series, we’ll explore what we know for certain, what remains unclear, and most importantly – what you can do about it. Next week, we’ll look at strategies for protecting loved ones who may be especially vulnerable in the coming years. But this week, we focus on taxes, interest rates, and asset protection. Let’s dive in.

What We Know About Taxes and Interest Rates

Here’s what we know: The current estate planning environment offers some significant advantages that won’t last forever. The estate tax exemption for 2024 sits at $13.61 million per person ($27.22 million for married couples) – the highest it’s ever been. That number increases in 2025 to $13.99 million per person (or $27.98 million for married couples). You can transfer substantial wealth to your loved ones without triggering federal estate taxes. This creates a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for many families to secure their legacy and protect their assets from future estate tax exposure.

However, we also know that this generous exemption is scheduled to sunset on December 31, 2025. Without new legislation, the exemption amount will drop significantly – to approximately $7 million – on January 1, 2026. This means that gifting assets out of your estate in 2025 could give you a $7 million opportunity to move assets that otherwise could be subject to estate tax rates that have been as high as in the past. When you are considering whether to gift assets out of your estate in 2025, remember to consider:

1. Not just the current value of your assets, but what they will grow to over your lifetime;

2. You can gift assets in ways that allow you to maintain aspects of control and even use. Call me and let’s discuss it.

3. The earlier in the year you get started on your considerations, the less expensive your planning will be, and the more likely we can get it done in time, so if you are likely to have an estate over $7 million in value at the time of your death, call me immediately to schedule.

Pausing here momentarily, I want to point out something important: Your estate may be larger than you think. For tax purposes, your estate includes your home’s fair market value (minus the mortgage) and any other real estate you own, life insurance policies, retirement accounts, investment accounts, and other assets. So, while you may have assets that total less than the $13.99 million exemption in 2025, you very well could be affected by the 2026 exemption. If you want to know for sure, I can help. Read on to find out how to book a call with me.

Additionally, 2024 gift tax laws allow you to give up to $17,000 per person annually without triggering any tax consequences. For married couples, you could give up to $34,000 to each child, grandchild, or anyone else to protect assets and pass them to your loved ones without tax liability. This is separate from the lifetime estate tax exemption and represents an additional tool for reducing your taxable estate. In 2025, the gift tax exclusion will increase to $19,000 per person.

Interest rates are another crucial factor. After a period of historic high interest rates intended to curb inflation, rates have finally begun to decline (though at the time of publishing, rates are fluctuating). Lower interest rates could make specific estate planning strategies particularly effective, especially if you want to transfer wealth to future generations. To learn more, book a call with me below.

Now that you’re clear on the current state of taxes, interest rates, and asset protection, let’s shift gears and discuss what’s uncertain.

What Remains Uncertain

We can anticipate changes with the new presidential administration and legislative session, but what those changes are is unclear. Different administrations often have vastly different approaches to tax policy, which can significantly impact estate planning strategies.

Here’s what we don’t know:

Whether new legislation will freeze the current exemption and stop the estate tax exemption from dropping in 2026
How long interest rates will continue to decline
What changes might come to the gift tax exclusion and other wealth transfer tools
Whether state-level estate taxes might change in response to federal shifts
How treatment of retirement accounts and inherited IRAs might evolve
Whether new restrictions might be placed on currently available planning strategies

With all this uncertainty, you may feel tempted to sit back and see what happens. However, waiting could mean missing valuable opportunities to protect your family’s financial future. History shows us that when tax laws change, they often do so quickly and with limited opportunities to act before new rules take effect. So, the time to at least have a conversation and start the discussion is now.

Why You Need to Take Action Immediately

Combining what we know and what remains uncertain creates a clear imperative: you should take immediate action. Here’s why:

Current Benefits: Today’s high exemption amounts and declining interest rates create optimal conditions for transferring wealth. By acting now, you can lock in these advantages before they potentially disappear. Many of the strategies available today might be limited or eliminated in the future.

Future Protection: I help you create a properly structured Life & Legacy Plan that can help shield your assets from future tax changes. While we can’t predict what changes will come, we can build flexibility into your Life & Legacy Plan to adapt to various scenarios. This might include using specialized trusts, family-limited partnerships, or other advanced planning tools that can provide long-term benefits regardless of how tax laws change.

Peace of Mind: Beyond tax considerations, creating a Life & Legacy Plan ensures your wishes will be honored and your loved ones protected, regardless of what changes come at the federal or state level. This includes ensuring your healthcare directives are current, your power of attorney designations are appropriate, and your asset protection strategies are robust. I also help you keep your plan updated over time so your plan always works – no matter who’s in office.

Family Security: The actual value of estate planning goes far beyond tax savings. It’s about ensuring your family has the resources and guidance they need when you can no longer provide them. This includes protecting your children’s inheritance, providing for family members with special needs, and ensuring your charitable goals are met.

Speaking of family members with special needs, check back next week. In Part 2 of this series, we’ll explore specific strategies for protecting vulnerable family members and preserving family harmony through times of change. We’ll also discuss planning considerations for LGBTQ+ families, families with children who have special needs, and other situations requiring special attention in today’s environment.

Your Next Steps

I understand that these changes and uncertainties can feel overwhelming. That’s why I offer a Life & Legacy Planning® Session designed to help you understand exactly how these current conditions and upcoming changes might affect your family.

Don’t wait until the last minute to act. While tax considerations are important, the real value of estate planning lies in protecting your family and preserving your legacy.

Take the first step toward securing your family’s future by booking a Life & Legacy Planning Session. Contact us today to get started.

