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Missing Assets: Why Estate Planning is More Than Just Documents

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date February 19, 2025
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Did you know your assets could become “unclaimed property” and be turned over to the government? It happens more than you think! State governments across America currently hold a staggering $60 billion in forgotten and abandoned assets. And this isn’t just spare change we’re talking about. These are life insurance policies, forgotten bank accounts, uncashed checks, retirement funds, and other valuable assets that have lost their connection to their rightful owners.

I regularly see the consequences of overlooked assets and inadequate estate planning. Let’s explore how assets are lost and become “unclaimed,” how to prevent your assets from ending up in this $60 billion pool, and, most importantly, how to ensure your hard-earned assets reach your loved ones the way you want.

How Assets Become “Lost”

You might wonder how billions of dollars in assets could go missing. The truth is, it happens more easily than you’d think. Think about this: you become incapacitated or die, and someone in your family (either someone you named legally or someone chosen by a judge) has the job of finding all of your assets. Would they be able to find everything? How easy would it be for you to find everything, and you know what you earned, the accounts you set up, when you worked for that one company that set up a retirement account for you, got that insurance policy, etc.

What we see commonly when someone passes away without an updated estate plan (including a comprehensive asset inventory), is that their loved ones often have no idea what assets exist or where to find them. Those assets could eventually end up in state custody instead of going to the people you love. That money could be used to fund your children’s education, an investment in a loved one’s business, or to enhance the lives of the people you love most.

“Traditional” or “old school” estate planning often contributes to the problem. With an estate plan drafted by a financial advisor or lawyer who sells a will or trust rather than a comprehensive plan (or from a DIY tool like cheap legal or AI), you typically receive a set of documents to review and sign. You might take these documents home, put them on a shelf or in a drawer, and never look at them again. There’s usually no inventory of your assets, which means that some of your assets could be lost or overlooked and end up part of that $60 billion in unclaimed property.

Why an Asset Inventory and Regular Review is Crucial

I know that effective estate planning isn’t a one-time event – it’s a lifelong process that includes an inventory of what you have, regular updates to your inventory, and the legal documents that go along with it. My process begins with a Life & Legacy Planning® Session, where you’ll create an inventory of your assets, ensuring nothing gets overlooked or forgotten. This inventory includes not just the obvious assets like your home and bank accounts but also:

Life insurance policies
Retirement accounts from all previous employers
Investment accounts
Business interests
Valuable personal property
Intellectual property rights
Digital assets and cryptocurrency

Digital assets present a particular challenge in today’s world. Cryptocurrency, online banking accounts, social media profiles, and digital business assets can be especially difficult for loved ones to track down and access without proper planning. Many people don’t realize that without proper documentation and access instructions, their digital assets could become effectively lost forever, even if their family and friends know they exist.

I’ll also help you keep your inventory updated when you work with me. I regularly review your Life & Legacy Plan to ensure your asset inventory stays current and properly aligns with your goals, wishes, and values. This comprehensive approach helps prevent your assets from becoming lost so they can go to the people you want in the way you want.

Beyond the Financial Impact

While creating an asset inventory is crucial, my Life & Legacy Planning process goes several steps further. It’s not enough to simply list what you own – you need to ensure these assets are properly titled, beneficiary designations are up to date, and your loved ones know how to access everything when the time comes. I support you with it all. I will also be there for your loved ones when you no longer can.

In addition, there’s another crucial part of planning that’s often omitted from traditional or DIY planning. It’s the realization that the value of many assets isn’t financial. Family photographs stored in the cloud, emails containing important family history, and digital collections of music or art can have tremendous sentimental value. Yet without proper planning, these too can become effectively “unclaimed property” – inaccessible to the very people meant to inherit them. When these invaluable family legacies are lost, they become another kind of unclaimed property, though their value can’t be measured in dollars.

Remember, proper estate planning isn’t just about having the correct documents – it’s about taking all the steps needed to make things as easy as possible for your loved ones. It’s the greatest act of love you can give to the people you cherish most.

Your Next Step

I can help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that includes a complete asset inventory, regular reviews, and updates to ensure nothing gets lost or forgotten. I’ll also help you create a Life & Legacy Interview so your most valuable assets – your values, traditions, and love – get passed on to the people you love most. Let’s work together to protect your legacy.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation and learn more about how I can help.

This article is a service of August Law, a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning™ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love.

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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4 Estate Planning Myths That Put Your Loved Ones at Risk

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date February 12, 2025
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Surveys conducted in 2024 by Caring.com and Ameriprise Financial revealed a troubling trend: Americans are falling behind on estate planning. The Caring.com survey revealed that only 32% of Americans have a will – a 6% decline from 2023. The Ameriprise survey found that 52% of couples lack estate plans. These statistics highlight a dangerous disconnect between understanding the importance of estate planning and taking action. Let’s examine these misconceptions and their potentially devastating consequences.

Myth 1: “I don’t have enough assets to need an estate plan.”

This dangerously narrow thinking ignores that estate planning isn’t just about financial wealth. It’s about doing the right thing for the people you love so you don’t leave a mess and ensuring your wishes for your care are considered if you cannot decide for yourself due to an accident or illness.

If you haven’t created a Life & Legacy plan (the type of comprehensive planning I offer), your loved ones could face lengthy court proceedings, unnecessary taxes, and difficulty accessing financial accounts, which could have devastating consequences if bills need to be paid.

It’s also about:

Ensuring what you DO have goes to the people you want in the way you wish to (and stays out of the court process);
Your children being raised by people you choose;
Your wishes for your medical care are honored if you become incapacitated or if your mind deteriorates;
Only people you trust can manage your finances if you can’t manage your finances yourself and
Leaving your loved ones with your most valuable assets – your values, insights, stories, experiences, and love.

Moreover, a Life & Legacy plan can minimize conflict among your loved ones. By clearly outlining your intentions and ideally getting my support to share them with them, you significantly reduce the chances of misunderstandings or disputes and increase the chances that your resources will be used to create a better future for the people you love.

Finally, a well-designed estate plan will save your loved ones time and money by ensuring the people who matter know what you have, where it is, how to find it, and what to do with it when they do find it. It will keep them out of court and conflict.

In short, an estate plan is not a luxury reserved for the wealthy; it’s necessary for anyone who has things that matter and people who matter. If that’s you, and you don’t have an estate plan (or your plan could be outdated), let’s talk soon.

Myth 2: “My spouse and I trust each other completely.”

Ameriprise’s survey reveals that 95% of couples trust each other with finances, and 91% share financial values. When couples don’t plan because they trust each other to fulfill their wishes, they overlook several essential matters.