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Lessons from Tony Bennett’s Estate Battle

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date December 23, 2024
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When legendary singer Tony Bennett passed away in July 2023, he left behind an estimated $100 million estate and, unfortunately, a family divide threatening to tarnish his legacy. His daughters Antonia and Johanna Bennett are now suing their brother, Danny, who serves as trustee of their father’s estate, alleging a lack of transparency and potential mismanagement of assets. Let’s explore what went wrong and how you can protect your family from the same fate.

Background

A complex legal battle is unfolding in the New York Supreme Court. Tony Bennett’s daughters Johanna and Antonia have filed suit against their brother Danny, who serves as trustee of their father’s estate. The lawsuit raises alarming questions about the management of Bennett’s assets. While the legendary singer earned over $100 million from live performances in his final 15 years, his daughters were told the estate was valued at less than $7 million.

The dispute centers around Danny’s role as both trustee and former manager. In July 2022, Danny orchestrated the sale of Bennett’s memorabilia, personal property, and name and likeness rights to Iconoclast, a company specializing in legacy works. The daughters allege they were in the dark about which assets were included in this deal and have received only “a modest distribution.” They also claim Danny received $1.2 million in loans from their father in 2020 and lifetime gifts totaling $4.2 million – more than double what Bennett’s other children received.

Making matters worse, when Johanna and Antonia were finally allowed to visit their father’s apartment in 2024, they discovered many of his personal belongings were either missing or declared off-limits due to the Iconoclast sale. They learned that most of their father’s clothing had been donated to charity without their knowledge, despite these items being specifically bequeathed to Bennett’s children in the trust. An auction of Bennett’s belongings was held in April 2024, but his daughters allege they were largely “kept in the dark” about the details and had to rush to identify which items they wanted to keep.

Court filings also state that the trust was established in 1994, but we don’t know if it was ever reviewed and updated. We also cannot know if Mr. Bennett was ever advised about the potential disputes that could arise from naming one of his children as his sole trustee and administrator of the estate.

Why Family May Not Be the Best Choice

Like Mr. Bennett, many people select family members to administer their estate after they die. They trust family members and assume they’ll do the right thing. Or they haven’t been properly advised about the potential consequences of naming a family member as the estate administrator. However, as the Bennett lawsuit teaches, family members aren’t always the right people for the job. Here are several common issues that arise when family members serve as trustees:

Power Imbalance: Having one sibling control their siblings’ inheritance creates an uncomfortable dynamic and breeds distrust.

Dual Roles: Danny’s position as trustee and former manager created a potential conflict of interest. Questions about decisions and motivations often arise when personal and professional roles overlap.

Transparency Issues: The significant discrepancy between known earnings and reported estate value raises red flags about financial transparency – a crucial element of trust administration.

Emotional Complications: Family relationships can cloud judgment and make it difficult to maintain the objectivity required of a trustee.

If you’re concerned about family conflict after you die, consult with a trusted advisor who can educate you about the potential ramifications of your decision and guide you to choose the right person—whether a family member or not. My priority is helping you make the process as easy on your loved ones and giving you peace of mind that you’ve done everything possible to keep your family out of court and conflict.

How to Prevent a Similar Conflict in Your Family

The primary way to prevent conflict in your family after your incapacity or death is to start courageous conversations with your family now. Conflict occurs when people are surprised about choices made by a loved one that are only revealed after it’s too late to gain understanding. Deep grief combined with surprise is a volatile combination. Communicating often and early is the best way to save your loved ones from this fate. If you’ve created your plan with my office and desire me to host a family meeting, reach out, and let’s schedule it. If you have not yet created your plan, let’s start there.

If you do not believe you can get your loved ones on the same page, I sometimes recommend choosing a non-family member or professional as your Successor Trustee. For instance, a professional or corporate trustee can provide the objective oversight needed to maintain family harmony while ensuring proper estate administration. This might have been a better choice for the Bennett family.

However, if you strongly prefer having a family member serve as trustee, you can implement additional safeguards with an effective estate plan. An effective plan may include adding co-trustees or creating independent oversight mechanisms to help ensure transparency and accountability. It might mean appointing a professional advisor to review major decisions or requiring regular external audits of estate administration.

Finally, make sure your chosen trustee has access to proper professional support. Managing an estate requires complex legal and financial knowledge that most family members don’t possess. That’s why my Life & Legacy Planning process has built-in mechanisms to ensure your chosen representatives will always have help from me when needed. However, ongoing support for your family is rarely a part of a typical estate plan.

Essential Elements of an Effective Estate Plan

Creating an estate plan that truly protects your family requires careful consideration. It requires guidance on how to pick the right representative for you and your loved ones. It requires proper documentation of assets, including detailed records of everything from real estate to intellectual property rights. It requires clear distribution guidelines. It also involves transparency to help maintain family trust and prevent disputes from arising.

However, if you create a DIY plan, use a cheap online service, use a financial advisor who offers estate planning services, or work with a traditional estate planning attorney, these elements will likely not be in your plan. Instead, you need a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that will work when you need it to.

When you work with me to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan, I will help you:

Choose the right trustee for your situation;
Create systems for transparent asset management;
Establish clear communication protocols;
Protect family relationships from conflicts;
Document your wishes on video or an audio file so your family understands precisely what you want;
If you have minor children, gain peace of mind knowing that they will never be taken into the care of strangers if something happens to you, and
Review and update your plan regularly to account for family dynamics, assets, and life circumstances changes.