For instance, trust between spouses doesn’t prevent legal complications or avoid court. Without a Life & Legacy plan, a surviving spouse may face lengthy probate proceedings, increased tax burdens, and difficulty accessing accounts. This strain can damage relationships and deplete assets meant for heirs. Even worse, if both spouses die simultaneously, the complications can be significant, especially if the spouses have children from prior marriages or minor children.

Another potential issue arises if the surviving spouse remarries. Without an estate plan, assets could unintentionally be passed to the new spouse instead of the people the deceased spouse loved. In some cases, children may even be accidentally disinherited, leaving them without the financial support their parents had planned to provide.

Myth 3: “Estate planning is too expensive.”

Another common misconception is that estate planning is a luxury reserved for the wealthy because of its perceived high cost. The reality? Avoiding estate planning due to cost concerns can lead to far more significant time and money costs for the people you love down the road. Without a plan, your loved ones may face costly probate proceedings, unnecessary taxes, and legal disputes that can drain your estate and create additional stress for your loved ones during an already difficult time. These costs often far exceed the upfront investment of creating an estate plan.

Beyond the financial aspect, the peace of mind that comes with knowing your loved ones are protected is invaluable. A Life & Legacy plan ensures that your wishes are carried out, your loved ones are cared for, and potential conflicts are minimized. By addressing these matters proactively, you save the people you love from emotional and financial burdens, making Life & Legacy planning one of the wisest and most compassionate investments and the best gifts you can give those you love.

Myth 4: “I don’t need to worry about who would raise my kids.”

Many parents of minor children assume that in the event of their death, loved ones will naturally step forward to care for their children. Unfortunately, these assumptions are often misplaced. Without a Kids Protection Plan^Ⓡ, which I support you to create, the decision about who raises your children will be left to a judge – a complete stranger to you and your children. And when a stranger decides who will raise your kids, it might not be the person you would have wanted. In some cases, the individual granted guardianship could have values, parenting styles, or circumstances entirely incompatible with how you envisioned raising your children. Even if you have named legal guardians for your children in a prior created will, it’s likely not taken into consideration the six common mistakes I see consistently when people (and even their well-meaning lawyers) name legal guardians without the training around planning for the needs of families with minor kids at home. Call my office if you have a minor child and have named legal guardians but want me to review your plan to see if you’ve made any of the six common mistakes.

Another important consideration is the financial burden on your children’s chosen guardian. If you haven’t created a Life & Legacy plan and allocated sufficient funds for your children’s care, even willing loved ones might decline guardianship, leaving the court to make an even more challenging choice.

A Life & Legacy plan alleviates the potential financial burden on your chosen guardians. It ensures your children receive the care and stability they need during an emotionally challenging time.

Take Action Now to Protect the People You Love

I’ve seen too many people suffer negative, yet unnecessary, consequences after a loved one dies. And if you haven’t experienced it yourself, you probably will. But with the proper education, beginning with correcting these dangerous myths about estate planning, I believe we can break the cycle of strife.

I start with education so you are clear on what would happen to your loved ones and your assets if you become incapacitated and when you die. Then, we will work together to create a plan that aligns with your values, goals, loved ones, and most importantly, that works when you need it to.

We call it the Life & Legacy Planning® process. Once you’ve created your Life & Legacy plan, you can rest easy knowing your wishes will be honored, your loved ones cared for, and your property protected.

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Five Essential Steps to Protect Your Loved Ones

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date February 6, 2025
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Do you know that uneasy feeling when you think about what everyone you love would do if (and when) something happens to you? That nagging voice reminding you that you still haven’t created a will or trust or updated the estate plan you do have?

As we enter 2025, it’s time to stop pushing those thoughts aside and take action to protect the people you love most. Many people avoid estate planning because they think it will be complicated, expensive, too time-consuming, or emotionally challenging. But the truth is, not having a plan, or having an out-of-date plan, is far more costly – financially, emotionally, and time-wise – for the people you love.

Let’s take a look at five things you can do right now to create lasting peace of mind.

Step 1: Get Financially Organized

One of the biggest challenges people face after losing a loved one is trying to piece together their financial life. Where are all the accounts? What insurance policies exist? What bills need to be paid? Without proper organization, your family could spend months or even years trying to track everything down. Worse yet, anything they don’t find will be turned over to the State Department of Unclaimed Property, where there are approximately $60 billion in lost assets nationwide.

As important as it is, financial organization isn’t just about making lists – it’s about creating a clear roadmap for the people who will handle your affairs when you cannot. This includes documenting all your accounts, insurance policies, important passwords, and key contacts. When your loved ones need access to this information, it should be readily available, updated, and easy to handle. This is why our Life & Legacy Planning process begins with a financial organization, and then our ongoing Life & Legacy Planning service supports you to maintain your financial organization throughout your life, so it’s handled with as much ease as possible for the people you love when something happens to you.

Step 2: Create a Lasting Message for Your Loved Ones

When someone dies, their loved ones often wish they had one more conversation, one more chance to hear their loved one’s voice or read their words. That’s why recording a Life & Legacy Interview is part of our planning process. It’s truly one of the most meaningful gifts you can give the people you love, and who love you.

This message isn’t just about saying goodbye—it’s about sharing your values, hopes, and life lessons. Consider what you want future generations to know about your life journey.

What wisdom do you want to pass down?

What family stories, or even recipes, should be preserved?

While you may think “generational wealth” is just about money, the truth is that people who can learn from the recorded history of past generations have true generational wealth that’s far more irreplaceable than any dollar ever could be.

Your words will become a treasured part of that legacy, offering comfort and guidance long after you’re gone.

Step 3: Learn About Tax Planning

Many people don’t realize that proper estate planning can help minimize or eliminate taxes their loved ones might otherwise have to pay. Without planning, they could lose a significant portion of their inheritance to estate taxes, income taxes, or capital gains taxes.

Strategic tax planning isn’t about avoiding your obligations – it’s about ensuring more of your hard-earned assets go to the people you love rather than the government. Working with a trusted advisor who understands both estate and tax law can help you identify opportunities to protect your loved ones’ financial future.

Step 4: Plan Your Final Farewell (and Your Last Days)

While it might feel uncomfortable to think about your funeral, planning and paying for it in advance is one of the most loving things you can do for the people you love. When you’re gone, they will be grieving. The last thing they need is to make difficult decisions about your funeral while trying to guess what you would have wanted.