We cannot know whether Mr. Bennett was advised of the potential consequences of naming his son to serve as trustee or whether he was given proper guidance on what he could have done to keep his family out of court and in conflict. But when you work with me to create a Life & Legacy Plan, I’ll support you in creating a plan that leaves a legacy of love and peace, not discord and strife.

How We Help You Create a Plan That Works

We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that protects your assets and preserves family harmony. We’ll help you address potential conflicts before they arise, ensure your wishes are clearly documented, create a framework for managing your assets even if you become incapacitated, and be there for your chosen representatives when you cannot be. We’ll also review your plan with you regularly so your plan works when you and your family need it to.

Don’t leave your family’s future to chance – schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation. Contact us today to get started.

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Shining a Light on Shelley Duvall’s Death and Estate Plan

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date November 19, 2024
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Shelley Duvall, best known for her role as Wendy Torrance in The Shining, passed away recently at the age of 75. While her acting legacy continues to captivate fans, her passing reveals important lessons about estate planning that everyone can learn from.

In case you haven’t read about what’s happened to her estate since she died, Duvall’s death left behind unresolved legal matters, especially concerning her long-term partner, Dan Gilroy. Without a will, Gilroy is now navigating a complex legal process to inherit a portion of Duvall’s estate, valued in the six figures. There are valuable takeaways from this situation for those who aren’t movie stars but want to protect their loved ones and assets. Let’s look at what you can learn from Dan Gilroy and Shelly Duvall’s story to ensure you avoid similar challenges in your life and after your death. Remember, these issues were entirely avoidable with the right planning.

The Importance of a Life & Legacy Plan

The most striking takeaway from Shelley Duvall’s situation is the importance of having an estate plan, particularly a Life & Legacy Plan. This plan, unlike a traditional estate plan, not only outlines the distribution of your assets but also includes your personal values, life lessons, and any other non-financial legacies you wish to leave behind. Without such a plan, your state decides who will inherit your property, and your loved ones must go to court to figure it all out. Anytime you have to go to court, it can be a lengthy, stressful, and expensive process. In addition, someone else who’s a stranger to you and your loved ones (i.e., a judge) makes decisions for you and those you love. So, when you don’t have a Life & Legacy Plan, the distribution of your estate may not align with your wishes. In Duvall’s case, her partner of over 30 years, Dan Gilroy, is left in a position where he has to prove his right to inherit a portion of her assets.

Creating a Life & Legacy Plan ensures that your wishes are fulfilled after you’re gone. Whether you’re married, single, or in a long-term partnership, having a plan that clearly outlines who gets what can save your loved ones from confusion, frustration, and heartache. Contrary to what you may think, it’s especially important for those who don’t have children, as the distribution of assets can become even more complex.

In Duvall’s case, her three brothers may end up with a significant portion of her estate, which may not have been what she wanted. You can prevent these uncertainties by making a will that reflects your true intentions.

Consider Your Unmarried Partner’s Rights

Life & Legacy Planning becomes even more critical for couples like Duvall and Gilroy, who lived together for over 30 years without being legally married. Gilroy is now trying to prove that he and Duvall were, in fact, in a common-law marriage so he can claim a share of her estate.

Common-law marriage, recognized in Texas where they lived (but not in all states), requires specific legal standards to be met. These standards include proving that the couple agreed to be married, lived together as a married couple, and presented themselves as husband and wife to others. Without this proof, Gilroy may receive little to nothing from Duvall’s estate. I can’t imagine this is what Duvall wanted.

If you’re in a long-term relationship but not legally married, you should think carefully about what might happen to your assets when you pass away. When you work with me, I’ll help you make choices that are right for you. Then, together, we’ll create a Life & Legacy Plan that reflects your wishes. If you’re unmarried but have a partner you’d like to inherit your assets, we’ll create a plan that documents your relationship and makes it easier to prove if needed. In Duvall’s case, a Life & Legacy Plan would have simplified the legal process for Gilroy.

Address Mental Health and Capacity in Your Planning

Another issue that may come up in Duvall’s estate battle is her mental health. In the years leading up to her death, there was public speculation about her mental state, including a controversial interview with Dr. Phil in 2016, where she displayed erratic behavior. This may raise questions in court about whether she had the capacity to fully understand legal agreements, such as marriage, or whether Duvall had the legal capacity to make the decisions that might come with estate planning. This could be a reason she didn’t have a plan of her own.

If you or someone you love is struggling with mental health challenges, it’s essential to plan early while mental capacity is clear, and can be documented as part of the planning process. This can prevent future disputes about whether a person can make informed decisions. By working with me and creating a Life & Legacy Plan that reflects your wishes, you can help ensure that your estate is handled according to your desires, regardless of future health issues. Duvall’s case reminds us that waiting too long to address estate planning can lead to complications that leave loved ones vulnerable to long legal battles and uncertainty. The key is to start planning as early as possible to avoid such situations.

Don’t Leave Your Loved Ones in a Bind

Shelley Duvall’s passing highlights several vital lessons you can apply to your own life. Whether you have a large estate or not, it’s crucial to have a plan that protects your assets and provides for the people you care about most. By creating a Life & Legacy Plan, considering the rights of an unmarried partner, and addressing potential mental health issues early, you can make sure your wishes are respected after you’re gone. And the best time to protect your loved ones is now.

We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that ensures your assets are distributed according to your wishes and your loved ones are cared for—whether you’re married, in a long-term relationship, or navigating unique mental health concerns. With your plan in place, you can rest easy knowing that your legacy will be preserved and your family will stay out of court and conflict.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to find out more. Contact us today to get started.