By planning ahead, you ensure your wishes are honored and protect the people you love from emotional overspending during a vulnerable time. You can choose and pay for exactly what you want, locking in today’s prices and relieving your loved ones of this financial burden.

Even more importantly, consider how you want to spend your last years, months, or even days and discuss that with the people who will be responsible for your care now. This could be a conversation we can help facilitate if bringing it up or even thinking about it alone feels too challenging or if you keep putting it off. This courageous conversation is one of the best gifts you can give to the people you love.

Step 5: Create a Comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan

All these elements come together in our comprehensive Life & Legacy Planning® process, which guides you to understand the law and how it will apply to your unique situation, considering your family dynamics and assets, so you can make educated and informed choices to ensure your loved ones stay out of court and out of conflict when something happens to you. This isn’t just about creating legal documents – it’s about creating a plan, maintaining it, and ensuring your loved ones know who to turn to when something happens to you.

Creating a Life & Legacy Plan with me includes clear instructions about who gets what, who’s in charge of what, and most importantly, how to find and access everything when needed. It also includes specific directives about what happens if you become incapacitated. In addition, you’ll have the opportunity to outline your memorial service, and we’ll support you to record a Life & Legacy Interview that your loved ones will cherish for the rest of their lives.

The start of a new year is the perfect time to take these essential steps to protect the people you love. Don’t wait until it’s too late – the greatest gift you can give your loved ones is the gift of preparation and peace of mind.

How We Help You Get Started

We help you put these essential protections in place. Through our Life & Legacy Planning® process, we’ll guide you in creating a lasting message for your loved ones, implementing smart tax strategies, planning your final arrangements, getting your finances organized, and creating a comprehensive plan that ensures the people you love stay out of court and conflict. Most importantly, we’ll help you make informed decisions that align with your values and wishes. So don’t delay! Let us help you do the right thing for your loved ones.

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Utilizing Estate Planning For FAFSA Eligibility

Post author By Kylie Casper
Post date January 29, 2025
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Understanding how financial aid and estate planning intersect can make a significant difference when preparing for college expenses. This article will explain how asset ownership influences aid eligibility, offer actionable strategies to increase the chances of receiving aid and highlight estate planning tools that can protect your wealth while optimizing support for your child’s education.

FAFSA and Asset Ownership: The Basics

The FAFSA, or Free Application for Federal Student Aid, evaluates a student’s financial need based on several factors, including family income and assets. However, not all assets are created equal in the eyes of FAFSA. How those assets are owned—by the parent, the student, or even a third party—can significantly impact financial aid eligibility.

Here’s the key: FAFSA assesses up to 5.64% of parent-owned assets when calculating the Expected Family Contribution (EFC). For student-owned assets, though, that number jumps to a whopping 20%. So, keeping assets out of your student’s name increases their chances of receiving financial aid.

In other words, parent-owned assets are less punitive than student-owned ones. Consider assets like your savings account, investments, or a 529 college savings plan. If you, the parent, own the asset, only 5.64% of its value is considered in the EFC calculation.

But if your child owns assets outright—like in a UGMA or UTMA custodial account— those accounts will be subject to a 20% assessment. For example, if your child has $10,000 in one of these accounts, FAFSA will expect $2,000 to go toward college costs. Ouch.

What can you do? You can’t legally change UGMA/UTMA account ownership because they belong to the child. However, consider using a 529 plan or a parent’s investment account instead for future savings.

Estate Planning Meets FAFSA

Here’s where estate planning comes into play. By structuring your assets wisely, you can minimize their impact on financial aid. Let’s explore a few strategies:

1. Irrevocable Trusts

An irrevocable trust can be a powerful tool in estate planning and remove assets from a person’s estate for tax purposes. However, irrevocable trusts are counted for FAFSA purposes if the student or parent is a beneficiary of an irrevocable trust. Note that the entire value of the trust should not be reported, but the beneficiary’s proportional share must be reported. In addition, if the trust distributes income to the student, that income will be assessed at up to 50%. So, use irrevocable trusts with caution.

2. Retirement Accounts: Hidden Gems

Good news: FAFSA does not count assets in qualified retirement accounts like 401(k)s, IRAs, and Roth IRAs. This makes retirement savings a double win—you’re preparing for your future in a tax-advantaged manner and protecting your child’s financial aid eligibility.

Pro tip: If you have extra savings that would otherwise count on FAFSA, consider contributing to your retirement account. It’s a FAFSA-friendly way to reduce your countable assets.

3. Pay Down Debt

Another savvy move is using liquid assets to pay down debt, such as mortgages or student loans. Since FAFSA doesn’t count your home’s equity or the balance of your debts, this strategy can reduce your reportable assets without hurting your financial position.

4. Timing Is Everything

FAFSA looks at your financial situation as of the day you file the form. That means you can time certain financial moves to optimize your aid eligibility. For instance, if you plan to sell an investment or receive a large bonus, try to do so after filing FAFSA to avoid inflating your assets or income for that year.

Practical Steps to Take Now

So, what can you do right now to prepare? Here are some actionable steps:

Review Your Assets: List all your family’s assets, including who owns them. Pay special attention to student-owned accounts and assets held in trusts.

Shift Savings to FAFSA-Friendly Accounts: If you’re saving for college, prioritize 529 plans owned by you, the parent. Avoid putting large sums into custodial accounts.

Create a Life & Legacy Plan: Work with me to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that may include irrevocable trusts or other strategies to protect your assets and your financial aid eligibility.

Max Out Retirement Contributions: If possible, contribute to your 401(k) or IRA to reduce your countable assets while securing your financial future.

Plan Ahead for Income Events: Be mindful of how bonuses, stock sales, or other income events could affect your FAFSA profile. If possible, defer these until after filing.

The Big Picture

Balancing estate planning and FAFSA eligibility can feel like walking a tightrope. On one hand, you want to preserve your family’s wealth and secure your child’s future. Conversely, you don’t want to leave money on the table regarding financial aid.

Understanding how asset ownership works and taking strategic steps can position your family for success. Whether it’s shifting assets, leveraging trusts, or timing your financial moves, a little planning can go a long way. And when that acceptance letter arrives—along with a generous financial aid package—you’ll be glad you took the time to get it right.

How We Help

We can help you create a comprehensive strategy that optimizes education funding and wealth preservation goals. We’ll work with you to structure your assets effectively and ensure your plan adapts as the law, your assets, or your family dynamics change. Our approach focuses on creating clarity and consistency across all aspects of your financial planning, from education funding to legacy preservation.

Book a call to learn how we can help you create the right plan for your family. Contact us today to get started.