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Debunking 4 Common Estate Planning Myths

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date November 8, 2024
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You might think estate planning is only for the wealthy or too complicated and expensive. These are just a few myths surrounding estate planning that I hear often. In reality, estate planning is critical for everyone, including you, regardless of age or financial status.

Many people don’t understand what estate planning is – even attorneys sometimes don’t understand it. So, I’ll take this opportunity to set the record straight and debunk some common myths, then explore why you need an estate plan and how to get the right one at the right price.

Myth #1: Estate Planning is Only for the Wealthy

One of the most persistent myths about estate planning is that it’s only necessary if you have significant wealth or valuable assets.

Estate planning isn’t about the size of your estate; it’s about making sure that when something happens to you – as it will – the people you love aren’t left with a big mess to deal with.

Consider this: Do you have a bank account? A car? Personal belongings with sentimental value? A life insurance policy? If you answered yes to any of these, you have an estate. But even more importantly, do you have people you care about? Family members who depend on you? Or people you love who will be stuck dealing with your mess if you don’t care for these things while you can. If so, you need an estate plan.

Estate planning is about more than just distributing assets. It’s about making important decisions that will affect your loved ones. For instance:

Who will take care of your minor children if something happens to you? And how will they take care of them?
Who will make medical decisions on your behalf if you’re incapacitated? How will they make those decisions?
Who will manage your digital assets, like email, social media accounts, or cryptocurrency?
Who will make sure your bills get paid?

These questions apply to everyone, regardless of their net worth. By creating an estate plan, you’re not flaunting wealth; you’re taking responsibility for your life and the people you care about. After all, someone will have to deal with these things. It’s unavoidable. You can do it now and make it easy on your loved ones (and have more control over outcomes), or you can procrastinate it or avoid it altogether and leave the people you love with a complicated and expensive mess to clean up if you become incapacitated or after you die.

Myth #2: Estate Planning is Complicated and Expensive

Another common misconception is that estate planning is overly complex and costly. While it’s true that estate planning involves legal documents and careful consideration, it doesn’t have to be overwhelming or break the bank. In fact, we promise to make it as easy as possible for you and within the right budget based on your family dynamics, assets, and needs.

The complexity and cost of your estate plan will depend on your specific situation and goals.

Myth #3: I’m Too Young to Need an Estate Plan

You might think estate planning is something you can put off once you’re older, but this is a dangerous assumption. Life is unpredictable, and having an estate plan in place is crucial regardless of your age.

If you’re a young adult, you might have yet to accumulate much wealth, but you still have important decisions to make. For instance:

Who will manage your social media accounts if something happens to you?
Who will take care of your pets?
What will happen to you if you have a small business or side hustle?
Who will be responsible for paying off your student loans or other debts?

Moreover, estate planning becomes even more critical if you’re a young parent. Your estate plan can designate guardians for your children and set up trusts to manage any assets they might inherit. These provisions are necessary for the court to decide who raises your children, leading to family disputes and potentially placing your children with someone you wouldn’t have chosen.

Even if you’re single with no dependents, an estate plan is critical, maybe even more so, because it’s up to you to determine who will care for you if you cannot care for yourself. You don’t want to leave that to a judge to decide. Your plan will ensure your wishes are respected if you become incapacitated, designate who will make medical decisions for you, and specify how you want your assets distributed. This can prevent conflicts among family members and ensure your hard-earned assets go to the people or causes you care about most.

Remember, estate planning isn’t about planning for your death; it’s about preparing for life and the uncertainties sure to come. It’s about taking control of your future and caring for the people and things you love, no matter your age.

Myth #4: Once I Create an Estate Plan, I’m Done

Another common misconception is that estate planning is a one-time event. In reality, your estate plan should evolve as your life changes. Major life events that might necessitate updates to your estate plan include:

Marriage or divorce
Birth or adoption of children
Death of a beneficiary or executor
Significant changes in your financial situation
Purchase of a home or other major asset
Starting a business
Moving to a different state

Even if you have yet to experience significant life changes, reviewing your estate plan at least every three years is essential. However, we recommend you review your assets and how they are titled annually. Laws change, and what was optimal a few years ago might not be the best strategy.

Regular reviews also give you a chance to reconsider your choices. Keeping your estate plan up-to-date ensures it continues to reflect your wishes and provides the best possible protection for your loved ones. Think of it as a living document that grows and changes with you, rather than a static set of instructions. It’s so important that we include regular reviews at least every three years in all our Life & Legacy Plans, and have systems to keep your plan up to date.

How We Help You Take Action Today

Estate planning is not a luxury for the wealthy, a complex process beyond your reach, or something you can put off until later in life. It’s a fundamental aspect of responsible financial planning that everyone should consider.

Our Life & Legacy Planning process is specifically designed to start with getting you educated and organized, so we can support you in choosing the right plan for you and your loved ones. We’ll outline strategies for your assets, prepare for potential incapacity, and ensure your family is cared for, even if the unexpected happens. Our approach includes regular reviews to keep your plan current with life changes, and we even help capture family memories and traditions. With our guidance, you can rest easy knowing your wishes will be honored, your loved ones cared for, and your property protected.

When you consider the peace of mind and potential savings in time, stress, and money for your loved ones down the line, Life & Legacy Planning is often the best way to save your loved ones time and money while also creating optimal value and use of your resources during your own lifetime. Think of it as insurance for your legacy—a small cost now can save your loved ones significant trouble and expense later.

Take the first step towards peace of mind–schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation and learn how we can help you create your personalized Life & Legacy Plan. Contact us today to get started.

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A Comprehensive Guide to Disaster Preparedness

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date October 31, 2024
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In today’s world, where natural disasters and unforeseen events can disrupt our lives immediately, preparedness is no longer a luxury; it’s a necessity. So, to ensure you and your loved ones are prepared for any emergency situation, I’ve created this comprehensive guide to provide a strong foundation for your financial security and personal well-being. From building an emergency kit to investing wisely and protecting your home, we’ll explore practical steps to ensure you’re ready for any challenge that may come.

First, let’s discover that immediate preparedness can empower you to navigate uncertainties confidently and resiliently.

Immediate Preparedness: Your First Line of Defense

Create a Go-Bag. Your first step in disaster preparedness is to create a “go-bag.” This essential kit should contain items to help you survive for at least three days following a disaster. Pack clothes, toiletries, and any necessary medications. Include non-perishable food and water (or a water filtration device) to sustain you during an emergency. Include copies of important documents such as identification and insurance policies.

You may also include a recent family photo in case someone in your family needs to be identified, as well as a device with pictures of your home and its contents if you need to submit photos for an insurance claim. Having cash in small denominations can also be crucial in an emergency. Lastly, include a flash drive containing digital copies of all your important documents for easy access and portability. We provide this to all of our clients and keep electronic records of your documents as well. Keep your go-bag near your home’s primary exit so you can grab it quickly if you need to evacuate.

Stock Up on Essentials. Beyond your “go-bag,” maintain a 1-3 month supply of non-perishable food at home. This longer-term stock will sustain you through extended emergencies or periods of scarcity. Consider investing in a generator to provide power during outages. Solar power equipment can offer a sustainable energy source during prolonged emergencies. Water filtration devices are also crucial, ensuring you have clean water even if municipal systems fail.

Plan for Extended Independence. Prepare for situations where you might need to live away from home for two weeks to a month. Invest in high-quality camping gear, including robust water filtration systems and efficient cooking equipment. Scout locations in your local community where you could safely hunker down if needed. Familiarize yourself with these areas and plan potential routes to reach them. Some people find investing in a vehicle like a camper van beneficial, equipping it with essential survival gear. This mobile approach to preparedness can provide flexibility in various emergency scenarios.

Financial Preparedness: Building a Strong Foundation

Manage Your Cash Wisely. Smart cash management forms the basis of financial preparedness. Keep between $1,000 and $20,000 in cash at home, stored securely in a safe. Use small bills to facilitate easy exchange in emergencies. Also, maintain 1-12 months of living expenses in a local bank account, but be aware of FDIC limits. The exact amount you keep liquid will depend on your personal situation and how quickly you can generate income, if needed.

Invest in Proper Insurance Coverage. Review your homeowners’ insurance policy carefully to ensure it provides adequate coverage. Your policy should cover entirely replacing your home’s structure and belongings. It should also include “loss-of-use” coverage, which pays for living expenses while your home is being repaired. For comprehensive protection, consider additional policies. Earthquake insurance is crucial in many areas, even those not traditionally associated with seismic activity. Flood insurance, available through the National Flood Insurance Program (NFIP), is essential as flooding can occur almost anywhere. Look into specialized windstorm or hurricane policies if you live in a high-risk area for hurricanes or tornadoes.

Create a Life & Legacy Plan. Work with me to create your Life & Legacy Plan, which is a comprehensive estate plan that accounts for what happens to you if you were to become incapacitated and what happens to your assets and your family after you die. Together, we’ll ensure your assets aren’t lost to the government, your kids are raised the way you want by the people you wish to if something happens to you, and your family doesn’t end up in court and conflict. Read to the end, and I’ll show you how to book a call to learn more.

Invest in Human Capital. Once you’ve covered your basic preparedness needs, focus on the people around you. Support those who help raise your children, recognizing their crucial role in your family’s well-being. Invest in local farmers growing food in your area, strengthening your community’s food security. Invest in artisans who can help you rebuild if needed. Work on healing relationships with family members and building a solid support network. Develop relationships with trusted advisors and supporters who can guide you in various aspects of your life and financial journey. We often overlook investing in human capital in service to financial investments that grow our money, but it’s the humans you will need in an emergency.

Final Considerations

The most valuable items are sometimes challenging to replace, even with cash or insurance proceeds. So, digitize photo albums, home videos, old letters, and family histories. Store digital copies in the cloud for easy access from anywhere.

Finally, regularly review and update your preparedness plans, adjusting them as your circumstances change and as you learn about new potential threats. If you need assistance with this—or even accountability—book a call with me.

By following this comprehensive guide, you’re not just preparing for disasters – you’re embarking on a journey to financial liberation. Remember, wise stewardship involves investing your time, energy, attention, and money (TEAM resources) across all aspects of your life.

How We Help You Prepare For the Unexpected

The journey to comprehensive preparedness starts now. By following the steps outlined in this guide, you’ll be protecting yourself from disasters and building a more resilient and secure future for yourself and your loved ones.

We help you create a Life & Legacy Plan, which outlines your assets and incapacity plans, even if the unexpected happens. We’ll also review your plan with you regularly so it changes as your life changes, and we’ll even help you capture family memories, stories, and traditions so those are never lost – no matter what happens. Once you’ve created your plan, you can rest easy knowing your wishes will be honored, your loved ones cared for, and your property protected.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn more. Contact us today to get started.