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Our Top 10 Most Common Estate Planning Questions: Part 2

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date January 23, 2025
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When planning for your family’s future, the options can feel overwhelming. Should you get a will? Create a trust? And what happens if you do nothing at all? These aren’t just academic questions – your choices today will impact your loved ones tomorrow. In this second installment of a two-part Q & A series, I’ll break down the key differences between your primary estate planning options and explore practical ways to ensure your family is protected, no matter what the future holds. So, let’s dive in, beginning with a question about the basic estate planning documents.

Q: What is the difference between a will, living trust, and dying intestate? And what does that mean, practically speaking?

A: If you die without an estate plan, you do have a plan – it’s just the plan chosen for you by the state, and you may not like it. Your loved ones probably won’t like it because it means they’ll likely need to deal with a court process called “probate.” When you die without a will, it’s called dying “ intestate,” and it means that your assets are distributed according to state law after a process in which a judge decides who gets what. This could mean your assets would not go to the people you choose in the way you choose, and your family could face a lengthy, expensive, and public court process during an already difficult time.

A will is your basic instruction manual for what happens to your assets after you die, but it still requires your family to go through the probate process. While a will allows you to name guardians for your minor children and specify who gets what, your “executor” or “personal representative” must file the will with the court and potentially wait months or even years before receiving your assets. Plus, everything becomes public record – so anyone can look up what you owned and who got what, leaving the inheritors open to predators.

If you create a trust, your assets can be passed to the people you choose without a court process and completely privately. Think of a trust as a container that holds your assets during your lifetime. Then, upon your incapacity or death, a successor trustee you’ve named can step in to handle your assets, manage your affairs, and pass your assets to your chosen beneficiaries. With a properly funded trust, your beneficiaries could receive their inheritance within weeks or months instead of months or years.

Q: Is probate always required when someone dies?

A: The necessity of probate depends largely on how your assets are titled when you die and the total value of assets in your personal name at the time of your death. Assets solely in your name with no beneficiary designation must go through probate, and a Judge must order the distribution. Some exceptions: jointly owned property automatically passes to the surviving owner, assets with named beneficiaries (like life insurance policies and retirement accounts) go directly to those beneficiaries, and assets held in a properly funded living trust transfer according to the trust’s instructions, without court involvement.

These issues can be complicated and have a huge impact on your loved ones, so it’s important to work with a trusted advisor who can help you understand your goals, and then properly structure your assets to accomplish your goals, especially if you want to keep your family out of court and out of conflict. Keep reading to find out how I can help.

Q: What if I’m uncomfortable talking about death and money?

A: While it’s completely natural to want to avoid thinking about death and avoid talking about money, not planning for the reality of death or a possible incapacity before death can leave your loved ones with an expensive, time-consuming mess to clean up during what will already be an emotionally difficult time. Here’s what you absolutely must know: First, if you become incapacitated or die without a plan, the court will make all the decisions about your care and your assets according to state law, not according to what you would have chosen.

Second, if you have minor children and no estate plan, the court will decide who raises your children and who takes care of the assets you leave behind without your input. Think about that for a moment. A judge is a stranger to you and your kids, yet that’s who will decide your children’s future – who makes decisions about their education, health matters, and financial affairs. And, then, whatever you leave behind and whatever is left after the court process goes to your children when they turn 18 without protection (i.e., they’ll be free to spend it all as quickly as they want). If that concerns you, you need a plan of your own.

Third, your family will likely have to spend significantly more time and money dealing with your affairs if you don’t have a plan than if you had taken the time to create one. The good news is that making a plan doesn’t have to be overwhelming or uncomfortable—working with a trusted advisor who can guide you through the process step by step can bring you peace of mind, knowing you’ve taken care of the people you love.

Q: How can you minimize your family’s stress by handling these matters the simplest way possible?

A: The best way to minimize stress for your family is to create a clear, comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan before anything happens to you. Many people think creating an estate plan will be stressful, but lack of planning causes the most stress for families.

I make the process simple:

First, I help you understand what you own and what would happen to everything you own and everyone you love (including yourself) when something happens to you. Then, I support you to make informed, empowered choices about who should receive your assets, who should carry out your wishes, and how you want it all handled. Finally, I help ensure your plan will work when your family needs it by supporting you to review your plan regularly as your life changes and ensuring we maintain an updated inventory of your assets to ensure none of your assets are lost to the state due to oversight after your death.

Beyond creating the right legal documents, I’ll support you in other ways to make things easier for your loved ones. I’ll help you document specific wishes for personal items with sentimental value and have conversations with your loved ones about your choices so there are no surprises later. We’ll conduct a Life & Legacy Interview so you can pass on your values, insights, and stories – the intangible (and most important) assets that are often lost when someone dies. Most importantly, I will be there for your family when you can’t be there, to guide them through the process and ensure your wishes are carried out properly. This is the power of our Life & Legacy Planning® process.

How We Help You Create Peace of Mind

We understand that thinking about death and money can feel overwhelming. We’ve created a simple, step-by-step process to help you get your affairs in order and protect your family. Our Life & Legacy Planning process goes beyond just creating legal documents – we help you make informed decisions about your family’s future, keep your plan updated as your life changes, and ensure your wishes will be carried out properly when the time comes. Most importantly, we’ll be there for your family when you can’t be, providing the guidance and support they’ll need during a difficult time. You’ll gain peace of mind knowing you’ve done everything possible to make things easier for the people you love.

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Our Top 10 Most Common Estate Planning Questions: Part 1

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date January 16, 2025
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Regarding estate planning, I get many questions about many topics. One of the most common questions I hear concerns account ownership and asset management. Understanding how accounts are titled and who has access to them isn’t just about convenience—it’s about ensuring your assets transfer smoothly to your loved ones while protecting them from potential risks.

In this first installment of a two-part series, I’ll answer the most common questions about asset ownership and management. I’ll also outline ways in which you can make things as easy for your family after your death. So, let’s dive in, beginning with a question about joint assets.

Q: What’s the difference between joint ownership and transfer-on-death designation?

A: Joint ownership means both parties have full access to and ownership of a specific account or piece of real estate while they are alive. When one owner dies, the surviving owner automatically receives full ownership. This can be convenient but comes with risks—a joint owner can withdraw all the money at any time, and the account could be vulnerable to either the joint owner’s creditors or legal judgments.

On the other hand, transfer-on-death (TOD) or payable-on-death (POD) beneficiary designations give you sole control during your lifetime. Your designated beneficiary has no access or rights to the account while you’re alive but receives the assets automatically upon death. This arrangement prevents another person from accessing your assets while you’re alive and avoids the court process (called probate) after you die.

One important note: When you have a joint owner on your account or a designated beneficiary, that person will receive all the funds after you die, no matter how old they are or what your family dynamics are. This can create conflict in your family or cause someone fiscally irresponsible to inherit a windfall with no safeguards potentially. Lawsuits are filed all the time by disgruntled siblings who find out that the caretaker sibling receives all the money in a parent’s account (or sole title to real estate) rather than being distributed equally among all siblings. If this concerns you, read on to find out how you can book a call with me to learn about your options.

Q: If I hold my property jointly or use a TOD or POD, do I need to have a Trust?

If you use joint ownership or TOD/POD instead of a Trust, you need to consider some traps for the unwary. First, as indicated above, jointly owned property could be at risk from creditors of either party. I think of my client, the granddaughter, who was titled on grandma’s bank account. When the granddaughter’s husband didn’t pay the bill on the copier contract for his business, the copier company sued and got a judgment against him. Next thing you know, grandma’s account gets garnished because it was held jointly with the granddaughter, and so the granddaughter was liable on the copier judgment.

Suppose you use a TOD or POD to avoid a scenario like that. In that case, the problem is that the TOD/POD only operates in the event of death, not incapacity, and TOD/POD could result in the wrong person ending up getting the assets or the assets ending up in probate if there is an unexpected “order of death” issue. Imagine grandma leaving the house to grandson using TOD, but grandma and grandson are in the car together when there’s an accident, and grandson dies first, with grandma dying shortly thereafter, and before she could change the TOD/POD. Who gets the property, and how? In this case, the property would have to go through probate and pass to grandma’s “next of kin” according to the state intestacy statutes. Given that grandma was leaving her property to her grandson, she likely didn’t want the “state’s plan” for her assets. But that’s what she’ll end up with.

The solution is not to use joint ownership or a TOD/POD to pass title to assets at your death. Instead, set up a trust and retitle the property. Then, everything can be handled easily, privately, and in our office for the people you love.

Q: What happens to retirement accounts and life insurance policies after death?

A: These accounts pass directly to your named beneficiaries, bypassing probate and any instructions in your will, as long as you have named beneficiaries and if you haven’t named a minor as a beneficiary. This is why keeping your beneficiary designations up to date is crucial. If your beneficiary designations are outdated – listing an ex-spouse or deceased person, for example – your assets might not go where you want them to. Even worse, if no beneficiary is listed, these accounts would go through probate, costing your loved ones unnecessary time and money. Suppose you’ve named a minor as a beneficiary. In that case, assets will be subject to a court process to hold the assets under court order until your minor beneficiary is “of age” – usually 18 or 21, depending on state law.

Q: Do I need an inventory of my assets?

A: Yes, and it’s critically important that you create an inventory and keep it current. We include this in all of our planning options because it’s one of the most critical parts of the planning process, even though, surprisingly, it’s not part of most estate planning with traditional lawyers or legal insurance plans. Our unique Life & Legacy Planning^Ⓡprocess includes an asset inventory because if you don’t inventory your assets, your family will not know what you have, how to find it, and how to access it as easily and affordably as possible. Lost assets end up in your state’s treasury as unclaimed property. According to the National Association of Unclaimed Property Administrators, approximately 1 in 7 people in the U.S. – or about 33 million people – have unclaimed property, totaling roughly 77 billion dollars. You need an asset inventory if you want to ensure that your assets go to the people or charities you want rather than to your state government’s unclaimed property fund. And it must stay up to date.

Q: How often should I review my asset inventory and account designations?

A: Your inventory and beneficiary designations need to be kept updated over time to reflect your current circumstances when you die. Your Life & Legacy Plan includes regular, ongoing reviews of your asset inventory so no asset gets lost.

It’s also important to update your asset inventory and account designations whenever you experience a significant life event such as:

Marriage or divorce
Birth or adoption of a child
Death of a beneficiary
Purchase or sale of significant assets
Moving to a new state
Starting a business
Retirement

When you work with me, you won’t have to remember this alone. I’ll proactively remind you to update your inventory and beneficiary designations and help make it as easy as possible for you to take action.

Q: What’s the best way to organize and store my asset information?

A: Create a clear, organized system that your loved ones can easily access if something happens to you. However, be careful about including sensitive information like passwords in your will, as it becomes public record after death. Instead, consider keeping this information in a secure location and telling your trusted family members, executor, or trust administrator how to access it. I will help you explore the best way to do this when we work together.

How We Help You Get Organized and Protected

We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that includes a complete asset inventory, proper account titling, and coordinated beneficiary designations. We’ll help you understand the implications of different ownership structures and guide you in making the best choices for your family’s unique situation. Plus, we’ll help you keep everything updated through regular reviews, ensuring your plan continues to work as intended. You’ll gain peace of mind knowing that your assets will go to the people you want in the way you want.

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Estate Planning in Times of Change: Part 2

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date January 8, 2025
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In Part 1 of this series, we explored general estate planning considerations in today’s changing landscape, especially those related to taxes, interest rates, and asset protection. Now, let’s focus on protecting families with unique planning needs, including LGBTQIA+ families and those with special-needs children.

In this political transition, comprehensive estate planning becomes crucial for these families, who may face legal rights and protection changes. Recent political developments have heightened concerns about potential changes to LGBTQIA+ rights, healthcare access, and educational protections. While we can’t predict future legal changes, we can create strong safeguards through careful planning—just in case. Let’s dive in to find out how.

Understanding the Stakes for LGBTQ+ Families

Recent political shifts have shown how quickly federal protections can change. The incoming administration has indicated plans to roll back various LGBTQIA+ protections (see here and here), including changes to Title IX interpretations and healthcare access. While marriage equality currently remains protected by federal law, LGBTQIA+ families may want to consider creating multiple layers of legal protection independent of federal policy.

Healthcare decision-making rights are also a concern, and current legal protections are not guaranteed. If there’s a significant shift in law and policy, some healthcare providers may challenge a spouse’s right to make medical decisions. However, creating comprehensive healthcare directives ensures your wishes are honored and your loved ones can advocate for you in critical moments.

Documenting and protecting parental rights becomes especially important for LGBTQIA+ couples with children. Given potential changes to federal education policies and Title IX interpretations, clear legal documentation of parental rights and educational decision-making authority becomes crucial. This includes creating legal frameworks that remain valid even when traveling between states with differing levels of LGBTQIA+ protection.

If you’re concerned about any of these potential changes, I can help. Read on to learn how to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me.