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Navigating End-of-Life Care: Lessons from a Daughter’s Tragic Experience

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date October 24, 2024
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In an aging society, you might face difficult end-of-life decisions for your loved ones sooner than expected. And when you do, you’ll realize the journey through end-of-life care is rarely straightforward. A recent and heartbreaking story from Maggie Schneider Huston in Newsweek illustrates this. In this article, I’ll highlight key insights from Maggie’s experience and offer practical advice for your situation.

First, know that an advance directive is a legal document that outlines your wishes for medical care if you cannot decide for yourself. In most states, it also gives authority to a person or people you choose to act on your behalf and ensure your wishes are fulfilled. With that, let’s dive into Maggie’s story. As you read, consider how you might prepare for similar situations in your life or the lives of your aging relatives.

What Happened?

Maggie’s story begins in 2023. Her mom died, and shortly after, Maggie’s father, Terry, revised his will and created an advance directive. He wanted to be entirely prepared for a planned heart surgery he was to have less than three months later.

His advance directive reflected his desires that he’d been clear about – that he did not want to suffer when his life was coming to an end. He did not want machines to keep him alive. He only wanted to be comfortable. Maggie and her siblings understood and supported their father’s wishes. They gave one of his doctors a copy of his advance directive before the surgery. That doctor later admitted that he hadn’t read it. Terry’s other two doctors did not know he had an advance directive.

After Terry’s heart surgery, his health declined rapidly. As he was lying in the hospital bed, his doctors arguing that he could live with the assistance of machines, he told them that’s not what he wanted. He repeatedly asked for hospice care. Despite Terry’s wishes, his doctors would not order hospice care for him.

Maggie and her siblings quickly got involved and read Terry’s advance directive to the doctors. And after repeated requests, the doctors finally relented. He died shortly after. Even though Terry’s wishes were finally honored, it wasn’t without frustration and heartache for Terry and his family.

It’s easy to see why the doctors insisted on keeping Terry alive. Their job, after all, isn’t to facilitate death but to promote life (no doubt the fear of being sued for medical malpractice was a factor, too). So it’s not a leap to think that if Terry didn’t have an advance directive, he would still be alive today, subsisting on the assistance of machines at an extreme cost to the family.

So, as Maggie’s story illustrates, having an advance directive is just the first step. You must also ensure that the advance directive is readily available and that your chosen advocates are prepared to fight for your wishes if necessary. It also helps to have a trusted lawyer by your side.

Advocating for Your Loved Ones

Maggie’s experience with her father shows how important advocacy can be. If you find yourself in Maggie’s situation with a parent or other loved one, here are some strategies you can take to ensure their wishes are honored:

Be prepared to speak up and ask questions. If you need help understanding something, ask for clarification. Don’t be intimidated by medical jargon or embarrassed about asking for explanations.

Ensure that all medical team members have read and understood the advance directive. Don’t assume that because one doctor has seen it, all of them have.

If your loved one’s wishes are ignored, don’t hesitate to escalate the issue to hospital administration or patient advocacy groups. Remember, you’re not just a visitor but an essential part of your loved one’s care team.

Keep a journal or log of all interactions with healthcare providers. Document who you spoke to, what was discussed, and any decisions made. This can be invaluable if there are disagreements or misunderstandings later.

Build relationships with the nursing staff. The nursing staff spends the most time with patients and can be powerful allies in advocating for your loved one’s care.

Consider bringing in outside help if needed. If you feel your loved one’s rights are being violated, this could be a patient advocate, a social worker, or even a lawyer. Read on, and I’ll show you how to get my help and support.

Take care of yourself during this process. Advocating can be exhausting and emotionally draining. Eat well, get enough sleep, and take breaks when needed.

Your role as an advocate can be challenging, but it’s crucial to ensure your loved one’s wishes are respected. You can also prepare for your future so your loved ones have the support they need to advocate for you if the time comes.

How to Help Your Loved Ones Avoid Similar Outcomes

To help your family avoid the challenges faced by Maggie and her siblings, consider the following steps:

Create a comprehensive advance directive and designate a healthcare proxy. This crucial first step involves clearly outlining your wishes for end-of-life care in a thorough Life & Legacy Plan. When you work with me to create your Life & Legacy Plan, I can help you get clear on specific treatments you do or do not want, choose the right people to be your representatives, and ensure they understand and are willing to advocate for your wishes. All these considerations are critically important.

Communicate your wishes openly and distribute your advance directive. Have frank discussions with your family members about your end-of-life preferences. Ensure all relevant family members understand and respect your decisions, proactively addressing concerns or disagreements. Once your wishes are clear, provide copies of your advance directive to your representatives, family members, and primary care physician. I will maintain a copy of your advance directive when you work with me. This wide distribution helps ensure your wishes are known and can be quickly accessed when needed.

Regularly review and update your Life & Legacy Plan. Life circumstances and health conditions can change, potentially affecting end-of-life care preferences. That’s why my Life & Legacy Planning process includes regular reviews of your plan so we can update your plan if needed. This ongoing process of review and update helps ensure that your end-of-life care plans always accurately reflect your current wishes and circumstances and that your plan will work when you and your loved ones need it to.

Finally, remember, end-of-life care isn’t just about how we die – it’s about how we live our final days, weeks, or months. Planning and being prepared to advocate can ensure that this time is as meaningful and comfortable as possible, aligned with your values and wishes. In doing so, you’re providing a final act of love and respect, honoring a life well-lived right up to its very end.