Protecting Healthcare Access and Rights

In addition to concerns about a change in federal policy, recent state-level restrictions on healthcare access highlight the importance of comprehensive planning for medical decisions. It’s time to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan with detailed provisions for healthcare choices and medical advocacy. For families with transgender members, especially, consider documenting current medical providers and creating contingency plans for accessing care if federal or state policies change.

With my Life & Legacy Planning^Ⓡ process, I’ll help you establish comprehensive medical powers of attorney and healthcare directives that clearly state your wishes and designate trusted advocates. These documents become especially important when traveling between states or if federal protections shift. We can also include specific language about gender-affirming care and other medical preferences to ensure your healthcare choices are respected.

Safeguarding Educational Rights and Family Recognition

With potential changes to educational policies and funding, families should consider additional protections for their children’s educational rights. This includes clear documentation of parental authority and educational decision-making powers. Consider creating additional legal frameworks to protect your children’s rights to use their correct names and gender markers in school settings.

If the Department of Education makes significant changes, comprehensive educational planning becomes even more crucial for families with children with special needs. The Department of Education, through the Office of Special Education Programs, provides resources to support students with disabilities through age 21. I can help you find support to document current educational supports and create contingency plans for maintaining services if new federal education policies or funding changes affect special education programs.

Building Comprehensive Legal Protection

Traditional estate planning often falls short of protecting vulnerable families during political change. Your plan should include multiple layers of protection that work together to secure your family’s future regardless of policy shifts, and this simply doesn’t happen when you think about estate planning as a set of documents, which is the traditional model. Instead, you need a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan to protect your family entirely. When you work with me, your Life & Legacy Plan, customized for your unique family dynamics, might include:

Trust structures that provide clear documentation of your intentions and protect your family’s financial security independent of federal recognition of relationships.
Backup plans for accessing essential services and support if federal or state policies change.
Documenting your current rights and protections while they remain in place creates evidence of your family relationships and intentions that can support future legal claims.

We support you in creating your comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that works for you and your family when needed.

The Importance of Regular Reviews and Updates

Regularly reviewing your estate plan becomes essential as political and legal landscapes shift. What works today might need adjustment as circumstances change. My Life & Legacy Planning process includes regular reviews and updates, so your plan stays current with legal developments. This ensures your plan works when needed, rather than sitting on a shelf collecting dust.

Since I know you’re busy, you never have to think about reviewing your plan. We will contact you proactively and regularly to update your plan as laws and policies change.

How We Help You Protect Your Family

The time to act is now. Don’t leave your family’s security to chance. I help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that accounts for your unique circumstances and ensures your family stays protected regardless of legal or policy changes. We’ll help you understand your options and create a plan that truly suits your family’s needs.

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Estate Planning in Times of Change: Part 1

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date January 2, 2025
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With a new presidential administration onboarding, the estate planning landscape is shifting beneath our feet. If you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to create or update your estate plan, there’s no time like the present, which presents opportunities and urgencies that demand attention. With anticipated changes on the horizon and favorable conditions that won’t last forever, understanding your options has never been more critical.

In this two-part series, we’ll explore what we know for certain, what remains unclear, and most importantly – what you can do about it. Next week, we’ll look at strategies for protecting loved ones who may be especially vulnerable in the coming years. But this week, we focus on taxes, interest rates, and asset protection. Let’s dive in.

What We Know About Taxes and Interest Rates

Here’s what we know: The current estate planning environment offers some significant advantages that won’t last forever. The estate tax exemption for 2024 sits at $13.61 million per person ($27.22 million for married couples) – the highest it’s ever been. That number increases in 2025 to $13.99 million per person (or $27.98 million for married couples). You can transfer substantial wealth to your loved ones without triggering federal estate taxes. This creates a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for many families to secure their legacy and protect their assets from future estate tax exposure.

However, we also know that this generous exemption is scheduled to sunset on December 31, 2025. Without new legislation, the exemption amount will drop significantly – to approximately $7 million – on January 1, 2026. This means that gifting assets out of your estate in 2025 could give you a $7 million opportunity to move assets that otherwise could be subject to estate tax rates that have been as high as in the past. When you are considering whether to gift assets out of your estate in 2025, remember to consider:

1. Not just the current value of your assets, but what they will grow to over your lifetime;

2. You can gift assets in ways that allow you to maintain aspects of control and even use. Call me and let’s discuss it.

3. The earlier in the year you get started on your considerations, the less expensive your planning will be, and the more likely we can get it done in time, so if you are likely to have an estate over $7 million in value at the time of your death, call me immediately to schedule.

Pausing here momentarily, I want to point out something important: Your estate may be larger than you think. For tax purposes, your estate includes your home’s fair market value (minus the mortgage) and any other real estate you own, life insurance policies, retirement accounts, investment accounts, and other assets. So, while you may have assets that total less than the $13.99 million exemption in 2025, you very well could be affected by the 2026 exemption. If you want to know for sure, I can help. Read on to find out how to book a call with me.

Additionally, 2024 gift tax laws allow you to give up to $17,000 per person annually without triggering any tax consequences. For married couples, you could give up to $34,000 to each child, grandchild, or anyone else to protect assets and pass them to your loved ones without tax liability. This is separate from the lifetime estate tax exemption and represents an additional tool for reducing your taxable estate. In 2025, the gift tax exclusion will increase to $19,000 per person.

Interest rates are another crucial factor. After a period of historic high interest rates intended to curb inflation, rates have finally begun to decline (though at the time of publishing, rates are fluctuating). Lower interest rates could make specific estate planning strategies particularly effective, especially if you want to transfer wealth to future generations. To learn more, book a call with me below.

Now that you’re clear on the current state of taxes, interest rates, and asset protection, let’s shift gears and discuss what’s uncertain.

What Remains Uncertain

We can anticipate changes with the new presidential administration and legislative session, but what those changes are is unclear. Different administrations often have vastly different approaches to tax policy, which can significantly impact estate planning strategies.

Here’s what we don’t know:

Whether new legislation will freeze the current exemption and stop the estate tax exemption from dropping in 2026
How long interest rates will continue to decline
What changes might come to the gift tax exclusion and other wealth transfer tools
Whether state-level estate taxes might change in response to federal shifts
How treatment of retirement accounts and inherited IRAs might evolve
Whether new restrictions might be placed on currently available planning strategies

With all this uncertainty, you may feel tempted to sit back and see what happens. However, waiting could mean missing valuable opportunities to protect your family’s financial future. History shows us that when tax laws change, they often do so quickly and with limited opportunities to act before new rules take effect. So, the time to at least have a conversation and start the discussion is now.

Why You Need to Take Action Immediately

Combining what we know and what remains uncertain creates a clear imperative: you should take immediate action. Here’s why:

Current Benefits: Today’s high exemption amounts and declining interest rates create optimal conditions for transferring wealth. By acting now, you can lock in these advantages before they potentially disappear. Many of the strategies available today might be limited or eliminated in the future.

Future Protection: I help you create a properly structured Life & Legacy Plan that can help shield your assets from future tax changes. While we can’t predict what changes will come, we can build flexibility into your Life & Legacy Plan to adapt to various scenarios. This might include using specialized trusts, family-limited partnerships, or other advanced planning tools that can provide long-term benefits regardless of how tax laws change.

Peace of Mind: Beyond tax considerations, creating a Life & Legacy Plan ensures your wishes will be honored and your loved ones protected, regardless of what changes come at the federal or state level. This includes ensuring your healthcare directives are current, your power of attorney designations are appropriate, and your asset protection strategies are robust. I also help you keep your plan updated over time so your plan always works – no matter who’s in office.

Family Security: The actual value of estate planning goes far beyond tax savings. It’s about ensuring your family has the resources and guidance they need when you can no longer provide them. This includes protecting your children’s inheritance, providing for family members with special needs, and ensuring your charitable goals are met.

Speaking of family members with special needs, check back next week. In Part 2 of this series, we’ll explore specific strategies for protecting vulnerable family members and preserving family harmony through times of change. We’ll also discuss planning considerations for LGBTQ+ families, families with children who have special needs, and other situations requiring special attention in today’s environment.

Your Next Steps

I understand that these changes and uncertainties can feel overwhelming. That’s why I offer a Life & Legacy Planning® Session designed to help you understand exactly how these current conditions and upcoming changes might affect your family.

Don’t wait until the last minute to act. While tax considerations are important, the real value of estate planning lies in protecting your family and preserving your legacy.

Take the first step toward securing your family’s future by booking a Life & Legacy Planning Session. Contact us today to get started.

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Lessons from Tony Bennett’s Estate Battle

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date December 23, 2024
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When legendary singer Tony Bennett passed away in July 2023, he left behind an estimated $100 million estate and, unfortunately, a family divide threatening to tarnish his legacy. His daughters Antonia and Johanna Bennett are now suing their brother, Danny, who serves as trustee of their father’s estate, alleging a lack of transparency and potential mismanagement of assets. Let’s explore what went wrong and how you can protect your family from the same fate.

Background

A complex legal battle is unfolding in the New York Supreme Court. Tony Bennett’s daughters Johanna and Antonia have filed suit against their brother Danny, who serves as trustee of their father’s estate. The lawsuit raises alarming questions about the management of Bennett’s assets. While the legendary singer earned over $100 million from live performances in his final 15 years, his daughters were told the estate was valued at less than $7 million.

The dispute centers around Danny’s role as both trustee and former manager. In July 2022, Danny orchestrated the sale of Bennett’s memorabilia, personal property, and name and likeness rights to Iconoclast, a company specializing in legacy works. The daughters allege they were in the dark about which assets were included in this deal and have received only “a modest distribution.” They also claim Danny received $1.2 million in loans from their father in 2020 and lifetime gifts totaling $4.2 million – more than double what Bennett’s other children received.

Making matters worse, when Johanna and Antonia were finally allowed to visit their father’s apartment in 2024, they discovered many of his personal belongings were either missing or declared off-limits due to the Iconoclast sale. They learned that most of their father’s clothing had been donated to charity without their knowledge, despite these items being specifically bequeathed to Bennett’s children in the trust. An auction of Bennett’s belongings was held in April 2024, but his daughters allege they were largely “kept in the dark” about the details and had to rush to identify which items they wanted to keep.

Court filings also state that the trust was established in 1994, but we don’t know if it was ever reviewed and updated. We also cannot know if Mr. Bennett was ever advised about the potential disputes that could arise from naming one of his children as his sole trustee and administrator of the estate.

Why Family May Not Be the Best Choice

Like Mr. Bennett, many people select family members to administer their estate after they die. They trust family members and assume they’ll do the right thing. Or they haven’t been properly advised about the potential consequences of naming a family member as the estate administrator. However, as the Bennett lawsuit teaches, family members aren’t always the right people for the job. Here are several common issues that arise when family members serve as trustees:

Power Imbalance: Having one sibling control their siblings’ inheritance creates an uncomfortable dynamic and breeds distrust.

Dual Roles: Danny’s position as trustee and former manager created a potential conflict of interest. Questions about decisions and motivations often arise when personal and professional roles overlap.

Transparency Issues: The significant discrepancy between known earnings and reported estate value raises red flags about financial transparency – a crucial element of trust administration.

Emotional Complications: Family relationships can cloud judgment and make it difficult to maintain the objectivity required of a trustee.

If you’re concerned about family conflict after you die, consult with a trusted advisor who can educate you about the potential ramifications of your decision and guide you to choose the right person—whether a family member or not. My priority is helping you make the process as easy on your loved ones and giving you peace of mind that you’ve done everything possible to keep your family out of court and conflict.

How to Prevent a Similar Conflict in Your Family

The primary way to prevent conflict in your family after your incapacity or death is to start courageous conversations with your family now. Conflict occurs when people are surprised about choices made by a loved one that are only revealed after it’s too late to gain understanding. Deep grief combined with surprise is a volatile combination. Communicating often and early is the best way to save your loved ones from this fate. If you’ve created your plan with my office and desire me to host a family meeting, reach out, and let’s schedule it. If you have not yet created your plan, let’s start there.

If you do not believe you can get your loved ones on the same page, I sometimes recommend choosing a non-family member or professional as your Successor Trustee. For instance, a professional or corporate trustee can provide the objective oversight needed to maintain family harmony while ensuring proper estate administration. This might have been a better choice for the Bennett family.

However, if you strongly prefer having a family member serve as trustee, you can implement additional safeguards with an effective estate plan. An effective plan may include adding co-trustees or creating independent oversight mechanisms to help ensure transparency and accountability. It might mean appointing a professional advisor to review major decisions or requiring regular external audits of estate administration.

Finally, make sure your chosen trustee has access to proper professional support. Managing an estate requires complex legal and financial knowledge that most family members don’t possess. That’s why my Life & Legacy Planning process has built-in mechanisms to ensure your chosen representatives will always have help from me when needed. However, ongoing support for your family is rarely a part of a typical estate plan.