How We Help You Navigate End-of-Life Care

As Maggie’s story clearly illustrates, end-of-life situations can be complex and emotionally challenging. The best time to prepare for these difficult moments is now. We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that ensures your end-of-life wishes are respected, your loved ones are empowered to advocate for you, and your care aligns with your values when needed. Don’t leave your end-of-life care to chance. Let us help you create a plan that works when you and your loved ones need it most.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn more. Contact us today to get started.

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A Power of Attorney May Not Be What You Think

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date October 17, 2024
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If you’ve ever considered planning for your future or helped someone plan for theirs, you’ve probably heard the term “power of attorney.” But do you know what it is? The terms “power” and “attorney” carry weight but may not mean what you think. There are many misconceptions about what a power of attorney is and what authority it gives someone. And no, it doesn’t grant someone a temporary law degree.

I’ll address the misconceptions about powers of attorney so you know what to do if someone appoints you as their power of attorney. Then, armed with this knowledge, you’ll understand your legal responsibilities so you don’t inadvertently make any mistakes or run afoul of the law.

What is a Power of Attorney?

Let’s start with some background info. If a power of attorney doesn’t confer attorney status, then why is it called that?

Generally speaking, a power of attorney is a legal document granting someone else the authority to act on your behalf regarding your financial life. The term “power of attorney” is a bit of a historical holdover. Originally, powers of attorney were primarily used to appoint lawyers to represent individuals in legal matters. However, the concept has expanded over time to include appointing someone to act on your behalf for various purposes.

So, while you don’t need to be an attorney to hold a power of attorney, the term has continued due to its historical origins. Granting power of attorney is a way to indicate that an appointed person has the authority to act as your agent or representative, similar to the way an attorney would act on your behalf.

There are times when it’s necessary to preserve your assets, especially if you reach a point in life when you are unable to manage your own financial, legal, or healthcare matters, whether from old age, a terrible accident, or simply being out of the country for an extended period. In each of these cases, it’s possible that if you don’t have someone acting on your behalf, problems could occur. Your financial institutions could charge extra fees on your accounts, a fraudster could drain them, and you wouldn’t know it happened; taxes could go unpaid, your property could go into foreclosure, or your credit could be ruined. So, to prevent these horrific outcomes, you want someone else to be able to maintain your financial life on your behalf.

Types of Powers of Attorney

We don’t need to get too much in the weeds here (if you want to get in the weeds, though, read to the end, and I’ll show you how to book a call with me); know that there are different types of powers of attorney, each with its specific purpose. Here are some examples:

General Power of Attorney: This grants the agent broad authority to act on your behalf, including managing your finances and signing legal documents, even if you can handle your affairs. It becomes effective as soon as you execute the document. When might you want this? Say you travel for work, and you and your spouse have decided to refinance your mortgage. You may want your spouse to sign the paperwork on your behalf rather than wait until you’re back in town.

Springing Power of Attorney: This also grants authority to someone to manage your financial and legal affairs. You can execute the document whenever you want, but it doesn’t kick in until you can no longer make your own decisions.

Durable Power of Attorney: This type of general power of attorney remains in effect even if you become incapacitated. Think of it as the General and Springing Powers of Attorney combined.

Limited Power of Attorney: This grants the agent authority to handle specific tasks only, such as managing your property or making healthcare decisions.

Healthcare Power of Attorney: This grants your named agent authority to make medical decisions on your behalf.

Even though each of these documents operates differently, they all have one crucial thing in common: the agent’s power ends as soon as you die.

What No One Told You About a Power of Attorney: It Ends With Death

You may mistakenly believe that a power of attorney gives someone the right to access your financial accounts indefinitely. However, a power of attorney is a temporary arrangement that ends when the person who granted the power dies. What does this mean, exactly?

Let’s say your aging mother can no longer manage her affairs, and she executed a Power of Attorney to give you the authority. While she’s living, you can access her bank accounts to ensure all her bills are paid and paid on time. But as soon as she dies, you no longer have the legal authority to access her accounts. If she had a Will or no estate plan, you would have to file paperwork with the probate court and wait for the case to make it through the court system until the judge grants you authority again. In the meantime, if you can’t afford to cover her bills along with your own, you may have to decide to let her bills go unpaid. If she still has a mortgage on her house, for instance, and you can’t pay her mortgage and yours, the bank could begin to foreclose, and you could lose any equity she had. This equity could have been a significant part of your inheritance.

Going to court can be frustrating and time-consuming, and negative consequences can result if you haven’t planned appropriately.

The Good News

With some careful planning ahead of time, you can ensure all your bills get paid, and your assets are preserved for your loved ones. The way to do that is by creating a Life & Legacy Plan with a living trust. A trust is a legal arrangement that allows you to transfer your assets to a trustee, who manages them to benefit your beneficiaries. Notably, a trust survives your death, so there’s no disruption in the ability of someone to manage your finances after you die.

You owe it to yourself and your loved ones to ensure your power of attorney, trust, and related estate planning tools are created correctly and updated over time and that you understand the benefits and consequences of your plan.

How We Help You Preserve What Matters

Understanding the limitations of a power of attorney and the benefits of a trust is crucial for protecting your hard-earned assets. When you work with me to create a Life & Legacy Plan, I’ll empower you with the education you need so you can make the right choices for yourself and your family, that you fully understand how your plan works, and that your family has my support after you’re gone. Once your plan is in place, you can rest easy knowing that your wishes will be honored, your loved ones cared for, and your property protected.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn more and start your journey toward a secure financial future.

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Preventing Family Feuds Over Your Personal Belongings

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date October 11, 2024
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The passing of a loved one is a heartbreaking event, filled with grief and sorrow. However, the aftermath can become even more painful if disagreements over their personal belongings tear your family apart. These disputes, primarily when centered around meaningful objects, can leave lasting wounds that may never fully heal.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. By understanding the emotional weight of possessions, the power of perception and taking proactive steps, you can prevent such heartache and foster a more harmonious grieving process for your family. We’ll explore practical strategies to ensure your final wishes are honored, and your loved ones stay united amidst loss.

Perception Is the Basis for Conflict

Your personal belongings are so much more than just material objects. They are tangible reminders of your life, personality, and connection to the people you hold dear. These items can provide immense comfort and solace for your grieving family when you’re gone. However, the emotional ties to your possessions can also set the stage for conflict.

Your family members may have very different ideas about the value and significance of your possessions and how your possessions should be distributed. Emotional attachments to personal property often run deeper than anyone realizes, reflecting unresolved feelings of love, guilt, or regret. These differences in perspective can create tension and resentment and even damage relationships that have lasted a lifetime.

The Value of Open Communication and Thoughtful Planning

To minimize the risk of family feuds over your personal property, one of the most effective things you can do is have open and honest conversations about expectations and preferences long before you’re gone. Here are some strategies to consider:

Start the Conversation Early. While it may feel awkward to discuss such sensitive topics, it’s far better to address them proactively. This allows for a more thoughtful and deliberate discussion of everyone’s wishes. Ideally, these conversations should occur when all parties are calm and emotionally prepared rather than amid grief.

Record Yourself. Don’t underestimate the value of getting on video. Recording yourself explaining your wishes and why can be very powerful, as well as provide clarity and decrease conflict for your loved ones. When you create your estate plan with my firm, we include a Life & Legacy Interview with every plan so that your decisions and their reasons are clear to your family. When there’s no ambiguity, the possibility of conflict lessens.

Make an Inventory. Make a comprehensive list of all your personal belongings, including their sentimental value and any specific requests or wishes you have associated with them. This inventory can be a crucial reference point for your family members after you’re gone. If possible, involve your loved ones in this process so that they understand your wishes and can ensure your voice is heard.

Create a Life and Legacy Plan. A Life and Legacy Plan can minimize disputes by clearly outlining your wishes regarding distributing your personal property. In addition to the Life & Legacy Interview, every plan includes a “personal property memorandum,” which provides additional clarity, specifying which items should go to which beneficiaries. We even help you update your plan to reflect changing circumstances or preferences and prevent family conflict.

Focus on Your Family’s Needs. Ultimately, the goal of your planning should be to honor your memory and support the well-being of your loved ones. Prioritize the needs of grieving people and try to find solutions that minimize conflict and pain. Sometimes, creating a process where each family member can express their attachment to specific items and why they matter can help others understand their emotional value rather than just their monetary worth.

Helping Your Family Sell Your Belongings with Care and Intention

Sometimes, your loved ones may need to sell your personal property, which may be necessary to settle your estate, pay debts, or ensure that your items are put to good use. Whether or not the items sold hold sentimental value, this can be another task ripe with conflict. Further, many family members don’t know what the process entails. But you can help make it easier for them by doing a lot of legwork now.

In your Life & Legacy Plan, you can specify how you want your items sold and outline the process for your loved ones. Here are the steps your family will need to take:

Assess the True Value of Your Items. Start by evaluating the worth of the items to be sold. This may involve hiring an appraiser, especially for valuable items such as antiques, artwork, or jewelry. An appraiser can objectively assess an item’s value, which can help prevent disputes over perceived worth and ensure a fair sale.

Choose the Right Selling Method. Depending on the type and value of your belongings, your loved ones must choose a selling method. A yard sale or estate sale might be appropriate for everyday household items. An auction house, consignment shop, or online marketplace may be the way to go for more valuable items. Your family should also be mindful of any fees or commissions associated with these approaches.

Enlist the Help of an Estate Sale Company. Hiring a professional estate sales company can be a game-changer if your estate contains many items or your family is overwhelmed by the process. These companies handle everything from pricing items to advertising the sale, managing the event, and disposing of unsold items. They typically charge a percentage of the sales, but their expertise can make the process smoother and less stressful.

Understand the Legal Requirements. Depending on your jurisdiction, specific legal requirements for selling estate property may exist. For example, an executor may need court approval to sell certain assets or follow particular procedures for notifying beneficiaries. When you create your Life & Legacy Plan with us, we will be there for your family when you no longer can be, and we can advise them on all the necessary legal requirements.

Plan for the Proceeds. Decide how the sale proceeds will be used and document your wishes in your Life & Legacy Plan. We can help you specify whether they will be distributed among your heirs, used to pay off estate debts, or donated to charity.

Leave a Legacy of Harmony, Not Conflict

Your loved ones deserve to grieve with dignity and respect, not embroiled in bitter disputes. Take the time now to put the proper measures in place, and you can rest assured that your final wishes will be honored and your family will stay out of court and conflict after you’re gone.

This is the legacy you can leave behind – not just the material objects you’ve accumulated over a lifetime, but the gift of harmony, understanding, and compassion for those you hold most dear.

Family disputes over personal property can cause significant pain and tension at a time when loved ones should come together. We help you create a Life & Legacy Plan that ensures your belongings are distributed according to your wishes without conflict or confusion. With careful thought, clear communication, and the right tools, your Life & Legacy Plan will unite your family, even amid grief. And you’ll gain the peace of mind knowing that your wishes will be honored and your loved ones will be supported long after you’re gone.

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