Essential Elements of an Effective Estate Plan

Creating an estate plan that truly protects your family requires careful consideration. It requires guidance on how to pick the right representative for you and your loved ones. It requires proper documentation of assets, including detailed records of everything from real estate to intellectual property rights. It requires clear distribution guidelines. It also involves transparency to help maintain family trust and prevent disputes from arising.

However, if you create a DIY plan, use a cheap online service, use a financial advisor who offers estate planning services, or work with a traditional estate planning attorney, these elements will likely not be in your plan. Instead, you need a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that will work when you need it to.

When you work with me to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan, I will help you:

Choose the right trustee for your situation;
Create systems for transparent asset management;
Establish clear communication protocols;
Protect family relationships from conflicts;
Document your wishes on video or an audio file so your family understands precisely what you want;
If you have minor children, gain peace of mind knowing that they will never be taken into the care of strangers if something happens to you, and
Review and update your plan regularly to account for family dynamics, assets, and life circumstances changes.

We cannot know whether Mr. Bennett was advised of the potential consequences of naming his son to serve as trustee or whether he was given proper guidance on what he could have done to keep his family out of court and in conflict. But when you work with me to create a Life & Legacy Plan, I’ll support you in creating a plan that leaves a legacy of love and peace, not discord and strife.

How We Help You Create a Plan That Works

We help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that protects your assets and preserves family harmony. We’ll help you address potential conflicts before they arise, ensure your wishes are clearly documented, create a framework for managing your assets even if you become incapacitated, and be there for your chosen representatives when you cannot be. We’ll also review your plan with you regularly so your plan works when you and your family need it to.

Don’t leave your family’s future to chance – schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation. Contact us today to get started.

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How To Create a Lasting Family Legacy This Holiday Season

Post author By Sara Thomas
Post date December 20, 2024
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The holidays, a time for family, reflection, and gratitude, present a unique opportunity to build a meaningful and lasting family legacy. While financial inheritance is important, the value you pass down extends far beyond money—your values, insights, stories, and experiences. These intangible treasures shape the essence of your family’s identity and can serve as a guiding light for generations to come.

Unfortunately, many families leave this legacy-building process to chance. However, intentionally capturing and preserving these meaningful aspects requires more effort and focus. As part of our unique planning process, we help families solidify their legacy through a recorded Family Legacy Interview—a priceless gift for their loved ones.

This holiday season, we invite you to embrace the joy of storytelling by asking meaningful questions and recording the answers. This process can deepen family connections, uncover hidden wisdom, and create a legacy that your children and grandchildren will eagerly cherish for years to come.

Start a Family Tradition of Reflection

The best way to preserve your family legacy is to start with meaningful conversations. These discussions allow family members to reflect on their lives, share insights, and recount stories that might otherwise remain untold. We’ve found that asking the right questions is a powerful way to unlock memories and reveal the values that have shaped your loved ones.

To help you get started, we’ve compiled 32 meaningful questions that can serve as a guide during your holiday gatherings. Whether sitting around the dining table, gathered by the fireplace, or enjoying a quiet one-on-one moment, these questions can inspire deep and heartfelt conversations.

Here are some examples to spark meaningful conversations and preserve your family history:

What comes to mind when you think about growing up in your hometown?
What did you love to do as a kid before high school?
What did you love to do in high school?
What do you remember most about your teenage years?
What do you remember most about your mom (grandma)?
What was most important to her?
What do you remember most about your dad (grandpa)?
What was most important to him?
If Grandma and Grandpa had a message to pass along to the grandchildren, what would it be?
How did you meet your spouse? How did you know (s)he was the one?
How did you choose your career? What was your favorite part about it?
What made you successful?
What did you believe about yourself that helped you become successful and deal with hard times?
What times in your life “tested your mettle,” and what did you learn about yourself by dealing (or not dealing) with them?
What three events most shaped your life?
What do you remember about when I was born?
Were you ever scared to be a parent?
What three words would you say represented your approach to parenting and why?
When you think about [sibling], how would you describe him/her?
What message do you have for [sibling] that you want him/her to always keep in mind?

[Do the last two questions above for each sibling in your family]

When you think about [spouse], how would you describe her/him?
What message do you have for [spouse] that you want her/him to always keep in mind?
What three words best describe who you tried to be in life? How would you like to be remembered?
What do you think your children and grandchildren should focus on professionally?
What have you learned about people in life?
What do you think the world needs more of right now?
What do you believe people want the most in life?
What were the three best decisions you ever made?
What are you most proud of?
What were five of the most memorable moments of your life?
What message would you like to share with your family?
What are you most thankful for?

Asking these questions is just the beginning. Recording the answers ensures that future generations can experience shared wisdom and stories. Whether you record these conversations using your smartphone, a video camera, or a written journal, the effort creates a lasting keepsake.

The Power of Recording Your Legacy

Capturing your family’s stories and values in a tangible form makes the experience even more impactful. The recording becomes a treasure for future generations, allowing them to hear the voices, see the faces, and feel the emotions of their ancestors. It’s a gift that transcends time and provides a profound sense of continuity and connection for your family.

As estate planning professionals, we’ve seen how meaningful this process can be. We include a Family Wealth Legacy Interview in every estate plan we create. This interview ensures that your stories and insights are preserved alongside your financial and legal documents, creating a holistic legacy plan.

Beyond Stories: Protecting What Matters Most

While recording your family’s legacy is essential, it’s only one part of safeguarding your family’s future. To ensure your values and assets are protected, creating a comprehensive estate plan—or what we like to call a Life and Legacy Plan-is crucial. This type of plan doesn’t just focus on financial wealth but also captures and protects the intangible aspects of your legacy, ensuring a holistic approach to preserving your family’s heritage.

The holiday season offers a unique opportunity to gather with loved ones and reflect on what truly matters. It’s a time when family stories naturally come to the surface and when the importance of connection feels most profound. Use this season to initiate these meaningful conversations and take the first steps toward preserving your family legacy.

We are here to guide you through the process. From conducting a Family Legacy Interview to creating a comprehensive estate plan, we’ll ensure that your life’s values, lessons, and treasures are thoughtfully preserved and protected. Our expertise and support will make the process smooth and rewarding, allowing you to focus on what truly matters: family and their legacy.

Create Your Legacy Today

Don’t let another holiday season pass by without capturing the priceless wisdom and stories of your loved ones. Use our list of questions as a springboard to discover the hidden gems in your family’s history. And when you’re ready to take the next step, schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session with us. Together, we’ll create a plan to ensure your legacy will be a cherished gift for future generations. Contact us today to get started.

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